In this episode, Candice reveals information to help businesses in the modern era overcome the challenges they are facing. Reminding everyone to be confident in their ability to send love and light to everyone.
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In this episode, Candice discusses how to think about pricing your business, your service, and most of all, your passion, to clientele seeking your help.
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In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Chione Hardy. She is a self-esteem and relationship coach who is a playful, emotionally intelligent, attuned, and confident communicator. We discuss how Chione found her passion and her path toward helping women.
You can find Chione on Instagram @chionehardy or on YouTube at www.youtube.com/chionehardy or visit her website at www.chionehardy.com
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In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Cecilie Stabell, a performance coach and healer. She combines the best western and eastern modalities to help people reach their full potential. She hold certifications in so may areas including nutrition, coaching, reiki, sound healing, breath work, etc. We discuss our Ayahuasca retreat and how it lead us towards our current path in our businesses and lives.
To connect with Cecilie you can find her on Instagram @cecilie.stabell or visit her website www.ceciliestabell.com
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In this episode, I’m joined by KJ Myers, a family friend, who shares his journey through healing after the passing of his uncle last year on April 8, 2022. His uncle Nick passed away by suicide and it led KJ to research and learn more about helping others cope with depression. KJ discusses his research and we both share our memories of Nick. It is a touching and emotional episode. This episode is dedicated to Nicholas Celia (7-7-59 to 4-8-22) ❤️ He is truly missed.
WARNING: Sensitive content shared about mental health, depression, and suicide. Listener discretion is advised.
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This past year has been a rollercoaster for me and there has been a lot of change. Regardless, the challenges have awakened me to my next spiritual upgrade. These come naturally, and if you relate to my story please reach out at www.candicehozza.com/book.
Listen to the new episode wherever you listen to podcasts! 😊
#intuitivebusinesspodcast #intuition #spiritualupgrades
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Tammy Cho is a former registered nurse and psychosomatic therapist turned master healer, coach, mentor, entrepreneur, and CEO. Tammy and I had a great time learning about Face and Body Analysis and the benefits of uncovering the mask that is hiding the truth of who you are. Join Tammy and I as we walk through my own Face Analysis.
To learn more about Tammy and her business you can receive her FREE gift at www.pathtotheheart.com/faceshapeworkshop
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Christina Diehl is a real estate investor, writer, and speaker. In this podcast, Christina and I dive into the reason behind her best selling book MoneyGirl. We discuss how you can attract wealth and obtain financial freedom. Start your New Year off right, with some guidance from my friend Christina Diehl!
Buy MoneyGirl on Amazon or visit www.christinadiehl.com, to connect with Christina visit www.lancasterhomegirl.com.
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In this episode, I have a personal conversation with you—the listener—as I discuss what I think is happening in our world right now. I’m having a Spiritual Upgrade in my life and business, and you might be finding yourself having one as well! Listen as I fill you in on some signs of how you might know it’s happening for you. ✨
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In this episode, I’m joined by Whitney McNeill, a Certified Medium, Intuition Mentor, and host of the Spiritual and Ambitious podcast. She is the creator of her widely popular program, 4 Intuitive Languages® where she helps spiritual and ambitious souls learn how to understand their intuitive messages and communicate with their Spirit Guides for more abundance in their lives and businesses.
During our conversation, we laugh, play, and tell stories about our experiences as intuitive! It’s a SPIRITUAL GEEK OUT! Listen in to learn more about tapping into intuition.
To take Whitney’s 4 Intuitive Languages® Quiz, visit www.messengerofspirit.com/quiz
Find her on Instagram @messengerofspirit
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In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and Social Media Strategist Shannon Giordano. Shannon is full of wisdom with all things related to social media. We dive into it all! When and how do you use hashtags? What type of visuals stand out? How to increase traffic to your pages? All of this and more!
To receive Shannon’s FREE guide to hashtags visit: www.serendipitysocialmedia.com!
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In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Dain Heer. He is a Body Whisper, best-selling author and the co-creator of Access Consciousness. Beginning his journey as a chiropractor, Dr. Dain Heer has been facilitating, exploring, and celebrating the magic of bodies for the last 30 years. Along his journey, he developed his signature energy work called the Energetic Synthesis of Being: A totally different way that invites a new level of awareness and transformation with bodies. Dr. Dain Heer inspires others to reconnect with their intelligent inner system, transform limitations into possibilities, and create a different relationship with bodies that include kindness, caring, and communion.
Together, we discuss how we can find our infinite possibilities in EVERY session that we partake in business. This episode was TRULY magical.
To contact Dr. Dain Heer, or learn more about his work visit: https://drdainheer.com
I highly encourage you to order the NEW AUDIOBOOK for “Body Whispering – A New Way Of Seeing Being & Healing”
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To be a successful entrepreneur or business owner doesn’t mean that you have to be an extrovert! Meet my friend, Jen Jones, a self-proclaimed INTROpreneur. She is the Founder of Connect & Elevate and she helps introvert women entrepreneurs stop the struggle of getting mediocre results in their business, by guiding them through the exact steps to harness their introvert powers so they can learn how to build meaningful connections, elevate their relationships, and align their business with lives they love, all while managing their energy.
To learn more about Jen visit www.connectandelevate.com
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Content warning: Discussion on dementia of elderly parents/family.
This episode is close to my heart. In my family, we have witnessed firsthand the toll dementia can take on a loved one. I’m joined by Wendy Darling, the founder of the Miraculous Living Method. We talk about how dementia has impacted each of our families and what paths to take when you may see someone showing signs of mental deterioration.
If you are interested in learning more about Wendy, visit www.wendydarling.com
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In this episode, meet Kathy Boyer, an animal communicator who brings healing to frustrated families with emotionally challenged rescue animals, creating harmony within the home. Kathy and I talk about helping pets through energy healing. She shares stories of some of her most memorable moments of healing.
To get in touch with Kathy, visit her website at www.thepetconnector.com
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In this episode, I’m joined by Donna Ashton, host of the Work Less Make More Podcast and Online Course Creator Guru! She has the knowledge and expertise to help you create and sell your online course. We discuss tons of tips about building the right course for your mission and how to make sure it is marketed for your target audience!
To learn more about Donna and how she can help you visit: www.donnaashton.com
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In this episode, I’m joined by Mai-kee Tsang, my friend and founder of the Sustainable Visibility Movement. We dive into what Sustainable Visibility means for heart-centered, mission-driven, women-identifying entrepreneurs. Mai-kee discusses their new Sustainable Visibility Incubator program, which has applications open until November 1, 2021.
To learn more about The Sustainable Visibility Incubator, visit www.maikeetsang.com/apply.
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In this episode, I’m joined by a very special guest… Sarah McCrum! That’s right… the author of Love Money, Money Loves You. You guessed it! We discussed money! Money is more than just a piece of paper, it is an energy and it has a message… IT LOVES YOU!
Listen to learn about how money loves you and how to be relaxed when it comes to money!
To get a copy of Sarah’s book: https://www.amazon.com.au/Love-Money-Loves-You-Revised-ebook/dp/B07KS17G6W
To take the Energy of Money Scorecard visit: https://moneyscorecard.app/
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In this final episode of the “Meet Team WOO” series, you’re introduced to my friend and Operations Manager, Marybeth Eyler. We discuss all the important aspects of organizing your business, making it run efficiently, and how visionaries need someone like Marybeth to identify the details needed to reach “big picture” goals!
If you are in need of someone like Marybeth, contact her at marybeth@marybetheyler.com or visit her website www.marybetheyler.com!
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Continuing the Meet Team WOO series… I’m joined by my audio/visual guru, Curtis Silverwood. This interview was so much fun and filled with nonstop laughter! Join us as we discuss a wide variety of topics, including why I needed someone like Curtis on my team, how intuition works in men, and more!
If you’re interested in getting in contact with Curtis about any video or audio editing needs email him at: gotovideoeditor@gmail.com
To watch and subscribe to his Educational Earth Science YouTube channel visit: www.youtube.com/mrweathersworld
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We made it! 75 episodes and counting… To mark this special moment in the Intuitive Business Podcast, I wanted to invite you behind the scenes to meet Team WOO! In this episode, meet Angela Todd! I don’t know where I would be without her help in my business. We breakdown our professional journey and how the business has grown since we began working together. Also, learn when you should think about hiring a team or a virtual company to support your business.
To take the Intuitive Business Superpower Quiz visit www.candicehozza.com/superpower
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This episode is all about finding yourself in the present. We often look into the future, especially in business, but we overlook what’s going on in the now. We need to take a breath — breathe deep — and find a space of nothingness to truly appreciate where we are at in life and in business.
If you are interested in learning more about Quantum Connection schedule a call at www.candicehozza.com/book.
To buy a copy of my new book visit www.candicehozza.com/mybook!
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In this inspirational episode, you’ll become motivated to get out of your head and get into your heart! It’s important to understand your self-worth and know what you want in your business. My guest, Michelle Jacobik, gives great tips and tricks to achieve the wealth you want to earn as an entrepreneur.
To receive Michelle’s free gift, Understanding The Magic of the Metrics, visit https://michellejacobik.kartra.com/page/magic-in-the-numbers
To connect with Michelle follow her on Instagram @MichelleJacobik or visit https://michellejacobik.com/links!
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In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Westcott, a business growth strategist, that can help establish foundational systems to scale your business and relieve the tension of doing it all on your own.
From establishing systems to discussing automation, this episode is jam-packed with juicy information to help build a sustainable platform to grow your business.
To receive Kristen’s free gift and to connect with her, visit www.kristenwestcott.com/candice-hozza–
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I have a secret… book writing isn’t as difficult as you might think it is, with structure and discipline! In this episode, I talk about the process of writing my upcoming book called Align Your Business: How to find your Windows Of Opportunity and claim the Next Level of YOU!
You’ll learn about the successes and challenges I had in my pursuit of writing my book as well as gaining tips on how you can get started on your book! I believe in you and know that the universe is waiting to receive your gift.
To learn more about my book visit: www.worldchangers.media/align-your-business-presale
To get to know Bryna Haynes visit: www.worldchangers.media
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Guess what?! My FIRST book is complete and I’m so excited to share it with the world this September…. but you know what else? As I closed my laptop after finishing my final tasks for the book I didn’t celebrate!
In this episode, I want to emphasize why you need to celebrate your successes! You can’t go from one task to the next without realizing the tremendous work you’ve done to get to the finished product!
Learn some of my Top Reasons to Celebrate YOU and look for my book Align Your Business out September 15, 2021, on Amazon.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Christa Lyons, a nutrition and lifestyle coach. We discuss the journey that midlife women go on when it comes to finding the best foods that align with their life and health needs. Intuition plays a major component in understanding what foods serve you best in your hectic life!
To connect with Christa Lyons or receive her free 5-Day Belly-Trimming Meal Plan visit www.ahealthyoption.com!
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In this episode, I’m joined by Deepshikha Sairam, a Spiritual Business Mentor who helps thriving CEO’s leverage their energetic gifts for supersized results! Both Deepshikha and I discuss how to release blocks holding you back, stop the hustle and grind mode you might be in and slow down and assess your work. When doing this, you realize your self-worth! You’re not just your business, you hold many different hats! Listen to learn more.
To reach Deepshikha visit her website www.socialiquegroupe.com or follow her on Instagram @deepshikhasairam!
You can also check out her blog at: www.socialiquegroupe.com/blog
Join the “Create a Rich Lady Life and Business” Group on Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/createyourrichladylifeandbiz
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In this episode, I’m joined by Mai-kee Tsang, the Founder of the Sustainable Visibility Movement, Podcast Guesting Strategist, and host of The Quiet Rebels Podcast. In celebration of #Pride and being authentically true to yourself, Mai-kee and I discuss being Sustainably Visible and how she has incorporated this mindset in both professional and personal areas in her life. Plus, receive AMAZING tips on how to send pitches for podcast guesting!
If you’re interested in Mai-kee’s, Pitch with Purpose Podcast Guesting Certification Program, visit www.maikeetsang.com/certification.
Are you ready to start sending podcast pitches on your own? Check out the Be Our Podcast Guest FREE resource at www.maikeetsang.com/25experts.
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Ahead of my book launch in September, I wanted to sit down with my dear friend, ghostwriter, and World Changer, Bryna Haynes to discuss all things book-related! In this episode, learn about writing, publishing, and transferring your heart message of your business into a book. I discuss the process I’ve gone through with Bryna in writing my book so you know ALL THE DETAILS!
Listen to learn more, and if you want to connect with Bryna, visit www.worldchangers.media
There you can schedule a quick 20-minute phone call to discuss your World-Changing book idea!
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This episode is a load of fun as I’m joined by one of my best intuitive friends Holly K. Brooks! We dive into how our intuition led to our connection, we speak about mediumship, and how to combat fear.
Fear is a liar! Do not listen to fear to make decisions in your business.
To connect with Holly for a free consultation, give her a call at 717-618-8217 or visit www.intuitivesolutionshk.com
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In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend Simon Lovell. Simon is an Amazon Bestselling author of The Black Ball and creator of the Super High Performance Formula. We discuss staying grounded in business and developing self-discipline.
Did you know that discipline leads to happiness? We address the self saboteur within and learning how to use your intuition to overcome the fear keeping you from your next Window Of Opportunity!
To learn more about Simon and his Super High Performance Formula: All Fired Up 7-Day Quest Challenge, visit www.simonlovell.com/allfiredup
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Learn about Love — the highest vibrational power. In this episode, I’m joined by Dumari St. Angelo, the best selling author of The Gift of Divorce and creator of the H.E.A.R.T.S. Way to Your New Life process.
We talk about how love and intuition go hand-in-hand. Dumari speaks about how everyone can use their spiritual support team A.K.A. their intuition to find emotional understanding in life and business.
You’re the source of love that you seek! Connect with Dumari by visiting www.empowerufromwithin.com
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Your path growing your business is not determined. Free will allows you to manifest the success that you want in your career and life.
In this episode, I discuss the benefits of an Akashic Record Reading and how listening to your Angels and Guides can help you monetize your mission.
Not only that, but using your Intuitive Business Superpower will help lead you in the direction you want to take in your business.
Take the Intuitive Business Superpower quiz at www.candicehozza.com/superpower
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This episode is all about moms! Mothers, Grandmothers, and Mothers-to-be this is for you. Join me as I speak about the energy of a mother’s love! Happy Mother’s Day and enjoy a special Mother’s Day meditation!
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Your relationship with money CAN bring you joy and make you feel empowered. In this episode, I speak with Carolynn Bottino, author of The Land of Plenty, about embracing the energy of money! Money is power and when you believe in the energy of money you can achieve greatness in your business!
After listening, if you’d like to read a FREE chapter of Carolynn’s book, visit: www.moneyempowermentproject.com
If you are interesting in hiring Carolynn as your bookkeeper, visit: www.all-details.com
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In this episode, I teach you how to access your intuition and find your Intuitive Business Superpower with my new quiz! I also discuss how you can feel abundance and ease in your business and open yourself to new Windows Of Opportunity with my Taste of the WOO program.
To take the “What is your Intuitive Business Superpower?” quiz visit: www.candicehozza.com/superpower
To learn more about the Taste of the WOO visit: www.candicehozza.com/taste
If you’re interested in becoming Totally WOO, find more information at: www.candicehozza.com/totallywoo
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In this very exciting episode of the INTUITIVE Business Podcast, I’m joined by Shoshanna French, an intuitive coach, trainer, and consultant. We discussed the difference between our intuitive strengths and channeled a reading for each other using our individual modalities. GOOSEBUMPS were UP!
After listening to the podcast, be sure to check out Shoshanna’s free Intuitive Blueprint Test at www.simplespirit.com. Also, learn What is your Intuitive Business Superpower at www.candicehozza.com/superpower.
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In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend Nicole Lewis-Keeber, a business therapist and mindset coach, Certified in Brené Brown’s The Daring Way and Dare to Lead methodologies. We discuss confronting trauma — more specifically the trauma that the pandemic had on our lives — and how we can move forward in our businesses post-pandemic. Nicole dives into the importance of naming trauma and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
Nicole’s free gift to you is the Trauma and Entrepreneurship Self Assessment, which will help you discover how unresolved trauma or childhood experiences can negatively affect your business. Find the assessment here: www.nicole.lewis-keeber.com/self-assessment
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Those who have read “Eat, Pray, Love” by Liz Gilbert will be enticed by this episode. Join me as I discuss finding spirituality with Halle Eavelyn, who is a Transformational Coach that runs a special tour to Bali, that helps people heal and have their own “Eat, Pray, Love” moments.
Together we laugh over her stories of Bali and sitting on Ketut’s porch. We do a deep dive into the 4 Steps of Manifestation and how to bring in and call in what you really want in this world!
Visit www.halleeavelyn.com to receive the 3 Keys to Slay Your Inner Critic.
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The Future is Female… but the Past is Female, too! We just need to save the evidence. Join me as I dive deep into my Herstory with Angela Todd, an archivist, historian, and activist.
Angela can help you uncover your story and knows the easiest, most fun way to download all you know about your past: oral history! When you combine your voice, your photos, and your documents, you literally “make history” — bringing together new evidence that supports a new story.
To learn more and sign up for Angela’s simple guide to starting your own archive (what to save and what not to save), go to www.AngelaLTodd.com!
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I woke up with Rascal Flatts, “How They Remember You” blaring on the radio. The lyrics sang, “Did you stand or did you fall? Build a bridge or build a wall, Hide your love or give it all, What did you do?” These words resonated with me. We often focus too much on the past when we have to look right in front of us to find our clear vision. Join me as I reflect on this past year during the pandemic and learn how I realigned to a clear vision and stopped focusing on the rearview mirror of my life vehicle.
If you want to discuss more about your clear vision, go to www.candicehozza.com/book to schedule a time to talk!
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Understanding our heart space requires removing our old masks and leaning into the flow of the divine feminine. Monica Rodgers, the creator of The Revelation Project talks about how she took off her old masks and joyfully stepped into her intuitive self.
Receive a FREE gift from Monica on her website: www.jointherevelation.com
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Let me introduce you to my friend Sage Polaris, a Conscious Launch Strategist for the Internet Rich and Famous. In this episode, Sage and I explore the 6th Sense of Copywriting. She shares her expertise with us all and comes bearing gifts! I. Love. Gifts. Especially this one! Three FREE Magical Templates to breathe new life into a dying email list (www.sagepolaris.com/align).
Sage is my “Go to Goddess” when I’m planning a launch in my Intuitive Business. She’s a perfect fit for Conscious Leaders and Visionaries. We had so much fun during this interview! What’s work when you’re having fun?! Pssst… work can be fun! We’ve been known to paint our nails or swing in a hammock during our “work” calls, while still making money and supporting our missions.
Listen to find out Sage’s MAJOR secret to her success with conversion copy and a range of other topics. Did you know that personality types influence decision making? Sage and I talk about how you can have greater success for your next launch!
During the pandemic, running a business can be tough. We talk about how to be a Conscious Leader and how to use sensitive tones and conversation during these tumultuous times.
Be sure to claim your FREE gift at www.sagepolaris.com/align
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In my intuitive business, many people ask me if ever had anything happen to me that I’d consider “scary” and if I have ever talked to ghosts. This Halloween episode is “dedicated” to a scary ghost story but I’m going to leave it up to all of you to let me know if you think the story is a trick or a treat! What do you think?
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Learn how the Akashic Records can help release blocks so you can step into Totally WOO!
For more information about the Totally WOO program visit: www.candicehozza.com/totallywoo
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This episode is about 10+ lessons that I learned about my business from growing a sunflower field. Here are the key takeaways for you!
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In this episode Candy talks about the importance of inner play to help co-create aligned energy in your business and enjoying or “IN JOYING” your life and business more fully. You can join her and she will read you a bedtime story from her childhood collection by Walt Disney’s Bottle Beetle…Sleep tight and don’t let the bedbugs bite.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to The Intuitive Business Podcast.
Candice:
Hey, everybody. How’s it going? I am sitting here on a Monday in my office since about 5:30. Before I head out to dinner, I was thinking I really wanted to connect with all of you, and I have a big smile on my face. So I don’t know why I’m sitting in my office. When I think about me talking with whoever’s listening right now, I connect with you. I really feel like you’re here, and I’m an extrovert a bit. So during this pandemic, I get lonely.
Candice:
So embarrassingly enough, I’m imagining talking across from somebody because that makes me feel happy to think that we’re connected. So pull up a seat. Let’s have a talk. Today I wanted to talk to you about some really cool stuff about getting into flow in your business. But before we go there, I just want to lay out what’s happening in my office today. So I’m kind of proud of myself. I’ve actually been in so much flow. Now I’m getting emotional. God, why do you guys listen to me? I keep crying all the time. But I’m emotional because I’m so happy, and I feel like something has happened, and I’m not exactly sure what it is, but I feel like I’m in super flow. So I pulled out in my heart five things that I thought got me here so that I could share them with you. So back to this office and why I’m really excited.
Candice:
So over the weekend, I wanted to make sure that I got some things in order. I have a pretty heavy play load in my business. I’m doing a summit. So it’s my first summit, my first webinar, which I hate that word. So I’m calling it an experience, and it’s going to be awesome. We really been putting a lot of energy into it. So I wanted to take some time and just to feel grounded and centered in my office. I had some things that needed to be hung up and still have some paperwork. I had some drapes that needed to be hung up. So now my drapes are hung up, and I also brought my vision board out of my bedroom and into my office. So I’m super excited to be looking up at it.
Candice:
Hopefully, I’ll remember when I talk about vision, I want to tell you a few things that I notice are already complete. I started my vision board… I usually try to start it in November so that I could really put a lot of energy into it so that it’s done by January 1st or the evening of the December 31st because that’s just what I feel feels in alignment. The other thing that happened, don’t laugh at me or laugh at me, I’m okay about it, is I believe I’ve told you this story a lot, but I have a spotlight from Oprah Winfrey’s Harpo Studios when they were dissolving The Oprah Winfrey Show, they were taking the show apart. What happened was she was selling tons of stuff, like clothing and shoes, and I wanted to buy a pair of shoes because somebody once said, “When I feel bad, I bought these shoes many years ago from Oprah, and I stand in her shoes and think, ‘What would Oprah do?'”
Candice:
It wasn’t working out for me to get the shoes and I was getting frustrated. So I thought, “I need to look broader.” What I did is I noticed that there was a spotlight from the studio, and it was numbered, which spotlight it was, and it says Harpo Studios on it. It was bought from the eBay auction when they were taking apart her studio. All of a sudden, it hit me, wow. Think about all the people that were in that spotlight. Tom Selleck, Paul McCartney, Tom Cruise, Desmond Tutu, all the famous musicians, singers. So when I look at that spotlight, it’s super special, and it’s something I couldn’t figure out how to hang.
Candice:
So here I had a plant hook, and I said to my husband, “You know what, if we just put a chain on that, it’ll be in perfect position to be theoretically shining on me.” I don’t want, or I don’t have the electric hooked up to it. However, I just wanted the spotlight to be facing my way and not from an egocentric like I want the spotlight on me. It’s more about taking ownership for my vision and my purpose and not being afraid to be in the spotlight.
Candice:
I still remember Oprah Winfrey’s story when she talks about going to Baltimore as the first African-American woman news anchor of Baltimore News, and I don’t know that I’m saying the actual show properly. But it definitely was a news type station, and she got her hair permed, and the woman burnt all of her hair off. So the first groundbreaking woman in history to be African American, and she had no hair. She said to make everything worse, she has a size 16-inch head, and no wig would fit her. So she had to go on her first debut as a news anchor bald.
Candice:
So when I think about vulnerability and putting myself out there, I think about all of what Oprah represented and then all the people that she brought into her life, and then that’s the vision that I hold for my business, and that, I am not embarrassed about. I don’t feel that that’s ego. I feel that’s heart because before I put my head down on that final pillow, which mine’s going to be on a boat going to Kauai, I really want to serve others in a very big way, and so that’s my intention.
Candice:
So as I say this, what else is going on in my office is my dog. Well, my dog’s name is Jules, and I’m referring her as she’s part of my member of team woo. I have a program that we’re moving into. It’s transitioning from Pivot to Profit, to totally woo, opening up those windows of opportunity in our business through intuition and the use of it. So it’s storming out. It’s a very weird rainstorm I want to talk to you about. But my dog Jules, is sitting here panting because she really doesn’t like rain storms. So she’s in here with me. So if you hear heavy breathing, it’s totally not me. It’s my dogs struggling with a little bit of a panic attack through the rainstorm.
Candice:
I have some frankincense on my desk, and I have some [inaudible 00:08:34] oil to put on my nails because I love being able to self-nurture. Right now, I love the fact that I’m painting my own nails. To me, I used to get them done, and I’m self-nurturing my nails. So I’m always putting little oil or something and taking care of me, and that makes me feel really nurtured.
Candice:
So today we’re going to move right into what’s happening with your business and how you can get into flow since I really, really feel in flow. I want you to be in flow for your business too. So let me pull up… I actually wrote some notes today so that I can stay on track to help you all out. So the first thing I wanted to remind you is, by the way, this isn’t ground haul day. I’ve said this so many days,. It’s like, “Ugh.” The alarm goes off, and then believe it or not, I’m going to have to write into the radio station that I wake up to. There for a while, Keith Urban was happening at the same time, and there was a couple other people, and I thought, “This really is ground haul day. I’m going to have to write into the radio station.”
Candice:
Then I realized that we aren’t living in ground haul day. Here’s how I know why, and I want to introduce you to this thought before we go into the… What did I call this? I’m looking for the episode title. The five step process to design a business that helps you to flow. Woo-hoo. So let’s go back to ground haul day and how I know that it’s not. That’s a newsflash pre-signed. So this is newsflash.
Candice:
So newsflash, the sun has moved. It truly has. So in the mornings I do a meditation, and I would sit in this green chair, in the same chair, and the sun would be just beautiful and bright in my face. Then I noticed, “Did the tree get bigger? Because I don’t have as much sun on my face.” I realized that the sun actually changes positions as the summer transitions. I know that it’s probably not a new newsflash to everybody, but it really was to me in my own backyard. Because I haven’t really been anywhere except my house, I’ve really connected with the flow and the rhythm of my own environment. This is the other kind of interesting thing. I sit on my back porch all day long, as much as I possibly can, and I swim every day in the morning. I swim in the evening. So I really spend a lot of time outside.
Candice:
I’ve done this for multiple years, probably over 25 years. One of the things that I notice is there’s a breeze that comes over the top of the fence, and it happens very, very suddenly, very quickly, and it actually… This is the first year it happened. It was such a hot day, and there was this breeze. As soon as I felt it had been 90 degrees-ish and above for, I think almost like 13 days, and I felt this breeze. I thought, “That is so weird because it’s the fall breeze.” I call it Chocolat because in the movie Chocolat, there’s a woman who is a chocolatier, and she just magically appears into just a town. She makes this magical potion of chocolate candy. When she’s done, she feels a breeze, and she and her daughter move on to the next town is how kind of the story goes. Of course, there’s a lot more depth and rhythm in it.
Candice:
But that Chocolat moment, where the air comes, that there’s a breeze that comes over the fence and even on the hottest days, it might sneak in. This year, it was very hot day, and I felt the breeze, and now, here are here. Sunday, it was 76. So while I was like, “I don’t think that that could have been the breeze on a hot day, it actually was.” So the reason I talk about this ebb and flow in our lives is the more that we’re connected with who we are and the environment around us, I really believe it gives us a more bountiful energy of flow.
Candice:
Now, with that being said, let’s get into how to get you into flow. What questions should you be asking yourself? So I’m going to take a drink of water, and you go get your pen and paper because I want you to write these questions down. I forgot to tell you I had water on my desk in a big green cup. It’s insulated. So I just love these cups.
Candice:
Number one, are you ready? The five step process to design a business that helps you to not only get into flow, but stay in the flow is asking better questions. Here’s the number one question that I want you to ask yourself right now. What do you do in your life that makes you truly happy? Got that?
Candice:
Please use the sky as the limit. Don’t say, “Well, I guess when I have to do this at my job, I can tolerate that.” No. Today I just shared with you that when I started talking and even right now, I’m this big ass smile on my face because I’m happy. I’m so happy to be able to deliver this information and to be with you right now. I’m happy. This is simple. It’s not complicated. So make it simple. I didn’t put that on the list, but write that one down too. Just make it simple, and what brings you happiness?
Candice:
Number two, what are you good at that you want to offer the world that seems easy to you? If you think about what I do, I talk to people on the other side. I connect with your Akashic records. Akashic records, what are they? Ding. Did you hear that? I need to figure out where that ding is coming from, by the way. Some my devices, something’s on, and I can’t figure out which one. So it supported me. The ding supported me today. So what are you good at? What I do for me feels so easy and so joyful and brings me so much joy because I see the joy on the other person’s face when they either release a block or get in alignment or get a clear insight or have a deceased family member. On the other side, that’s giving them a message or some people have lost their children, and it brings them such joy. They can’t thank me enough.
Candice:
In that moment, we have a connection forever because with people who maybe lose somebody, when they see me, energetically, they kind of connect with their child or their loved one. So some of my energy to them looks a little bit like the energy of a loved one. So what ends up happening is I’m a new imprint on their memory. So it’s like, “Oh, I want to hold onto this.” Because I don’t get a lot of new memories about my child. But when I talked to her, I get a new memory. So she’s part of that. So believe me, when I tell you that brings such a joy and I honor that connection, I honor that relationship, and I will always honor that relationship. So it brings me joy. That’s not always the easiest part of my work, but it does bring me joy to bring a parent joy.
Candice:
So what is it that you do? Is it your creative writing ability. Is it how you cook food and you want to share that with others? Is it how you organize homes? Is it how you care for animals? Is it a course that it’s very easy for you to talk people through a course that you’ve created, or maybe it’s an invention? What is it that you’re good at that you want to bring into the world?
Candice:
Let’s see what else. Another thing that you might want to look at is the energy behind… Oh, I’m going to change this one. This is number three. What do you want your work week to look like? The first thing that you might want to take out of there is work to play. I’m working on the summit, and I have this wonderful woman that’s helping me with my marketing, my conversion copywriting because goodness sakes alive. I could probably talk in blue string, but putting something on a piece of paper, mm-mm (negative). So I hire who I need in my business. I should have that on the list. So she says to me, “Oh my goodness, we’re going to play today.” All of a sudden, it just makes me feel like I’m playing and that I’m not working. So our play dates have gone very nicely, and she’s helped me so much.
Candice:
So the second thing when you’re asking yourself, what do you want your work week to look like? Instead, you might say, “What does my play week want to look like? So how many hours of your life source? Did you just hear that word? How many hours of your life source are you willing to give up to make this dream or vision of what you want to offer the world and what you’re good at? How many hours are you willing to give of your life source? So let me explain that a little bit.
Candice:
When I first started my business really rapidly, I was very grateful, and I had really good people in place and had a great coach. I’ve talked about, and you’ve met on the podcast, Jeannie Spiro. It’s at jeanniespiro.com. When we started working together, my schedule got full really quickly. I looked at how many hours I could work, and wow, I thought there was so much money. I was like, “Wow. If I do like three clients a day, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, if I help them, then this is what all achieve.” That looks good. After about two years of that and really enjoying my clients and watching them grow, I thought I need to leverage my time because I was starting to run out of hours, and I also started to think the second question. I would get on stage, and I would speak, and, “Oh, I just enjoyed that so much.”
Candice:
Then I would go home, and I would call it my harvest of people that I had met, and then I’d go through my list of harvest, and I usually have about 26 calls or 22 calls or something like that. I’d go through that a couple of weeks. As I was going through that, then I was opting people into different programs that aligned for their purposes. Even saying that, as I am saying that, I just felt my energy go low because it was exhausting and expensive. You travel somewhere. You hate to speak on stage, and you pay for a hotel and food, and if you bring anybody along. So it adds up really quickly, and then I’d sit behind my computer for three months and work that group of people and go through… I can’t even talk about it anymore. I knew something needed to change.
Candice:
So I was sitting at a conference, and I was listening to somebody speak that talked about business and financial alignment. She said, “What you’re doing when you’re accepting money from somebody is you’re accepting that in exchange for your life force.” Oh my gosh. Even now, did you hear that? The screeching nails going down the chalkboard. That’s what it felt like to me. I was like, “Holy crap. No wonder I feel misaligned. But I didn’t really hear that the way I wanted to. Instead, I immediately start trying to, and I’m doing very well at it, creating a plan while the other plan is in place. I did not disassemble it, and I think that’s a really big mistake in life in business is when you see that something’s broken and you just blow it out of the water, and then you don’t think through what’s underneath that just a little bit or feel into it.
Candice:
Sometimes you do have to blow the floor out, and I’ve done that in my life and I’ve seen it. But I think it’s better at times to be strategic when you’re in a business that you’ve grown to be strategic about when and how to blow the bridge. Right? So what I decided to do is create a plan to bridge the gap of where I was, which I was happy there. I was just giving up too much life force to walk over the bridge and then get where I want to be. So I feel really good about my game plan with that, and I’m really close. Probably by October 7th I’ll be at my next level of the business, and I don’t mean a financial increment, although it will be a financial increment that will increase. It will be a different level where I go for more… Did you hear|? That’s my cat, where I go from a more working with a lot of private individuals to working with more groups and less private individuals so that I can help more people right now that are feeling stuck and out of alignment.
Candice:
So when you’re looking at your own energy source, how much are you willing to give up of it and for how many years. When I look at my life logically, I’m 59 years old, I worked 33 years and multiple businesses, mostly primarily at a university, and I was an investor in real estate as well. I had a real estate license. So that was my past life in this lifetime. I have to be careful talking about past lives.
Candice:
So what a nutcase. I’m silly. So I really want you to lean into where you’re at in your life source. I’m 59 years old. I don’t want to give 60 hours a week in my business, and I do want to help people. But I wanted to do it in a way that’s aligned for me. So many people just let themselves, I call it their love cup just have a slow leak. Then when they need something of their own personal love, they look in, and it’s like, “Well, how do I get empty? So make sure that you’re nurturing yourself, even though the silly little act that I do of putting the oil on my nail beds and feeling like I’m nurturing my hands, that feels nurturing to me in a busy day. So I also like to take breaks in my day. That’s how I want my life to look like.
Candice:
There was another gentleman that I knew, a friend of mine, his goal was to make as much money and to live a life that nobody else was living. So he wanted to go highest and best really quickly, and he worked endless hours and was really stressed out, and in 18 months, he achieved over a million dollar business. Then as his story goes, and he’s written many books, and his story is that he crashes and burns really quickly and loses some of that great income because he was misaligned. He got to where he wanted to go. But so much of his life source, his energy source was wrecked in the process, and so now he had to realign with his own wants and needs and life source, and then he obviously already now has the ability to create that million dollar business in a heartbeat if that’s what he still wants and won, right?
Candice:
So that’s how I look at it. He was a 28-year-old man. He gave it his all. So depending on how old you are and how much you want to give, that will give you the answer. Please keep in mind one other thing is that there’s going to be times that we are going to have to work harder in our businesses, as long as we’re doing it and in a line fashion so that we’re not creating a scenario of burnout, where you can’t shut yourself off. You’re working a mile a minute. But then you’re not earning as much. Some of the times I’ve earned the most amount of money is when I took a vacation. Not too long ago, we were in Maui, and all these ideas came through, and it helped me to align to a next level of my business. Ideas were popping and podcasts, and parts of my book were just popping. So sometimes we really need a full and complete recharge. I wouldn’t say sometimes. I would say once a quarter, we should have a full and complete recharge, especially as solo business entrepreneurs.
Candice:
So the next thing is, and I believe it’s number three is, how much money do you want to make? So if a million dollars a year is truly the amount you want to make, let’s reverse it and see what truly aligns with your vision. Then once that happens, figure out the exact number. I think what the cool… I’ve been told this by multiple professionals, and I’ve done it now myself, and it’s interesting. I thought, “I want to make a million dollars a year.” I might still do that. However, I figured if I was making closer to $500,000 year, it would do what I would want for my life and for contributions to charities. So I could give what I wanted to give and do what I wanted to do with my family and make what I wanted to make.
Candice:
Now, here’s why I want you to do this is I just got done interviewing 15 people on my Align Your Business summit that are very high-performing, solo, heart-centered business entrepreneurs. They’re the conscious leaders and the shakers and the money-makers, baby. What I found is they’re not having financial stress issues and here’s why. Because they did their math. They know what they want to make, and they’re hitting their mark. Once you know what you want to make and you establish the highest and best programs to align with your financial income and the life source energy that you want to spend, you’re getting pretty darn close to flow and flow and flow.
Candice:
So I like that feeling. Maybe we should call it glide. Did you ever watch a bird in the sky? I think I talked about this the other week. But I still cannot get over that moment where I was watching a bird in a storm, and it seemed like it was being tossed about a bit, but yet it was a complete control of that storm, meaning it would flop it swings to position itself where it wanted to be, and then it would glide, a couple flops, and it would glide. Every time that bird glided, I got deeper and deeper into this breadth of, “Oh, that feels so good.” That’s how I felt every time the bird glided. So I believe that if we’re not in flow, we’re in definite glide at this point.
Candice:
So I think I already went deeply into the, are you willing to do what it takes to get that life? So I think we talked about that. I have that written on here. But in addition, or I should say in addition to, are you willing to do what it takes to get there, I believe that knowing your top-five values, and maybe this is how I had it aligned for the next one, I believe that’s number four is, what are your top-five values? So mine are number one, mastery, number two, vitality, number three, self-expression, number four, romance and magic, baby, and number five environment.
Candice:
My God, I just made it. I didn’t just make my values up. Looking at my values, and when I created them about a year and a half ago, every time I teach this values clarification, I always put myself through it, and I’m always upgrading my values. But then I don’t touch it for about six months or until I get further into either a program or if I feel I’m starting to feel misaligned, I’ll check out my values. But here’s how this works. Mastery and excellence is my number one.
Candice:
So when I’m offering a program, I really want all my I’s dotted and T’s crossed is highest and best that I can. Vitality. So I took up boxing. Mondays and Wednesdays, my boxing coach comes over so that I can be more aligned in my body, and now that this summer’s here, I can swim in the pool every day. So that vitality, moving energy through my body is really important. Self-expression. This podcast is a form of self-expression for me, as well as the book I’m writing, as well as the work. So you can see, top-three things, I’m aligned with my top-three values, which is my super power, my super jet pack.
Candice:
The next thing is romance and magic. I am such a romantic goofball. I really am. I love those magical moments. Even today, there was something that’s so magical about the rain. I was sitting here in my office, and like I said, my dog, Jules is in here with me. When she gets scared, she starts knocking at the fence down at the bottom of the GATE. Other times, she’s not disruptive at all, but she’s happy to be downstairs, except in a storm because we have another dog downstairs. So it was beautiful and sunny and bright. There’s a white cloud, blue sky, but I’m hearing all this rain. So I go out, and there’s not a cloud in the sky. There’s sort of one over my house, but in front of me, there’s not a cloud in the sky. But I’m standing underneath my awning, and it is dripping in full streams. This isn’t just to like a… rain. It is full stream-on rain.
Candice:
So it was kind of funny and magical, and I ran out to look for the rainbow, and I didn’t see it. But [inaudible 00:34:49] I was on a quest to find magic and the rain in and of itself was just absolutely magical. So that brings us to environment, which I already talked about. It was reorganizing some things in my office so my environment feels aligned. Also, the last six months kind of sakes. My husband and I had traveled almost a year and a half or more nonstop every three months with his business. He was going to the left, and then we’d meet up at the right in wonderful places, Aruba, Maui, then I’d go to Charleston, South Carolina for a business opportunity, then I’d pop over to Rhode Island for another type of thing, and he’d be all across the country.
Candice:
So that led to multiple suitcases sitting in our bedroom and unpacked laundry and clothing, and it’s literally, I have one recent laundry basket that’s organized and ready to be folded and hung up. Other than that, my room is really organized, but my life had not been like that before. I should say, and my life hadn’t been like that before, and now it is. So I just wanted to explain why and how to use your top-five values. Go ahead and take a moment and write your top-five values now.
Candice:
The next one is, and I think that I might actually have six here, but it’s your bonus. Six was the bonus. The next thing is five. What you want your lifestyle to look like. Now, I know you kind of figured this out with the math of home, how much money did you want to make? You kind of figured a little bit of this out, but what would it cost to live in the South of France if that’s where you want to go? How much are homes? Are there taxes? How much is it going to take to get there every time you fly there? But if you’re dreaming of being in France and eating the wonderful seafood and the best wines and having great conversations and hearing beautiful French language in your ears and maybe even speaking in [French 00:37:16] right? Or finding a favorite pastry shop in Paris. That might be your dream.
Candice:
So reverse order the amount that that would take. Do you want to live there? Do you want to visit there? Or do you want to visit places like that once a year, twice a year, every quarter? What is it that you want? You might be a more simple person or not. It doesn’t really matter, but you might enjoy buying an RV and traveling across the country and seeing your clients from place to place and maybe creating a blog like that or writing your book like that or maybe taking two years in an RV or one year in an RV. But I want you to spend a little bit of time with your ideal lifestyle, and what you want it to look like and make sure that you add this into your finances, like what it is that you want to create financially.
Candice:
The last thing that I want to share with you is the power of intention, is setting an intention each and every day, and an overarching intention. So I often say that before my head hits the final resting pillow, I would like to have helped people use their voice since I just stuttered over all that. Actually, part of that is true, to find their truest and highest mission and to align to their highest and truest self. That’s my goal. That’s my intention, which is different than a goal, but an intention.
Candice:
I’m just kind of hearing my own head talk. Maybe it’s my intuition speaking. They said, “Talk about goals since you sort of mentioned that, the difference between an intention and a goal.” So an intention, when I come into this office today, I had an intention to create my podcast. I made a list of about four or five things. I try never to go beyond five things because that’ll just kind of shut me down for me if you’re that person that sitting in there. I love a hundred goals. That’s great, but you’re probably also burning yourself out. If you say, “No, I’m not,” you probably really are. How I know is I’ve been there. How I found out I was burnt out is I was doing research for something in my Pivot to Profit program. I was like, “Yeah, I’m going to talk about something regarding burnout.”
Candice:
I had five out of the five symptoms. I remember I was in Aruba standing on the porch doing a little research. Now, hello, Candy. You’re in Aruba. It’s evening. There was music and a band right underneath me and a glass of wine, and I’m doing research on burnout. That’s when I thought, “You dumb ass. You’re burned out, and you have all the symptoms, and you’re on a really awesome vacation looking at burnout for a podcast,” or whatever I was doing. So setting your power of intention is really important. Goals are very specific. So if you think of the abbreviation for smart, S-M-A-R-T, so specific, so make your goals specific, ting. We have magic tings today. Measurable, action oriented, real, and time driven. I had to write those as I was saying them.
Candice:
So specific would say, I would like to have a $100,000 month. Maybe that would be a statement that you want to make as a goal. So a $100,000 month. Now, make it specific from my Align Your Business program. I’m making this up just so it makes sense. Measurable. Well, I look in a bank account in 30 days, and if I have $100,000 from Align Your Business, then check. I’ve completed that goal. Action oriented. So what steps do I need to take to complete that goal? So if I already have an Align Your Business program, which I do, then do I market it? Do I send out an email to my email list? Do I do a mini launch? Do I do a major launch and a summit. But if I’ve already set a 30-day goal, then I need to keep those action items to fit in to that, or I need to change the amount of time that it’s going to take.
Candice:
They need to be real goals, meaning that they’re achievable. Can I make a million dollars in one month? Quite honestly, my businesses isn’t structured to do that. Do I believe that I can make a million dollars in a month? Absolutely. But for the sake of setting goals and making them real, I would say that that would be a stretch goal. I have heard from these lovely women that I just met, that there should be three things that good, better, and best. So if you can set those three parameters, so say the best if I’m setting a million dollars for that month. So if I don’t make that, what would be a better goal? So maybe I could conceivably achieve a $500,000 month, and what would be a healing could number, but it wouldn’t align with the other 250,000 for that month? That might be an incredible month, right?
Candice:
So that’s how you think about it. That’s how you break it down, and I just wanted to show you that. Then the time driven. I don’t think I went over that because there’s not a chart next to it. So time driven is so I just realized, “Hmm, maybe I shouldn’t do a 30-day goal. I think I’m going to do a six-month goal of a million dollars.” So the next six months, I’m going to make a million dollars. Then what is that broken down in math so that it’s specific. So you just take you take, say… I’m going to do math and talk. This is always going to be fun. Divided by six is… So that would be… Ooh, these are my alignment numbers, 616. So it’s 16,660. Oh, I think I did something wrong. 16666.66. I think that that’s right. Don’t hold me on my math right now. I just want to make the example. But something like that would be smart goals, which are different than setting daily intentions. So let’s see if I got any other good stuff here that I want to see that.
Candice:
Oh, the last thing. Oh, yay. Thank God I write things down. The final thing that I wanted to talk about with the power of intention is also the power of your vision board. I know so many people talk about this, and they’re like, “Oh, it doesn’t work.” Then other people say it does work. Well, I want to go onto my vision board for a moment. Now, I do say I really like… Your dream board is intimate. Your vision board, it’s intimate to you, and it should be kept in a place of your house that’s intimate to you, either your bedroom. That’s where mine was. But I couldn’t see it. Mine’s a really big, of course. I overdo things. I think of it.
Candice:
So when I’m looking at my dream board that I created in or my vision board in November, I would say… One, two, I’m counting, two. Let’s start saying, okay, achieved, achieved, achieved, achieved, achieved, achieved. In the process of. Then I have about seven things that I haven’t achieved yet. But can you see how powerful. I’m looking at that, and it’s just so amazing. When I’m looking at my vision board of all the things that I’ve achieved, it just feels really, really, really good. Now that I brought it into my office, I’m pretty excited about seeing the other parts of my vision board come into play.
Candice:
So I really think it’s important to have a vision board and a power of intention to set goals as well, smart goals. So that all went into the piece of power, of intention. So what does that do for you? Here’s what I believe. We are vibrational energy, and we put our vibration of an intention out to the universe with smart goals, action. That’s when I believe that the magic happens. Then fuel packed, of course, by your top-five goals. I’m sorry, your top-five values. Mine again is mastery and excellence, vitality, self-expression, romance and magic, and environment.
Candice:
So that is where I am at in talking to you about this beautiful, beautiful steps of the five-step process. I think we ended up getting six out of it to design a business that helps you to flow. I wanted to share just one other thing about your five soul values. So I shared before that I’ve had these values elicited from who I am at a soul level, and it’s a process that I take people through, and I can do it in groups, and I think that’s really cool, and I can do it for myself with the same script that I use for the group. But last night, I had a really unique experience because I’m truly living by my top-five goals. I usually don’t do this because it’s not aligned with my timeline. But one of the things that I love to do is fold warm towels.
Candice:
Now, why I like to do that is towels are consistent, meaning if you have a sock, and then you have underwear, and then you have a pair of jeans, and then you have a tee shirt, they’re inconsistent folding patterns, and they don’t lie down on the counter. Well, you have to hang one up, fold one, whatever. So I like folding warm towels. They’re just very friendly, and I decided to really lean into enjoying folding these towels and just taking a little time because I really wanted to relax, and for some reason, this was relaxing to me was folding these towels. So I also happened to upon a pair of scissors that were sitting there. So as I was folding the towels, not only was I perfectly pushing out all the wrinkles, if there was an extra tag or a little snag in the towel, I was cutting them.
Candice:
All of a sudden, I start thinking about the precision of my mother, and our home, which isn’t my home. My home’s neat. My arm, it’s cleaned. It’s fairly organized, and it’s a nice home. But it is not meticulous. But in the moment, I was meticulously folding those towels and enjoying them so much, and I thought to myself when I got done with the stack, and then I reorganized them so that when you looked in the cupboard, it wouldn’t just be like all white towels. It might have a white towel and one black towel and then another white towel, just a sandwich and give you a different visual pattern.
Candice:
So I was super into these towels last night. As I got into them, I really became proud of myself that I was performing in the arena of mastery and excellence. Again, I wouldn’t usually spend my time like this, but it felt really good, and I enjoyed it. So why not? So I have these beautiful stacks of towels that I was super proud about that didn’t have any more strings or tags that didn’t belong. So I said to my husband, “I think I’m having an OCD moment.” What I was looking for him to say, basically was, “Oh honey, you’re okay. You’re not having an OCD moment.” He said, “If OCD were your only issue, we would be okay.”
Candice:
That is basically where I want to leave off today is that when you’re enjoying life and you’re in flow, I really believe your relationship feels in alignment, and your business feels in alignment, and your personal energy and health feels in alignment. I believe that you eat better. You love more. You laugh more, and your business touches and reaches more people. So you are living from the purpose of your truest mission. There you have it. Sending a whole bunch of love and light. I’m going to take my team woo dog, Jules, and see if we could go make some dinner, and I’ll put a little more OCD into cutting those vegetables ups. See y’all later. Talk to you later. Bye.
Candice:
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Learn the secret sauce behind connecting with your intuition through your visual, auditory and kinesthetic senses. Candice shares how this applies to connecting more deeply to your intuitive self.
Candice:
Good morning, good morning, and good morning. So today I’m with you at 7:53 in the morning, and we are going to learn about how to connect with your intuition and the clairs. But first, before we begin, I just want to tell you what’s in front of me.
Candice:
So in front of me, I have a big green smoothie. Oh, that’s spinach and blueberries and banana and almond milk and protein powder, and it’s really rich and creamy and it’s really feeling good inside my body. And then I have a hot cup of peppermint tea. Mmh, it’s nice and warm and it feels nice and warm in my belly. I have two hard boiled eggs. They’re sitting in a yellow plastic bowl with a logo that says Margaritaville. We use these out at the pool. And so I have my two hard boiled eggs there. And then I have my peppermint oil, my patchouli oil sitting in front of me and my serenity oil. And in infused in the air is my serenity oil, which really helps me personally to connect to the Akashic Records. When I’m working I like to have my infuser on with that product.
Candice:
From my meditation this morning, I picked a beautiful double blooming Gardenia from my garden because I’ve been a little gardener this summer with extra home time and I’m smelling it right now. I’m putting it in the microphone. Can you smell it with me? Oh, my gosh, it’s this sweet heavenly smell that brings me right back to a day that I spent in Hawaii not too long ago. There was a Gardenia bush next to my chair that I would sit on every day and I would put my whole face in the Gardenia bush and I would just smell it. One day one of the workers saw me every day smelling these Gardenias and picked it and brought it to me, and the whole day I literally just put the Gardenia to my nose, just like I’m doing right now and it smells like heaven. So guess what? You already started to learn the four C’s, the four clairs. And I just knocked over my bottle of oil. I didn’t spill it though, so that’s the good news.
Candice:
So today we’re going to talk a little bit about how to connect with your intuition through your senses. So here’s the big secret, a couple big secrets, but the first big secret is when you say, “You know what? I don’t think I could connect with my intuition.” Okay, but I invite you to think a little differently today. Maybe that’s a limiting belief. Hmm. But what if we look at this in a different way? So I want you to all take a deep breath in and just connect with that space inside, that space that lives inside of you right now. I’m going to walk you through a little bit about the secrets to really get a deep connection with your intuition right now. Oh, my gosh, this is going to be such a fun journey.
Candice:
In one of my episodes, my past episodes, I believe it’s called Quantum Connection, and I introduce you to this beautiful gentlemen who wanted to learn how to use his intuition at a more higher level. He just really, really, really – his name’s Renee – and he really, really wanted to connect, and so he hired me to help him with his quantum connection, and that’s a program that I have. And so you can hear his testimonial about how he went from, “I really want to be able to connect more deeply with my intuition,” to him talking to his grandfather on the other side. He actually was able to open up his mediumship gifts with some of the ways that I guided him to connect with his intuition. He was quite talented, and guess what? You are too because you’ve used intuition your whole life.
Candice:
So when you imagine yourself as a little baby wrapped in a blanket, about three months old, all snugly and cozy, how were you communicating your needs with your parents? I believe children are constantly talking to their parents. If you have some friends that have a small child, pay attention. Watch how that mother will jump up to that high chair or wherever they’re feeding their child and say, “Oh, they need more,” or, “Oh, they’ve had enough.” And you think, “How did they really know?” Besides, of course, tossing a ball across the room as children often do. But intuition is something that parents and children use from a really young age.
Candice:
About the age of four or five something happens and something probably happened to you. I tell my story about being the four-year-old and I said something to somebody about my intuition and it came back to my mother and I could see a look on her face and I thought, “I never want to make that look on my mom’s face again.” And it was about using my intuition. I took myself back to that time where I decided to shut my intuition off. When I was creating my, I call it the timeline of [inaudible 00:06:47], my windows of opportunity and my intuition, I realized that that was the day I shut it off, when I was four. Most likely there was something that shut your intuition off, something somebody said.
Candice:
There is this gentleman that I just found on Netflix, and his last name was Mercado and he was a famous psychic in, I think it was Mexico or Spain, he was Spanish. People from all over the world came to see him. I don’t want to go down that path because I really want to teach you about how to use your intuition today, but the one thing that struck me in this documentary of this psychic, he was really big into… Yeah, let me get my words right. Astrology. There’s the word. And so what struck me is he was a very different. He kind of looks like a male and sort of looks like a female, and you kind of look at him and say, “Is he a man or is he a woman?” When you first meet him visually. They talk about this, it’s just not my interpretation.
Candice:
But when he was little, he realized he was different. He liked makeup. He liked to feel feminine. He liked to feel masculine. He liked both. He was a dancer, very creative. And as he was discovering himself, he said to his mom, “I don’t feel like I’m like anybody else.” And you know what she did? She didn’t shut him off. She told him to lean into that. She says, “You are unique. Be unique. Be the person you want to be.” That gave him permission to heal so many people in the world. In this documentary they show flocks of people, almost like when the Pope would come to visit. He was so loved. I invite you to watch that Netflix original. The psychic’s name was, and he called himself a psychic, was Mercado. The way they did that movie was excellent.
Candice:
So back to your learning about your intuition. So when I took you through the senses right now, that was the secret sauce. How you learn to use your intuition is by your primary sensors, because you’re already hard wired to use those anyways. For instance, when I was talking about my eggs in my Margaritaville cup and my green juice and my tea, I was using different modalities. When I was talking about how I felt and what smells that I use in my room, what was your primary excitement values? Were you like, “Ooh, I totally see that,” or, “I totally feel the morning routine of her saying good morning and inviting me to be part of this, part of this knowledge, this wisdom? So what was it that you were connecting with? Or was it this beautiful smelling Gardenia?
Candice:
So let’s talk a little bit about why learning styles are the secret sauce to get connected at the highest level to your intuition. This is exactly what I used with Renee. We used the modality that he used, and then we expanded that. That’s how he started with his intuitive vision, is using the modality he was the most connected to.
Candice:
So let’s go through the clairs. So clairvoyance means clear seeing. This is when visions of the past, present and future can flash through our mind’s eye or our third eye, which people believe it’s kind of above the bridge of your nose, in between your eyebrows, on your forehead. That’s where that chakra is like. And so that’s what clairvoyance means, is seeing. Clairaudience means hearing. That’s when you hear like words or sounds or music like in your mind’s eye or voice. So you’re hearing me now, that’s audience, that’s sound.
Candice:
Clairsentience means clear feeling, and that entails like feeling a person’s spirit or emotions, or feeling other people’s physical pain. Many of us use clairsentience without consciously being aware of it. That’s when we get that strong gut feeling or goosebumps, like you say, “Ooh, that just gave me the goosebumps.” So when you’re clairsentient feeling, that means that you feel other people’s emotions. Often when I’m in a reading, I’ll say, “I feel like I want to cry,” or, “I feel like there’s something stuck in my voice.” I’m not feeling that for me, I’m now feeling that for my client.
Candice:
There’s clair… Let’s see. I want to make sure I say it right. There’s clairgustatory, which means clear tasting, the ability to taste something that isn’t actually there. This experience sometimes comes out of the blue and sometimes I get deceased loved ones attempting to communicate a memory or an association with a particular food or beverage that reminds us of them. It’s an unusual one for people to identify with, but people like chefs or bakers or food critics, they could probably have a little more alignment with clairgustance. I’ve had that experience once, actually twice. Both times I was pregnant. That’s the only time I’ve ever had a gustatory experience.
Candice:
And then there’s clairaliance, which means clear smelling. That’s also a rare type of clair. I know that sometimes you’ll smell like a perfume or a cigarette smoke of a deceased relative. I do have that sense and it happens occasionally. I’ll smell fragrance, like one time I experienced the fragrance of roses when I was in Emmitsburg, Maryland at like a retreat center. I saw a woman who was a stigmata and she was at the church service, which was actually Pentecost Sunday many years ago with my mother-in-law. We were there and… Excuse me, and I wanted to see this stigmata.
Candice:
What a stigmata means is that they’ve had the wounds of Christ. So she had the images on her hands and her feet. And so she ran over to the chapel to pray. She wasn’t feeling well because that takes a lot out of you when your body is bleeding all the time. Excuse me. And so a lot of times people with stigmatas like Padre Pio, they have these senses or they have a lot of illnesses because of how their body is working. Well, anyways, one time I smelled… I was in line waiting to see her and I was like, “Where are the roses? Where are the roses” And the woman in front of me who had two small children and they were all like dolled up with different medals, and they were really into the meeting this woman. They’d seen the stigmata many times. So when I was saying, that she turned around and I could see she and her husband had tears in their eyes and they said, “Oh, honey, you’re experiencing a message from the blessed mother.” And so that actually happened to us and it was really cool.
Candice:
So I’m just going through some of these clairs with examples so that you can get some really significant meaning from this exercise of knowing the secret sauce of connecting with your intuition.
Candice:
So then there’s claircognizance. So that means clear knowing. This is one people just have the knowledge, they just know. They know something about people events that they normally… They just somehow have this knowledge inside, they don’t understand it. It’s kind of like spirits just impresses us with the truth. It just pops into our minds from out of nowhere. It’s just like this knowingness. Like this morning, I wanted to go over this exercise and I was like, “How am I going to introduce this?” And they said, my guide said, “Start with talking about some things that are around you. Start with using your senses.” Boom, there I had it. It’s kind of simple when you think about it.
Candice:
So I just wanted to go over some of those things for you so that you knew a little bit about the senses and the clairs. So now we’re going to go to the next level. We’re going to get a little deeper. Rub those hands together, and here we go. I believe why I get such great success with my clients when I’m teaching them how to connect with their Akashic Records – I mess that word up – or really the quantum energy field that’s all around all of us is because what I do is I teach from your modality. So when somebody comes to me and says, “I want to learn,” the first thing is I figure out which of the primary clairs or the senses that they use the most.
Candice:
So we’re going to stick to visual today, auditory and kinesthetic, because they’re the easiest ones to navigate and to bring you through. Once you start using your primary modality, guess what starts to happen? The other ones kick in. Like for example, I love to pray and I love to pray to Padre Pio. I just think he’s a funny man. Energetically, I’ve met him and he’ll come to me with a smell of cigarettes, which other people have said that Padre comes to them with the sense of cigarettes, like the smell in their nose. Oh, I almost got like a tickle, almost like a sneeze as I said that. So what happened is that clair woke up as I spoke to it in this moment.
Candice:
So that’s something I’ve developed over time because intuition is just simply a muscle. And so how I get you to develop that muscle even greater is I use your main modality. For instance, I box. So yesterday my boxing coach came and I have like a boxing pole in my backyard underneath my awning. And so what we were doing yesterday is we were strengthening my left side, which is not my predominant side for boxing. My power hitter is my right hand. So here we went from praying to boxing, the dichotomy of all of us, right? And so my left arm hurts today because we exercised it more. My back was hurting yesterday. So instead of doing my major power punches, we develop my left side that was weaker so that I wasn’t hitting as hard. So I was given my back a bit of a rest while still working my body and getting stronger.
Candice:
So that’s what I’m introducing you today is we’re going to get stronger, but today we’re going to use your power hand, your boxing hand, the one that’s your primary hitter or the one that shows up the most in life. So if you’re sitting there scratching your head and saying, “Geez, I don’t know which one that I’m the most associated with.” So in the beginning when I was talking, I want you to go back in your mind’s eye, what was juicing you up? Was it the warm, cozy tea, or was it the smell of the Gardenia, or was it the visual clues that I was giving along the way, or was it something that you were feeling inside? Maybe you were getting warm and cozy thinking about having breakfast with somebody. So whatever it was that you were feeling, I want you to lean into that, and I’m going to tell you a little bit about… Actually, I’m not going to tell you, I’m going to explain so that you can understand a little bit about how your learning style is connected to intuition. Here we go.
Candice:
So visual learners, what they do is they observe more through their site. So how they’re going to show up in this world is in a classroom, they’re the copious note takers. They’re the ones that you think that their pen is going to run out of ink, and usually theirs do. Mine does. And so they’ll draw diagrams. They like to draw diagrams that might represent complex information. Like, for example, what I do is I use a pen with multiple colors; red, green, blue, and black. And so when I’m taking notes in a book, sometimes I’ll use a diagram and I’ll know exactly what I mean by that diagram. And so I probably have a lot of visual.
Candice:
They also see patterns in their mind’s eye. I often tell people that are working with me, when I’m in the Akashic Records for business, I don’t know how this happens, but I seem multiple outcomes. And so what my mind starts doing is when I see into the energy field of a person when they ask a question, what happens is it’s almost like it ignites all my senses and I go searching… Oops, I just hit my bell. Talk about sounds, incorporating them. But my mind starts going to search for their highest and best possible outcomes through the intention that they set through the reading. So what happens for me is I see the patterns of outcome, and that’s what I think makes me so great at what I do, and I just kind of caught myself off guard. I usually am not a braggy person, but I truly do this, and I’m truly proud of the fact that I do this because it gets business owners to where they want to be in an evolutionary grow state more quickly. So I’m really proud of the fact that that’s one of the modalities that I use.
Candice:
If you’re traveling in your visual person, how you orient your positioning of where you’re at is by mapping it out in your mind or picking out features in surroundings. For me, this is quite the challenge. I feel like I’m directionally challenged because if I can’t get a clear visual on something, I’m lost. The whole map disappears from my mind. So I dare say that possibly visual learners might not be the best with direction. I’m not sure about that, I’m just guessing because I really suck. My navigation angel, I think that she sometimes is out to lunch for me. So that’s kind of how I feel about navigation with visual.
Candice:
What kind of jobs do these people have? They usually like beautiful things. They’re attracted to beautiful things. They usually beautify their home. They usually have vibrant, bright colors in their home. They usually are visual artists, stylists, designers, and they love painting and drawing and experimenting with hairstyles and fashion. So that’s a visual learner, and that’s somebody that would be using the clair of clairvoyance. I’m sorry about that.
Candice:
So let’s go back to… The next pattern for learning is auditory. It’s not a pattern, it’s senses. So auditory learners, they actually absorb information through vibration. Now, I see vibration and I feel vibration as well. So when I’m doing a reading, I’m seeing a vibration of energy that’s either high or low. I can see the potential outcome in the Akashic Records. So I see where they need to go navigationally in life, but then I see the vibration of where they’re at, because if you’re vibrating too low, so say for instance, I’m going to Bali, Indonesia in March of 2021. So in order to create a vibrational alignment to be able to go there, to be able to create the income and the experience, I started vibrating differently. I vibrated with the fact I’m there. “I’m there,” is what I said in my head, “I’m in Bali, Indonesia.”
Candice:
The next thing that happened with my vision, although we’re talking about auditory, is my vision for Bali became so strong that I actually attracted somebody that went to Bali, Indonesia every three weeks. She had a driver. She had all of her staying information. Everything was laid out and she sent it to me. In the meantime, the energy of my business grew, and I was able to immediately save the goal of money that I had for this trip. So within about six weeks, I not only had the complete itinerary to a place I’ve never been, I also had the money come in because I vibrated differently.
Candice:
So let’s talk again about vibration. They’re often found hanging on every word. If you’re kind of leaning in right now, you’re probably auditory. These types of people are really good about movie quotes and song lyrics. And if you play music, it can shift their mood. So if they’re feeling a little down, they might crank up the volume of something that really makes them happy. They are really in alignment with the people that do the om, saying the vibrational sounds. They’re really in alignment for healing in that modality and using that vocal expression.
Candice:
Who are these people? How did they show up in the world? They show up in the world usually as speakers, presenters, musicians, and singers. What do they do in their free time? Uh-oh, I’m being called out. They enjoy listening to podcasts or music or playing with songs and lyrics and poetry.
Candice:
So that’s kind of how the auditory learners are, and they’re sensitive to sound vibration. So if you have a child that says, “Oh, mommy, that’s too loud, or you’re talking too loud,” and you think that you’re using a normal voice, that’s because the child is sensitive to sound vibration. I also notice with autistic children that they’re very auditory because they’re very, very sensitive to sound and to light.
Candice:
It’s not necessarily what’s being said that matters to them, it’s the sense, the vibrational frequencies of the sounds. They’re the ones that sing in the shower. They talk to themselves out loud. I do that. They audibly record their thoughts. I do that. I have notes on my Apple phone and I have this notes. And so I hit record and I talk like a podcast idea. So this also is just a little exercise in teaching you how to communicate with other people.
Candice:
So the next thing is kinesthetic. So kinesthetic, so which clair is that? So that’s clairsentient. That’s your senses. And so how kinesthetic learners absorb information is through their body. They feel things. Has anybody ever said to you, “Oh, my gosh, I broke my leg,” and they go in through the whole rendition and you’re going, “Oh, my God, I can feel it. Stop talking.” And they’ll say, “Then my bone cracked,” And you’re like, “Oh, my God.” Sorry, but I just wanted to prove a point that if you’re one of those people that just said, “Oh, my gosh, I heard the bone,” and you felt it in your body and you cringed, then most likely the cringe was the kinesthetic part of you.
Candice:
They’re usually kind of a little hyper with their behavior. They’re the ones that are bouncy and moving and always doing things. They’re the ones either tapping a pen or bouncing their foot in the classroom or the meeting place. So that’s how you can tell if these people are kinesthetic. They might remember where a teacher was standing as an anchor to particular bits of information, and they’ll say, “They were there. She was standing right here when she told me this.”
Candice:
Let’s see. What do these… How they show up in the world is they like to work with their hands. They’re always using their hands. They’re crafters and makers. They’re the fixer uper. They are constantly walking around the house making sure things are done with their hands.
Candice:
What they might do in their free time is they might do yoga or dance or martial arts. Their body movement is basically like a form of expression or release. It’s also a way that they connect to their feelings or learn about life’s greater lessons. Also, with kinesthetic learners, they’re sensitive to their environment and their own body. I know my sister was like this and I am too. I like soft clothing on. If something’s like wool or like a synthetic, oh my God, I absolutely hate that. Autistic children also are like that. So they like a soft clothing. So sometimes if you have an autistic child and they’re using the same clothing, it’s because it feels good. So buy 10 of them right now because they’ll go away. I know my cousin’s son’s autistic. We had three blue and white striped shirts, but Matthew would like us to put all the shirts on. So he also visually liked everybody to have his kinesthetic shirt on so he would associate with us more.
Candice:
How they take care of their home, people that are kinesthetic, which this is me, is they use feng shui in their homes, which I had a feng shui episode with Margie in the beginning. I’m not sure which one it was. It was after five though, after my first five. Things in their home can actually elevate their happiness. I have to be honest, right now I’ve been working very diligently on a bunch of projects. In my office, I have stacks of research and books all around me right now, and that doesn’t make me happy. I wanted to clean my desk before I did this episode, but I wanted to get this done, so I put it as my priority.
Candice:
They love to work their bodies and exercise. That releases the emotions, the pinup emotions through exercise. They’re very active in meditation because usually these people have really busy minds because they’re processing through their emotions, and so meditation kind of helps the ritual of bringing the energy in alignment. They also might use a ritualistic forms of self-love. Like for me, I completely loved myself this morning by doing my meditation, by having my juice, and by drinking my juice with the greens and the vegetables in it and the protein powder, and eating a hard boiled egg. It just made me feel really like I loved myself because I loved my body.
Candice:
Some people that are kinesthetic, they’re the ones that might also have learning styles regarding more sensitive things like the olfactory, like the smell, or the cognition, the knowingness. So they might have multiple clairs associated with the kinesthetics. So we just kind of umbrella the kinesthetic person and put the olfactory and the cognizance, like that knowingness, all in this form just to make it really simple for you to learn.
Candice:
So the three learning styles of auditory or visual auditory and kinesthetic, the learning styles that are associated with the clairs, which again are the seeing – clairvoyance, the feeling – clairsentient, and the hearing – clairaudience. So if you can see that these two are intertwined and if you work with your primary modality, guess what happens? You start building more muscle, like with my boxing. So today my left arm is a lot stronger than it was the day before because I used it. I developed my muscle of intuition.
Candice:
I want to talk next about patterns of imbalance, because you’ll be able to see a little bit more about going deeper inside yourself and doing some healing work with yourself if you know how you interpret that next level, the sixth sense. So now we’re going to talk about how to use your sixth sense, which is intuition. So for visual learners, when you’re working with a visual learner, and the primary first style is visual. Now, remember a lot of the other styles will kick in once you develop your muscle around the primary. For instance, when I started to connect with my intuition, the first thing that I did is I did automatic writing. So that was the first thing, I asked a question and I wrote it on a piece of paper. The question was, what am I to learn today? Then I would connect with my Akashic Records, there’s a way I show people how to do that, and then I’d start writing. Excuse me. So I would write. I had auditory writing, so I would write and write and write the words that would just channel through me.
Candice:
The next thing that I learned was how not to use paper and how to connect with my energy field without the paper. I’m sorry, that’s not true. What happened next is I actually learned how to connect with other people’s energy fields before I learned how to channel my own. So I had to stick with writing for a long time because I had a hard time channeling for myself.
Candice:
So the next thing that I learned after I did my automatic writing is I learned to read my own Akashic Records, but I had to do it with writing because that’s kind of how I was initially trained. I try to not teach people to use that method. While it’s simple, why not just bypass it and go right channeling? Because when I learned to connect with other people’s energy field and to channel for them, I was taken right to the clear channel, it’s what I call clair channel when you don’t have to write or interpret anything, it’s just, I see, feel, hear, or know certain things in their energy field, and then we set an intention and we go into the reading.
Candice:
So that was the second thing that I learned was basically I channeled for myself in writing, but then when I connected to other people’s energy field, I had a clear channel, which just went from head to verbs to words. Later, I was able to channel my own information from my guides. That was the last thing that kicked in for me.
Candice:
So let’s go a little bit deeper with this. Visual. Visual and what you would expect to see connecting with your intuition. You can do like future castings, like I see how things align. I had already shared with you. I see patterns. So I can see how situations would unfold really rapidly. That’s really helpful when you’re trying to make a business decision because I can see the highest and best in some outcomes. You can see auras and chakras. Sometimes I’ll actually see them on a person.
Candice:
I have a girlfriend, her name is Sophie. She’ll love that I’m talking about this. She’s a mineral expert. Anything stone related, she knows everything about them. You just have to hold a stone up and she’s like a mineral Bible, walking mineral Bible. Sometimes when we’re sitting out in the sun, we’re having a conversation by the pool… She has a pool, I have a pool so we’re usually sitting by one of those. When she talks, the reflection from the pool and from her hands when she moves, I can see an aura of different colors, almost like a deep rainbow, not like a light rainbow, but like deep colors of rainbows. When her hand moves, she almost makes like rainbows when she talks because she’s also an intuitive and she has been working with energy her whole life. So I see her aura or her energy field.
Candice:
It’s rare that I see that. Usually I see a white energy field. I usually don’t have the ability to see color. If you want a little secret and something to play with, and I know not a lot of people are at airports right now, but you will be someday in the future, what I used to do is I used to look for those people walkers that had a whole glass behind it, like a whole window of glass behind it. So if you can imagine an airport, and of course there’s a lot of glass. So I look for the people mover by the glass. I sit across from it in a chair, and as people go by, I look for their auras. What I see is spinning tunnels, but everything’s white. Nothing’s really exciting in color like Sophie’s magical hands.
Candice:
And so the energy above your head spins in a cone and at your groin. Sometimes when you have links, like links in your chakra or your energy fields, I can see cones coming from different places. So there is a way to see chakras that you can train yourself. So start watching. The best way is to look down at your hands right now. Spread both of your fingers with your thumbs out and away from you. If you stare at them, and I invite you to put them against a solid dark background, that’s the highest and best to see this, you’ll start noticing almost like macadam. Roads are made out of that black tar macadam. On a super hot day, I’ve often seen this in movies too, there’s several inches of this white vibrational light that’s like this foggy light that’s above the macadam in a road.
Candice:
So when you look at your hands and you hold up your hands against something dark, you’re going to start seeing, if you look to your left thumb and then make almost like a halo outline. You actually have this now and can see it. One time I was sharing with my girlfriend. This is, oh my goodness, over 25 years ago. I was reading a book, Hands of Light, and it was talking about chakras and all the multiple layers of chakras in our energy field and how expansive it is. This book, I was telling my girlfriend, I’m like, “Hey, check this out. Do this exercise.” She did it with me on the phone and she goes, “Huh, I can see it, but mine’s pink.” In one of the chapters I was reading, it said that when people are pregnant, their auras are pink, and so I shared that with her. So we got a little tee-hee out of it because it was the first time she looked down at her hands and that’s what she saw. So I invite you to do this as well.
Candice:
They also have the ability to envision solutions or pathways moving forward. I’ve already shared how that works for me. They’re visionaries and their seers. That’s definitely me. They have a gift for recognizing opportunities, and I truly believe that I have that gift, so I’m very visual, and you do too if you’re visual. You really can see possibilities and potentials. You also might fill your cup and it always is to the top. I always fill mine to the tippy top and I usually spill it. You think I would learn my lesson, but for me it just feels abundant to fill it to the top. So anyways, that’s kind of how I work.
Candice:
They can also see symbols all around them like in nature. So that, again, is things that I see. For instance, this morning I walked over to a magical thing – Look at me, I’m getting emotional – that I found in my backyard. So one morning I woke up and it was cold. It was in the beginning of the summer and the water was cold and it was six o’clock in the morning or 6:30, so the sun had not yet touched the swimming pool, so everything was cold. I stood in the pool and I wanted to swim, but it was cold. So I was like the big debate, “Do I want to go under? Do I want to go under? What do I want to do here?” And then all of a sudden, like a voice inside of me said, “How do you want to show up today?” I was like, “Oh yeah, hell yeah, I want to show up strong.”
Candice:
So I want to show up strong for my clients, so I thought, “I’m going to just plunge in,” and so I plunged and I started to do laps in the pool. I got tired after a few labs, and I thought I’m going to take a break at the deep end. As I did so, I took a deep breath in and I looked to the right, and that’s where our gate is to our fence and it’s also part of our neighbors tree. I can see our neighbors tree. I’s the Bartlett pear. I probably shared this story, but it’s important for today. As I was catching my breath and feeling cool in the water, I looked at the tree, at the Bartlett pear, and the sun happened to be rising in the middle of the tree. This oval-shaped Bartlett pear tree with green leaves, and it’s old, sturdy wood, and smack in the middle of this tree was the sun rising. It was magnificent and so beautiful.
Candice:
30 years I lived in this house and I think 25 of it, we had a pool and that was the first time I experienced this. Then I turned around and we have at least, I don’t know, maybe 60, 70 feet of trees that are very high, green arborvitaes, at least 20 feet high. So it’s like a wall. The next thing I saw was that morning sun was hitting the water and it was throwing the vibrational waves of the water and it made golden vibrational movements on this 60 feet, 25 feet high wall of trees. It looked like the trees were vibrating with magic.
Candice:
So there you go for an example of what visual people see. They see symbols and magic all around them. Then I heard in my mind’s eye, “This is what the quantum energy field looks like, the vibrational field.” So that’s kind of the visual faculties and how they are come out in an intuitive person.
Candice:
So with every bright side of life, there’s the shadow side. Let’s talk a little bit about the shadow side of a visual intuitive learner. They can also create the most worst case scenarios. I don’t want to speak of any that I create in my mind, but I do this. I’ll be like, “Oh, my God, and then this is going to happen, and then this, and then this,” and pretty soon something simple that didn’t need… excuse me, to need to have all that attention, I just piled on all the way worst case scenarios.
Candice:
They can also have headaches, like that tension behind your eyes. At the end of the day, I start feeling a pressure in my head because my primary clair for my business is visual, although I’ve developed all of the others by now, but that was my strongest. That’s my right punching boxing arm, is my visual. However, I’ve developed all the others as I’ve grown my intuitive muscle. So I feel this pressure in my head towards the end of the day.
Candice:
They also, and this is definitely me, they have a hard time grounding. That’s why meditation for me is not just, yeah, that’s nice, and I do it. It’s a necessit. Running an intuitive business, yes, I’m intuitive, but I have to be grounded enough to run my business.
Candice:
They often have a hard time focusing too far into the future, and that’s me. I can see into the future. I’ve learned and I’ve trained myself over the last 38 years of working at the university and working in this business. I have made a very strong left arm because by rights my focus is not in my will set. I had to develop that. Unfortunately, with the training that I received at Millersville of planning, planning, planning, we plan most events two years in advance, and we had to because that’s what the schedule was like. So I was trained into that, but that was my left hand in boxing, it was not my right. Now, I’m as strong with my left hand and at focusing as I am in my right because I continued to use that.
Candice:
How to bring or to flower you were visual intuition, your clairvoyance, is things like I have a vision board and I really love using my vision board. The closer you keep your vision board to where you’re at most of your day is the more that you will be able to bring that energy into your life. I work to exhaustion often, and that’s an imbalance pattern that I also have. I just wanted to go back to that, I forgot. I can often work until exhaustion. Clair visionaries will just like work until they pop over, and that’s pretty much what my office looks like right now.
Candice:
So I want to go back to the… I’m sorry I went forward before or backwards before. The ways that they attune to their clairvoyance in their environment is they like beautiful things in their offices, in their bedrooms. Like my bedroom is very feminine and fluid and in feng shui. Whether you’re married and you have a husband or not, your bedroom should be very feminine because the woman invites the man into her bedroom. At least that’s the way that my life’s oriented. If there’s two women in a relationship, they probably really like a beautiful bedroom. If there’s two men in the relationship, I’m still thinking that they like beautiful, more masculine bedroom because their energy is more masculine, and that’s what they honor.
Candice:
So for me, I have pink drapes and white lace. I like to sleep on white bedding because your bedding produces an energy. So you don’t want to be sleeping on red sheets because it’s too high vibration. So when you sleep, for people that are very visual, and also with kinesthetic because they feel everything, you shouldn’t be sleeping on red sheets if you’re kinesthetic.
Candice:
Anyway, so we’ve gone through some different ways for attunement. Today I invite you to do something that makes you feel beautiful. So if you’re a woman listening to this, maybe put your makeup on today, and maybe you hadn’t intended on that. For me, I’m thinking of my beautification process today. I’m going to wear a pink lipstick with a pink lip gloss that I just bought. I have a new dress that’s a lavender halter dress that’s made of this bamboo cotton material. Are you seeing some patterns with me here? I like that softness, the kinesthetic. I like the visual. I like thinking about my lipstick. So I’m attuning some of the visual and I’m actually mixing in some of the kinesthetic as we speak, the feeling of my clothes.
Candice:
People that like to attune to their visual is they like to take pictures and painting and art. I could look at a piece of art for hours and see something new in it each and every time. They also like visually stimulating places. I just remember, like for me, Maui is such imaginary, or it’s magical for me because there’s the double booming Gardenias, my favorite flowers, there’s the Plumerias, there’s mountains, and there’s the beautiful ocean and the sunset. For me, it’s like Maui is like walking in living art. And so that’s when I’m in Maui, I’m creative, and oh my goodness, the ideas I had for my business. Maui also has a feminine energy that would be in the kinesthetic.
Candice:
So let’s start moving to the auditory. The faculties that intuitive people have when they are using auditory, they hear spiritual guidance. So spiritual guidance, that would mean… So I have to be honest, I actually had an auditory experience outside of my body, meaning I didn’t hear it on the inside. I actually heard it on the outside. So usually on the inside, you’ll hear voices, something like, “Hey, I want you to do this today.” Say I have to pay a bill or something, my guides might say, “I want you to do it today.” And then here I look and it actually is due today, which maybe I was thinking of paying it on Friday. So they’ll give me some guidance and wisdom.
Candice:
But I did hear auditory voice on the outside one day and I think I shared that in another episode. So I’m not going to go down the deep path of it, but I was in a hotel and I was in a really dark place in my mind because I had been diagnosed with something, with cancer. I wanted my son and the cancer was in my uterus and they were going to take it out. And so of course being visual, I created the worst case scenario, which there really honestly was only one scenario, which was to have my uterus removed and then I couldn’t have my son, and I had seen my son maybe five years before then. So I was pretty depressed.
Candice:
I had had a horrible travel day. I had traveled to two o’clock in the morning. My driver didn’t pick me up. They lost my suitcase. This big fancy hotel didn’t even have a toothbrush. And if I can’t brush my teeth before I go to sleep, I just can’t sleep well. And so there I am lying there in bed. I had taken a shower and got the day off of me as soon as I got into the hotel room about four o’clock in the morning. I was lying there in bed and my husband had already went to work. He was working from Arizona that day, is where I was at.
Candice:
We were in this fancy hotel and the second part had a private room. It had like a bar and a sitting area. And then I was in the bedroom and I heard a voice and I thought it was the bellmen bringing my suitcase in. I quickly grabbed the covers up to my chin and I was like, “Hello? Hello, who’s there?” And nobody answered me, but I heard a voice and it said, “You still have a uterus.” And I was like, “I don’t think a bellman would say that.” So I got out of bed because I was already awake, and I was really awake then. I went in and I got a shower and I was scratching my head thinking, “Oh my God, I’ve never heard a sound outside, like real outside of me.” And that was one time I did. So as we develop our muscles, we will hear things in different ways.
Candice:
You might have a heightened sense of empathetic type of listening, so you hear what’s beyond the words that are spoken. So if ever like you were with a friend and you bump into a friend and they say, “Yeah, I’m doing fine. Everything is great. Great seeing both of you,” and they walk away and you say, “Oh, I feel something about Susie,” and other friend says, “What do you mean?” “I just feel like she was sad.” And they said, “But she said she was happy and everything was going great.” But I feel when somebody is sad, even if they’re saying, “I’m great.” So you hear what’s beyond the words being said. So you just have this keenness with your perception. You also, with your words, you can inspire others or heal others or give them some affirmation with your words. Music also can do that for these people.
Candice:
How do these auditory people show up in the world? Musicians, of course, and singers, and speakers. I bet you President Clinton and I bet you President Obama are primarily auditory because they are some of the most eloquent speakers that I’ve ever heard. They just are good orators. Whatever you feel about them politically, listen to how they speak because they speak very well, and I would probably say that they are auditory.
Candice:
They also have a broader spectrum of understanding sound. They hear the highest and the lowest. They’ll hear a bird or like a canary singing, and it’ll have more meaning to them, or listening to the radio would be an important thing, probably would balance them and it would help them to balance.
Candice:
So what’s the shadow side of an auditory intuitive? Sometimes they’ll use a language that’s kind of sarcastic or judgemental or manipulative. Those are kind of like low vibration energies, so that’s their shadow side. They might be very self critical and you might even hear that come out. They might say, “Oh, dammit, Candice.” I’ll really be critical of myself and, “What a dumb, dumb you’re being,” or something like that. I don’t usually say that to myself, but I have done that. Or you’ll notice that in people that they might be a little more critical and they also might have experienced some ringing in the ears, not wanting to hear the truth. They might repeat old stories or non-truths or something that’s no longer… It’s kind of an outdated way of being. They also might be prone to a little bit more gossip or they do not shut off with their speech. It’s like boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, and you’re thinking, “Oh, good Lord.” They can go.
Candice:
So how to attune somebody that has clairaudience? Like rhythm, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, that rhythm like drumming or listening to chanting can help to balance or attune people with clairaudience, those sound baths, just being bathed in the energy of sound. Making sure they say their I am affirmations; I am beautiful. I am magnificent. I am driven. I’m brilliant. I’m happy. I am joy. I am love. So saying their morning affirmations. They might like listening to the podcast and some music. Sometimes that’s all it will take to uplift their spirits.
Candice:
So let’s talk a little bit about the intuitive person that’s kinesthetic, feeling oriented. So they sense other people’s emotions. So when you think of children, be careful because if you’re going through like a slump, your child’s probably feeling that as well inside of them. So managing your feelings around children that are kinesthetic, it’s really important because they’re really sensitive to energy all around them. Having their bodies energetically healed, for instance, there’s a woman that does energy work on my body every single night because of how I use my body, she helps me with my kinesthetic part because she releases in my energy field things that aren’t serving me as I’m sleeping and it’s easier to release during those times. So I keep up with that so that I don’t have an imbalance in my system because I also… I think all my clairs are pretty primary at this point because I use all of them. So I think I probably started with the most visual, but I’m so high in kinesthetic. It’s really hard for me to say.
Candice:
I know when I’m lying in bed, taking a little nap, and my husband walks up the stops, I start feeling him in my abdomen when he’s at the top of the steps and he still has probably another 30 feet before he’s even next to me. I start feeling this tingle or this vibration in the middle range of my chakras. I start feeling him before he even comes into my space. I even know the feeling of him and that energy in that space.
Candice:
So healing, the environment, sensing other people’s emotions, like if you’re around somebody that has a lot of depressive issues or they’re negative, it’s really hard on your system. So stop bringing that into your energy field because then you have to manage and maintain more.
Candice:
Let’s see. I’m just going through my list here. So thank you for your patience. So I already talked about feeling my husband coming into the room. Also, you’re the ones that you get that ooh, that kick in your gut when you should stop. In business it’s like, “Oh, don’t go there.” Kick in the gut. Okay. So start listening to that, especially in your business and in your life. Or if something that I’ve said today has given you goosebumps, then pay attention to that because that was an intuitive signal. So your intuitive signal is the feelings.
Candice:
So if your kinesthetic and you’re going to look for visual patterns in your intuition and you’re not visual, I feel so bad for people that I’m training, and they’ll say, “I can’t see it. I can’t hear it.” But I’ll say, “But you feel it. So I’ll ask them a question and I’ll say, “Tell me what you felt.” Oh, well, that was the kick in the stomach. Okay, then that’s a no. So you don’t have to always see it in order to know it. So celebrate your modality of intuition because yes, you might never see and you might develop intuition and you might see very shortly. I don’t want to limit anybody. I’m just saying what the secret sauce is behind learning intuition, is making sure that you know your primary modality.
Candice:
There’s tons of quizzes, by the way, out on the internet. So if you still haven’t identified, after all this, your modality, it’s probably because you’re using your head instead of feeling into this. So I invite you to still go on the internet and look up a quiz, what is my primary clair quiz. Say that 10 times.
Candice:
So let’s go back to the kinesthetic. How do they show up in the world? What do they do? They’re usually people like yogis. They’re artists, martial arts. They like Qigong masters. I love Qigong and I like Tai-Chi. The energy of Tai Chi, like formulating the energy ball and moving the energy ball, that feels so good. It feels like I’m moving and developing and growing the energy ball of me. Also, people that are kinesthetic are like massage therapists. They like touching. They don’t mind holding a person’s hand or touching a person’s body. If that just was like, “Ooh, I would hate that,” then you’re not kinesthetic, and that’s cool. You just learned something about yourself.
Candice:
They can gain information through others’ body movements, like sitting there or being a part of Qigong or Tai Chi, the fluid moments of Tai Chi and just feeling that energy. They start feeling the synergy of the consciousness of each person and they start becoming one with that energy around them. They can also feel very depleted or energized from the energy vibrations. So if you find yourself being moved away or repulsed by somebody in your world, that just means that you’re probably not in vibrational alignment and you should reduce or eliminate your time with that person.
Candice:
So here’s some patterns of imbalance or your shadow side. So sometimes you might get rashes or toxic sensitivity. So you have to be super careful with what you put in your environment, your cleaners. They usually have digestive issues. They process a lot of their emotions through their stomach. If they get upset, they’re going to be by a bathroom. Sorry for the graphics. And then swish, eliminate that visual or that feeling. I’m trying to make this a pleasant experience.
Candice:
They might be more prone to injury because they’re not sometimes in their body. They’re just moving through because they’re so into their feelings. They might not be as aware of their body and they might trip and fall more easily. Some of them have hyperchondiac types of tendencies or obsessions. They might be more aligned for OCD type of behaviors like, does it feel okay? Does it feel okay? Touching the light switch multiple times until it feels okay, going into a bathroom and making sure that the door, the lock feels like you’re able to get open. If you’re identifying with this, you probably are kinesthetic. They often exhaust themselves because they’re kinesthetic and they deplete themselves because they haven’t set energetic boundaries for themselves. They also take energy from other people when they haven’t established those energetic boundaries.
Candice:
So how can we bring the energy back up into kinesthetic people when they’re in their shadow side? Oh my God, this is the best, taking a bath. I love oils, and so I put oils like patchouli and lavender and some sandalwood from some grounding, put some epsom salts and baking soda in the bath. That’s kind of like an extraction and it’ll pull out some of the toxins in your body and just really relax you. Also smudging your environment with sage. Remember, smudging with sage brings the energy out, like releases the bad energy. Palo Salto, it’s a really sweet smelling wood that you set your intentions with for the room after it’s cleaned. Also, high vibrational sounds like ding, like clearing the vibrational energy out, is really important. Movements in Tai Chi, like just the breathing and the focus on the energy in your body is super, super important. Having things done to your body like Reiki, massage, is super, super important and really staying attuned to your healing practices inside of you.
Candice:
When you share your space or your environment with their children, your husband, makes sure that you’re keeping the vibration aligned and high in your homes. You also might enjoy going to sacred temples, going out into nature and just connecting. It’s really important to hang out and being with people that are teachers and healers and people that have wise wisdom.
Candice:
Ooh, so there we go. We have gone over all the clairs and how the secret sauce of starting with your intuition, with your primary modality is so, so important. So remember, utilizing your intuition for business helps create alignment and clarity, it helps you not to be an exhausted business owner, and it helps you to utilize the information, like if you’re a visionary, what comes in to utilize all these gifts of intuition in your business. It doesn’t have to be as hard. What I’m inviting you to do is to bring more ease into your business with something that’s already part of you, intuition, and now you know a little bit more how to handle it.
Candice:
So as always, if you’d like to connect with me, you can go to candicehozza.com, and if you’d like my meditation, /love, and start listening, auditory people, to the I am statements and start saying them in the morning, the I am statements, so that you are more in alignment. So stay away from your shadow sides, and I’ve talked about this today, and move in to the power that lives inside of you, your navigation tool, your intuition, your GPS for success in your business.
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Candice:
Hey, everybody. And we’re back again today and I have a special guest. Her name is Danielle Chamberlin, and today she’s going to tell us how to really manifest in our lives. And once the manifestation happens, what we can do and how we can show up moving forward. So I’d like to introduce you to Danielle. Hey, Danielle.
Danielle:
Hey, Candice. How are ya?
Candice:
Great. Thank you for being on the Intuitive Business podcast today. So I wanted to take people down a little journey about how we met and what happened in your life after we met. And so, do you remember the first time we met?
Danielle:
Yeah, the first time we met, Candice, was at the dot sisterhood thing.
Candice:
Okay.
Danielle:
And I don’t know, I just gravitated over to the table you were at. I don’t think I knew you. And then we ended up in the bar having some drinks, and then we all ran over to the movie theater and saw a movie. Did you go with us to the movie?
Candice:
I don’t think I did.
Danielle:
But, so anyway, so I met you at the dot thing, and then you came as a speaker to our dot chapter and you taught us about intuition and some other things. And then, so I started, I gave you my information because you were going to be doing this email thing where you are going to send, I think it was a 10-day, 10-week, whatever course on intuition. And I was a little apprehensive, so I didn’t do it, but I did print off all the emails so that when I could go later, I could go back when I was more comfortable and do them. I still have them printed out, just so you know.
Danielle:
So I started my journey with Candice and she’s had these Monday afternoon lives on Facebook, and for some reason, I would catch them. And she was talking about Jim Carrey in a story and how he wrote this check and carried around in his pocket saying that that’s what he was going to make. And so I was like, what the hell? I’ll write a check and put it in the mailbox and mail it back to myself. But also, I think that that was a catalyst for it, but my husband had lost his job three years in a row and he had been on employed for six months. And so, I was praying and asking for abundance in any way God saw fit. I wasn’t asking specifically for money. I was saying relationship-wise, money-wise, spiritually, job-wise, and all of that. So I was just blanketing, asking for the abundance in which he wanted us to have.
Danielle:
And so, then I saw Candice with that. I was like, all right, mailing it out. Okay, come back, whatever. And so, a few months later, my husband actually got a huge bonus from work. And he worked really hard on the that too, but it was a $1.5 million bonus check. And shortly after he received that, they of course rearranged their compensation package so that that wouldn’t happen again. So that was a once in a lifetime thing, I feel. Wow.
Candice:
Can you tell everybody how much you wrote the check for?
Danielle:
I wrote the check for $1 million.
Candice:
And you manifested 1.5 million.
Danielle:
Yes. I don’t know. Candice says I did. I still don’t know. I can’t believe it’s real, but it happened.
Candice:
So I want to break this episode apart, because I want to tell everybody a little bit about Danielle as well. So Danielle has one of these super innocent hearts, and I’m not saying … She’s very well versed on life and the reality of life. So it’s not an unreal type of thing, but Daniel’s very open. Her heart is just very open. She has a childlike innocence inside of her that I don’t believe will ever go away. And it’s probably one of the things I love most about her.
Candice:
So this process that Danielle did, I call it the golden ticket. And I offer this when I’m speaking on stage. I pass out golden envelopes and I say, I reference Danielle. And later, you saw me at Jeanie’s events do that. Right?
Danielle:
Yep.
Candice:
And so, I was able to actually reference her as the person who actually manifested this money through writing the check and sending it to the mail.
Candice:
So Danielle, when this first happened, you and I met up one time, I was doing a reading or something, and you actually pulled the check out and showed it to me. I don’t know if you remember, but you did something. You did two magical things that I think really helped to initiate this money. Do you remember what you told me about when you put it in the mailbox, the check?
Danielle:
No.
Candice:
When you put it in the mailbox, and I probably still have this recording somewhere, but when you put it in the mailbox, you literally showed me your hands and you literally took a moment. And that’s the moment you asked God. You said, “This is what I want to bring into my world.” And it was less than six months, because you showed me the date of the check. And when you manifested this, it was probably about six to seven months after you mailed the check. So that’s number one thing that you told me that you did, which I thought was pretty cool.
Candice:
The next thing that you told me, it was when the check came back. Do you remember what you said about how you handled the check?
Danielle:
No.
Candice:
This is not an episode on memory. This is an episode on manifestation, one of the other Ms. But the next thing you said is you put it in a specific wallet. Did you have a pink wallet or something and you put it-
Danielle:
Oh, yeah. Yeah.
Candice:
Was it a pink-
Danielle:
Well, it has pink flamingos on it, because flamingos are my spirit animal.
Candice:
There you go. So she put it in her magical purse and she said, I put the check, was it towards you or away from you? You were very specific.
Danielle:
Well, I put it out away from me because that’s what you said to do, turn it outside so it’s going out into the universe.
Candice:
Right. And then, ding, it was like a cooker and it was done and you received it. And then what happened next? So didn’t, they send you on a magical vacation after your husband-
Danielle:
Yes. After Michael earned with the company, we earned a trip to the Maldives, all expenses paid.
Candice:
And I saw pictures of this. So what it looked like is there were these little bure huts that were sitting out on the most aqua water that you’ve ever seen. So you were literally living on water.
Danielle:
Yep. Yep. It was the honeymoon we never had.
Candice:
Well, tell us all the details. Did they have robes? Was there a pool? Did somebody cook for you? Tell us some magic.
Danielle:
So honestly, so my husband paid extra money because we were going to be flying coach on Emirates Air. And my husband was in the military and had gone to his duty station, which he passed through there. And he’s like, “Okay, no. I did that before and we’re going to upgrade.” And I was like, “No, no, that’s too much money. Let’s not.” But he did it anyways and I’m glad he did, because it was very luxurious.
Danielle:
I barely sat down in my seat and she was there. Would you like champagne? And I was like, “Oh, I don’t mind if I do.” So, I mean, we had the seats that laid us flat out. It was very, very luxurious. And, I mean, the food was served. They brought white linen tablecloths to our little cubicle, if you will. And dessert, three course meal, every meal. There was a bar in the back of the plane. We could go and order and hang out back there and have snacks. It was just unbelievable.
Candice:
Oh my goodness. So then you get there, you get to this place. So tell me what you were thinking and feeling when you arrived at your own-
Danielle:
So, we get to the airport, we get our baggage and we get on a boat to go to the island. And so, it was about a 20-minute boat ride. And even though the water was not clear, clear, you could definitely see that it was this pretty deep blue. And we got there, we got helped off the boat, and welcomed onto the island and taken to our room. And it was five-star all the way. We had our own deck. We had our own private infinity pool. It was-
Candice:
Now, wait. Let’s take this in. So you’re on the deck. Could you see sunset there on the deck?
Danielle:
We didn’t really pay attention to the sunsets as much as the sunrises.
Candice:
Okay, and that’s just fine.
Danielle:
Because, well, I mean, we had certain things that we had to be at for his company that we did. And so, that was mostly evening dinners and stuff. So we didn’t really pay too much attention to the sunsets. But we got up every morning, went for a walk, saw the sunrise, went to breakfast, came back, got out, went out into our own private ladder down to the Indian Ocean and just kind of hung out. Laid out, got in our infinity pool, took a nap, got dressed, went to the company stuff, dinner and stuff like that. So it was just very, very tranquil and it was awesome. It was a great time to reconnect with each other.
Candice:
Oh my gosh. That sounds lovely. So let’s give them an image of your life before the $1.5 million, and then, now we already know what her life’s looking like, and we still have a component left. But tell us, because some people say, “Oh, well, she probably had that type of life before. Those were probably her traditional vacations.”
Danielle:
Oh, no. No, no. Michael and I have been paycheck to paycheck our entire 25 years of marriage. So it was not, we did not go on vacations every year. It was not extravagance. And honestly, the money didn’t change us as people. It allowed us to do things to our house that we wanted to do. And it also gave us the opportunity to be able to give and donate money to our church, to homeless people, to different causes that are heartfelt things. So it gave us money to be able to help other people. So our lives haven’t changed. I still can’t go and pay $150 for a purse.
Candice:
But you can do it. You’re choosing not to do it. You could, if you wanted to spend $600 on a purse, you could.
Danielle:
Yes.
Candice:
Or a thousand dollars.
Danielle:
Yes. But it’s ingrained in me that that’s not, you know what I mean? I have splurged, paid more for things now that I wouldn’t have paid that for in the past. So it has changed our lives a little, but we’re still the same people. I mean, we haven’t gotten hoity-toity and, Oh, we were friends with you, we can’t be friends with you now. So, I mean, it’s given us more choices. Let’s just say that.
Candice:
So today we were talking about one of your choices and I think … I’m going to emphasize that we can all create money. We can manifest it. We all can do that. And you’re a really good example of how easily life could go from one thing to another. And the one thing that it did change was the choice that you want to make moving forward. So can you tell people what is laying on your heart for the next move that you’d like to make in your life?
Danielle:
Okay. So since we’ve come into this money and my husband keeps getting bonuses from work, we don’t really need the extra income from my job. So my thought was to, I wanted to start a nonprofit, but that has now manifested into purchasing a house for a women’s shelter, a local woman’s shelter, and rehabbing it and making it sustainable for these women, and giving them, teaching them skills so that they can provide for themselves. So I want to buy a house and then donate it to this particular thing, so that’s what the funds from my business are going to go for.
Candice:
I love that. So we talked about this earlier and one of the things that Danielle and I had in common is, I always had a lot of passion for women’s shelters. And when I was in college, I worked in a hidden shelter for abused and battered women, and also, it was drug and alcohol abuse was also there because of the need for government funding. And one of the things that really is touching my heart is that she wants to do this, because I remember seeing how many women needed so much help and were so abused and battered. And it just would break my heart.
Candice:
I remember there was a 16-year-old girl and she was nine months pregnant, and she already had a little baby with her at the shelter. And then, they would teach that, there would be sessions on finances and how to feed your family. And this is really a big project that Danielle’s taking on. So I want the listeners to hear this because she’s looking for possibly a big farmhouse that will have chickens so that they can have sustainability, that they can grow their own stuff and learn how to can and cook, so that even when they leave, they’ll be able to potentially create some planters or something so that they’ll have some more foods and be able to sustain themselves.
Candice:
So I want to talk about what kinds of help that you might need as this project moves forward, because sometimes somebody’s out there listening. And just the same way that when you sent that little envelope with that check that you wrote, somebody was listening. And what do you think that you’re still going to need from people? What type of help and resources do you need to get this off the ground?
Danielle:
Well, besides finances, I’m also going to need a gardener, someone that can come in and teach the gals different things about plants and things like that. I’m going to need a house mother, probably somebody who’s going to live at the house and run it and take care of it. Therapists that are going to come to the house to help these women through their things. What else? Jeez, clothing.
Candice:
Clothing.
Danielle:
Clothing for these women to … furniture donations, toys and swings, and a swing set for the backyard, and things like that for the kids. Books.
Candice:
Maybe some legal counselors.
Danielle:
All kinds of different things.
Candice:
Maybe some legal counsel. I’m just trying to think of, maybe Habitat for Humanity, because I know you want to buy the biggest place with the most amount of land for the price point that you’re looking for. So this, to me, is such a beautiful story of, when we put our heart out there for the right reasons and we ask for a simple request, and $1.5 million isn’t a simple result, but it sure was a beautiful gift to receive. And I cannot think of anybody nicer that this could have happened to than you.
Danielle:
Thank you.
Candice:
So I’m grateful that we were able to share this story. Now, how would people get in touch with you if they have a resource? And this is truly for people that in their heart have a resource that they can offer Danielle to create her big vision. How would they get in touch with you?
Danielle:
They can email me at danielle.chamberlin@comcast.net.
Candice:
Okay. And just spell Chamberlin, in case the there’s extra Ls or Es or-
Danielle:
So Danielle is D-A-N-I-E-L-L-E dot Chamberlin, C-H-A-M-B-E-R-L-I-N @comcast.net.
Candice:
And can you tell people what you’re going to name it and why?
Danielle:
I’m going to name it Tamra Sue’s House for my niece who passed away suddenly. And she’s my guardian angel, so I’m doing this, I’m going to name it for her.
Candice:
So I think that this is such a beautiful story, and I hope it touched the listeners’ hearts. And I wanted to thank Danielle for her heart, for how she shows up in the world, and to acknowledge her guardian angel for supporting her journey along the way. So sending so much light and love to my listeners and thanking Danielle. Danielle, do you have final parting words of wisdom?
Danielle:
I just want to say thank you to Candice for helping me with this and getting it out there, because now I know this is something that’s really going to happen, because she just put it out there to a whole bigger platform than I had before. And so, this is going to happen and I’m excited. And I’m going to go plan and look online at different places to get an idea of what my financial end is going to be. And I’m going to get to work. I’m excited.
Candice:
Well, please let me know when you get closer. What I’ll do is, if you show me the properties, I’m really good energetically. So if you show me the properties, I can see the highest and best for the mission. So once you get to the point, let me know. I can support you with that part of your vision and seeing the highest and best property.
Candice:
So thank you again, listeners. And thank you, Danielle, for all that you do, everything that you are, and everything you’re yet to become. So much love.
Danielle:
Thank you, Candice. Love you.
Candice:
Love you.
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Candy:
Are you ready to tap into your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to The Intuitive Business Podcast.
Candy:
Hello, everybody, and I am so excited today to have a guest that is very special and very near and dear to my heart. Her name is Jeannie Spiro. She is my business coach and has been my business coach for three years. I’m almost feeling like I’m starting to get emotional because when you meet somebody, and this was a professional meeting. It was a professional business. I still remember… Now I’m going to laugh. I said to Mary Beth, “I don’t think Jeannie likes me,” which is a girlfriend of mine. She says, “Why do you think that?” I said, “I don’t know probably because of what I do,” which was totally not the truth. She’s a business coach.
Candy:
So, when I went to her live event, it was so exciting to meet her. I didn’t know of her. I didn’t know what she did, but I can tell you one thing that I knew. There was a girlfriend of mine, and she could just have a conversation with you. Pretty soon you found yourself saying, “I really want to talk to you more about your business.” I thought that’s the type of behavior, demeanor that I want to have with my clients, especially because of what I do. So, Jeannie’s my business coach. I’m going to let her tell you a little bit more about what she does, and then we’re going to have a wonderful interview today. Here we go.
Jeannie:
Candy, I’m so happy to be here. I am grateful to be asked and to be with all of your listeners. So, yes, I am a business coach and I am your business coach, but we have so many more layers than me being your business coach, which I know we’ll get into in a moment. When you first met me, I was really more working with women who were in the emerging stage of business, but that’s evolved over time. I specialize in working with women who’ve reached a certain stage of their business and are looking for the next evolution. So, it can come in a variety of ways as a transformation or as a time of realizing their passion needs to be reignited or their profits need to be kicked into another gear. So, yeah, I’m so happy to be here.
Candy:
Thank you. So, you know how we always talk about our avatar, our ideal clients. So, even with her reformatting some language in her business, I still fit. So, that’s a really good business point to look at, I think. But first, I want to talk a little bit about the timeline, the journey of Jeannie and I. So, I just want to ask you that question, Jeannie, from your perspective, because in a previous podcast, I said that I would be bringing my business coach Jeannie Spiro on because I felt like we had such a cool meeting. So, here she is now. I’d like to get your perception about what happened.
Jeannie:
Okay, so this is one of my favorite meetings and it was very pivotal at that time. I was having my live events. It was the first time that I had an event that I really didn’t know most of the people that were going to be coming to my event, because I had asked other speakers who were my clients to invite other guests. You were invited and Mary Beth, you were invited by the client, Nicole, at the time, who was a client of mine. She invited you. I remember we’d had a conversation, I believe you actually had called me. I thought that was really unique, first and foremost, that you’d called me before you came to the event. I thought, “Well, that’s nice.”
Jeannie:
I don’t know who you are, but I can’t wait to meet you at the event. I remember you being at the event and it was one of my larger events, the first time that I had one. So, again, I didn’t know a lot of the people there. The way my event was set up was it was all content the whole first day. That evening, we were having a cocktail party. I haven’t talked anything about what I was doing or what I might be offering as far as a coaching program. My favorite thing, although I saw you, I knew you were there. I think we briefly might have met each other during the day. But that evening at the cocktail party, I was in a space of, “Wow, I had my first day.” I was excited to meet everybody. I was not even thinking about selling anything or offering anything.
Jeannie:
You came up to me, and you said, “Whatever it is that you’re offering, I’m in. I want to be the first person to sign up.” I thought, “What, really? What are we talking about here?” So, you sort of blew my mind in that first meeting, because in my mind, I’m thinking, “Wow, whatever I’m doing is really working. Who is this woman I really need to be paying attention to?” Do you remember I think I said to you, “Well, I’ll be talking more about that tomorrow”? You said, “No, I want to be the first person to sign up.” I’m like, “You don’t even know what I’m selling, you don’t even know what I’m offering.” It was only one day. So, I thought, “Wow, how does she know?”
Jeannie:
This is the part that I didn’t know is that you on your side intuitively knew, but we had that instant connection. I was like, “Well, of course, because there’s something about us.” I’m even having sugars as I’m talking about this. There’s something about our connection that sparked in that moment that would be explored the next day and then beyond. So, yeah, that’s my first my perspective of what happened or remembrance of what happened. Am I on target?
Candy:
Yeah, you’re very much on target. I didn’t expect this to happen in the interview, but in this moment, business is unfolding. For instance, Jeannie’s talking about she didn’t even know who was going to show up, but here’s my side of the story. So, I had just had cancer, I had just got done with a whole year and a half of treatment. I decided to quit my position at Millersville. My husband also wasn’t in my life. So, I didn’t have a job. I didn’t have a career. Millersville, I would have got $50 a month, because I didn’t want to touch my retirement. So, I needed to figure out what I was going to do for money, number one, and I was evaluating my gifts in life.
Candy:
I really loved the Akashic records. I didn’t know what I was going to do with that, but I knew I needed to step up differently. You know the old saying, “You can’t get to where you want to go from where you’re at.” So, I thought I can’t do things the same anymore. After having a little bout with cancer, I was like, “Yeah. No, thank you, not more of that.” So, I was sitting there in the audience. I had just gotten done learning to professionally speak. So, I went this event and I spent four or five days with these really high performing businessmen and just a couple women. I had nothing to sell. I had nothing to talk about. So, I made up my business there, pretend.
Candy:
In this moment, Jeannie, I’m realizing that that pretend actually became my business, even to some of the pricing. I remember the prompter who was very engineer mind, awesome guy, very, very well known. He said to me something about this business. I said, “This is a $6.5 billion-business like intuition.” It caught everybody, all the men that were super… I mean, I’m talking high performing like, million, million-dollar businesses. And then there’s me, unemployed, $50 a month that wants to do some spiritual business. So, going back to the moment that we met, why I knew I was going to sign up with her.
Candy:
Number one was my intuition. My guides literally said, I mean like in my ear very loudly, “This is your coach and you’re going to be with her a minimum of three years.” So, they said, “Don’t even think about changing, looking anywhere else. After this, be focused and stay with her. She’s going to get you there.” So, I leaned over to Mary Beth, who Mary Beth and I didn’t know each other. We came in from Lancaster, Pennsylvania. We knew Nicole, who was the person, I just said, was very smooth with her business transactions and just as an awesome person. So, I leaned over to Mary Beth, who I didn’t know. We drove seven hours, so now we really knew each other.
Candy:
I said, “I think I’m going to sign up for Jeannie’s program.” She goes, “I know but she didn’t offer anything.” I said, “I know.” And then she said, “The weird thing is somewhere inside I feel like I’m going to sign up too.” I said, “But you’re already working somewhere,” and she said, “I know.” So, she didn’t need a business and I didn’t need a business. Both of us were going to sign up. The other thing that Jeannie did in her brilliance, which I absolutely think she is probably one of the best business coaches out there. If you want to get there, she’ll get you there. If you’re willing to do some work and be focused, she’ll get you there.
Candy:
But the other thing that she did is she created the million-dollar workbook. So, at these live events, the thing that she didn’t know as I looked through that whole workbook and I said, “Hell yes, this is exactly what I was praying for.” So how many of us that are listening out there have a skill set right now that you might be afraid to step in something like my will? And then there’s a person like Jeannie out there that’s going to be able to help get you there. That somebody is praying for you and your skill set to show up.
Candy:
So, with that being said, that’s how I made a decision I was going to tell Jeannie, “I need to sign up and I want to be the first one.” I guess that sounds very significant, but I was so excited to know that I was going to be able to get my gift into the world. I knew it from the top and the bottom and both sides of my heart.
Jeannie:
Candy, I have to tell you. I remember two other things that happened. Yes, you were the first person that did sign up to work with me in my program that year. The other thing was, I’ll never forget this, you said, “I know exactly what I’m going to do in my work to be able to make sure that I’m taking care of this investment to work with you.” It was so definitive, you would map it out, so clear. I thought, “This is so interesting.” The thing that was funny to me was I didn’t know necessarily about your work at that point, but I knew that I could guide you. You knew that you had a vision.
Jeannie:
So, for me, when we agreed to go into the next step of working together, I knew confidently that I could help you. You knew confidently within yourself that you had a vision, but you didn’t know how to bring it together and get it out there. So, it was this blending of forces. I have my skills, you had your skills. It was like magic could be created to take you where you want it to. So, it was really cool. I still remember that you knew what you wanted, and you were so confident.
Candy:
Well, the thing of it is, though, when I walked into that room, that was one day with Jeannie. I knew nothing. I didn’t know what I was going to offer. I didn’t know how I was going to offer it. That was one day. So, you can see this, this podcast for me is so powerful for business entrepreneurs that are out there that are sitting with some brilliant idea that seems really difficult to pull off. But then when they can see that somebody on the other side, a coach can pull it apart in a way that, number one, they get it. That was important. Her teaching style is formatted in a way that I can get it and she gives me enough time somehow to plate it properly. So, that’s a marriage made in heaven for a creative business entrepreneur, knowing that somebody is going to get you there.
Candy:
The second thing is something Jeannie just said right now is talk about shivers and chills, she said, I was confident. I didn’t know what I was going to offer her. I didn’t know what I was going to offer anybody, but I wasn’t confident until I saw what I was supposed to see through her holding my hand. Jeannie and I continually talk about how we’re parallel. In this very moment, I just saw another moment of parallel.
Jeannie:
Yeah, absolutely. Because we’ve been doing this for years, this sort of weaving back and forth between that first meeting of… I do want to talk about that the [whoo 00:14:56] part of this because I think that’s important, but it didn’t happen initially. I was just confident in what I could do with you to support your business, but I wasn’t awakened at that point. I mean, I was barely… I mean now I recognize the chills and other pieces, but not then. But you were so confident in what you could see for your vision for yourself, which comes from a different place than for me, it was so concrete and almost factual that it was like this masculine and feminine blending that worked so beautifully together to support your business growth, which is really pretty cool.
Candy:
I feel like in this moment, honestly, we’re that infinity sign because I’m seeing the transition of my business right now and I’m seeing the transition of her business. It seems like it’s almost like we grow each other with a figure eight. I’m really believing that in my heart. There’s one more thing that Jeannie had just said a few moments ago before the whoo thing when she said I had made a decision on something that I was going to offer. That’s my current pivot to profit. Now, it took me a few years to get that up and running, because I didn’t know like the statistics and analytics. If you don’t have a list to invite anybody into group program, you can’t really have a group program. So, that did take a while, but that program, the nuts and bolts of it was created at that event in Pivot to Profit.
Jeannie:
Well, I didn’t know the name of it. I don’t think you knew the name of it. You had the vision for it though.
Candy:
I called it Evolve back then, which is actually one of my higher end programs. So, it’s funny. The name I have for my highest end program was created at the very first event. So, do you see how that there’s a really beautiful blend here? Yeah, this is like a Jerry Maguire moment for us.
Jeannie:
I know.
Candy:
Finding the Kwan.
Jeannie:
Yeah, exactly.
Candy:
So back to our first meeting. One of the things I really believed in Jeannie and I still had some fears about introducing intuition into the world. So, one of the questions I asked Jeannie is I also didn’t want it to feel like a conflict of interest. Some people think things like the Akashic records, there’s some sort of religious connotation, which is furthest thing from the truth. It’s like saying the blood in your veins isn’t… It’s part of you. I wanted to make sure she was on board with me. So, I said something like, “How do you feel about us working together or something like that?” Do you remember that?
Jeannie:
Yeah, what did I say? I don’t remember. I don’t think had any problem, did I?
Candy:
Well, you said…
Jeannie:
Oh, yeah, I was not really whoo. I was like half. Yeah. So, that was a piece of it. Except I think the big part for me was, this goes back to what we were just saying, I was so confident me being so corporate and so structured that I knew I could help you. I think other than you, I might have only worked with one other person who is in the spiritual space. So, I wasn’t even a whoo. I was like, “Really?” I was like, “Are you good with that?”
Jeannie:
Actually, I think my fear was can I being somebody who’s not really awakened in my business, would you want to work with me? Because I wasn’t completely on the same parallel with where you were at that point, but I felt confident that I could structurally get you there. But I wasn’t sure that you would actually be connected to me further because I didn’t really understand spiritual awakening either, because I hadn’t been there yet.
Candy:
So, I remember when I asked Jeannie this question, “Are you on board with this? Are you okay with this?” She said, “Well, Candy, I’m only half a whoo.” That was quote, unquote. So, that statement, anyways, it just it gave me a thought for my new book. So, we’ll talk about that later.
Jeannie:
I actually want to say something about that. I had heard that before where some people were like, “I’m not even whoo, I’m not even there.” I don’t even know if I was actually half of whoo at that point. You know what I mean? I might have been saying, “I think I’m half a whoo.” But it was also because I didn’t know what that really meant at that point. Boy, have I come far. We’ll get there. We’ll get there in the story, okay. Yeah, you’re right.
Candy:
Oh, my goodness. That’s great. So, I made actual questions to keep us on point if we are on point, but I love where we’re going.
Jeannie:
Yeah, good.
Candy:
Yeah, so, I asked that question. Okay, so, let’s talk about the pink elephant in the room sometimes is called intuition. So, did you start to see things differently in your own business after you start working with me because you really had to pull things apart like I was hoping that you would?
Jeannie:
Yeah. Well, so a couple of things happened, and I hope this is okay if I share this. I remember you wanted me to have a reading, because you wanted me to really understand. It was a hard reading for me. I wasn’t sure what to do with the information. I was like, “Whoa, what is this all about?” But it was actually really good, because it gave me such an idea… It wasn’t about you and what you were doing and your business. It was more about I’m not even sure if I was awakened enough to receive the information, but it was like the taste that I needed to have more and more and more.
Jeannie:
So, what happened was, yes, you were working with me for me to mentor you. I knew what we could do with the work that you had. Then I had this slice of working with you. I was like, “Wait a second, what does this mean to me?” It didn’t do anything to how I knew I could support you, but it was this internal shift within me that made me start to really understand the power of what you could do and how you could impact other people by sort of the insight and the awakening opportunities that you provided. So, it was a pivotal moment for me, because then I realized what more I can be doing to support you with your business growth. So, that really helped me when I look back on it at that point.
Jeannie:
I was still so trapped in that sort of my corporate space and my corporate mindset and my corporate body and being that I was like, “Wait a minute, what does this mean? Why are you in my path? Why are we doing this? We’re going deeper and deeper and deeper. Your work is so cool.” I felt like I’d opened up a book, and I couldn’t stop reading it when I was started working with you to develop your business. It was like, “Oh, I want to read the book 12 more times to see if I missed anything.” That’s sort of what it felt like to me every time I got to work to develop your business more and more.
Candy:
When was it then that you decided that you might need more of that in your life or business?
Jeannie:
Oh, my gosh, when was it exactly? I’m losing track because there have been so many layers, but I remember there came a time where I was listening to you and what you were doing and talking about how you were able to support other people where I thought, “Wait a minute, I think you’re talking to me. You’re talking about the things that I’m starting to observe.” So, in our journey together, I began to really start to pay attention to more of my own intuition. I realized I was an empath. I realized I was highly sensitive. A lot of this comes from you, because I was starting to understand how not to question that anymore, but I always was Candy. I was always that person that sensed and felt I could feel people’s emotions in a room. I always felt other people’s energy.
Jeannie:
I remember a couple of years ago that I wasn’t able to look… This is a terrible example. But if someone had an accident, I couldn’t look because I would feel their pain. I thought, “I can’t tell anybody this. Who would ever understand? They’re going to think I’m nuts if I say that these are the things that I’m feeling.” But what was happening is the more that we were working together and the more that I was understanding my evolution, it was like, “Oh, okay, so I’m not odd. This just further explains me.” So, I started having these feelings about my business direction and things were starting to feel off at different times. I knew I needed to make some pivots. I can’t remember exactly. Do you remember when it was?
Candy:
I kind of remember that something happened. I think everything’s always pivotal around your live events, right? I mean, that’s how it is for all of us that have live events. There’s always that thing that something happens. I kind of feel like that’s where you were at, something happened. I don’t remember the specifics. I just remember seeing your face across for me and I knew that it wasn’t… When Jeannie face stops, because she’s so fluid with speaking, you know that something’s the matter. She always has a very pleasant look, and it just broke my heart. I knew something was wrong. I knew she needed support and my heart just opened.
Candy:
Sometimes I think just with intuition, it’s that moment where we open our heart and take that window of opportunity to deeply connect with somebody. I don’t even think I ever even thought of you working with me. I was looking for a very beginning type of entrepreneurs because I was no. Jeannie’s a very high-level person, performing business coach. She’s been in business 10 years, she’s very solid. I wasn’t sure my skill set was strong enough at the time, but my heart was strong enough. And then everything kind of blended.
Jeannie:
Candy, I think it was happening over a period of time. That’s why there’s not like a definitive, “Okay, this needed to happen at this time.” But what was happening was I was becoming more aware of what you were doing and how you’re helping other people, because I was supporting you in areas of your business. I do think it was around an event, but it was also prior to an event because I was starting to recognize I don’t necessarily want to be doing what I’m doing exactly anymore, or something felt off. So, it’s starting to get more familiar with these feelings in my business of something is out of alignment, something isn’t quite right.
Jeannie:
And then we started talking more about how you could support me through the next evolution of my business to make sure that things was sort of lining up to a level of my satisfaction to the people that I was going to be working with. I think that the other piece is and you know this because when you reach a certain level in business, it’s no longer about finding a client to work with you, which is what happens in the beginning. There’s so much to learn and you’re hoping someone’s going to work with you.
Jeannie:
When you get to a certain stage of business, there’s a lot at stake because there’s how people perceive you. There’s what will happen if the income goes away if you make the wrong decision, if you offer the wrong program. There’s so many things that happen at another stage of business that it becomes a little bit more challenging. Whereas in the beginning stage of business, it’s different. It’s very much mindset driven in the beginning, but then it becomes so tactical. Combined with mindset, you need someone with superpowers to sort of help you through those moments. That’s I think where I was getting.
Jeannie:
So, it wasn’t like this exact moment, but it was getting to that point where I have a lot that I could lose if I don’t make decisions that are in tune with the direction of that path feels right for me. That’s where I think it really just opened up for us that you needed to work with me, not just me work with you. It was I need this support to be able to keep growing.
Candy:
So, I love where you’re at. I want to lean into that for a moment. Can you tell people specifically how you utilize my services? Because I think that would be helpful, because it still seems the theoretical, I think sometimes to people so.
Jeannie:
Absolutely. So, in a few ways, one way is… I mean we’ve been working together for several years now. So, I have the beauty of working with you at your highest-level program. So, I have the support, not just for a session or reading. I have ongoing support which is fabulous because I can reach out to you when I need sessions and I do. We have something more regularly. So, on top of all this, the way that I really work with you is you’re providing guidance for me and support for me as I’m making some big decisions.
Jeannie:
So, when you’re working with the records and you’re working with my intuition and I’m working with my own intuition, you’re helping me who I’m already starting to see where something might not be in alignment. You’re able to see what isn’t in alignment and what is in alignment. You’re able to work with my own energy and my own guides and sort of my path to say, “Is this true?” or “Is this not true?” Because there are times I can’t see if it’s true or not, because I think I’m still awakening. I’m no longer half a whoo. I mean, you know that, but on the scale of whoo, I don’t know where you think I am now. We’ll have to talk about that.
Candy:
Actually, it’ll be in my book, I’m going to have levels of whoo, so.
Jeannie:
Okay, good.
Candy:
We will talk about that. That’s awesome.
Jeannie:
But where you come in is you really helped me to align to my intuition and my guidance to the whispers that are happening inside of me and validate them and guide me in ways that I can’t sometimes do with myself. You challenged me sometimes with some of the things that might come up where I’m like, “Oh, I didn’t want to see this, but it’s here. I feel it. I see it now, and now I need to step in.”
Jeannie:
So, I don’t know how to explain it other than you walk alongside of me what I know inside my head might need to be changed or changing. You helped me with some of the blocks that come up. You helped me with some of the barriers that are coming up. You helped me clear some of those so I can step back into ease and flow and comfort for the next evolution of my own business and my journey here. So, I hope that helps.
Candy:
Oh, absolutely. I love that. That was so beautiful. Thank you again, Jeannie.
Jeannie:
Thank you.
Candy:
I also see when a client comes to see me, they kind of have their own agenda too. So, they’ll make a list of things that they’re feeling some stuckness around. You know ow like when you go through your day and you get this done and this done and then there’s always that last thing that sitting there that thing, that you don’t want to do or that thing that you don’t know what to do with next.
Candy:
So, that’s what Jeannie have, a really big list of questions and we go boom, boom, boom. We really go through them. This serves you this way. This wouldn’t serve you as well this way. I think what it really does, I’ve been able to watch Jeannie’s business and be part of watching her growth and evolution as she helps my growth and evolution. Where she was and where I see her now is two different Jeannie’s, because I think of the guides helping her to see. Would you say you were working too hard? Can you talk about that?
Jeannie:
Oh, my goodness. Yes.
Candy:
That transition.
Jeannie:
I brought so much corporate energy into my work initially. When you first met me, I still had a lot of that. You said that to me before that my energy from my corporate life was still pretty present. So, part of why I was at that half whoo stage was because I shut so much of that off for such a long time, because I was working from this masculine space and this grind for such a long time. That’s all I knew. That’s what I was good at. I brought that same energy into my business initially. It’s taken a long time to pull it apart. I’ve repeated the same patterns several times as an entrepreneur, and it hasn’t served me.
Jeannie:
So, sometimes when we talk, when I’ll come to you, and I’ll say, “Candy, some of the decisions we need to make at this point feel so different for me, because it’s not what I’m used to, but I know I don’t want that anymore.” That’s the scary part. It’s like learning to work from a place of ease. It’s learning to work from that space as opposed to the pushing space that I was in. So, where I’m going is releasing a lot of that, releasing the grind, releasing the habits, releasing the struggle. A lot of people who I’ve worked with have done that in corporate or in their jobs. We as women, you have a family too, Candy, so we’ve pushed, pushed, pushed, pushed for a long time.
Jeannie:
So, it’s not necessarily natural or comfortable for us to lean back and say, “Well, this can be a lot easier,” because we’re so used to that push. So, what I’m really working with and have been for myself is this new rhythm of how to work from ease flow and joy, grace, passion, and profitability. It can all happen. I’m working with women to show them that that’s possible too. That instead of grinding anymore, let’s take it to the next level of success without that masculine drive that we’re used to. So, you’ve been supporting me with years to get there. You’re seeing that happening for me, and it is. It’s all unfolding. That’s most of my clients are asking me, “How can I work in a different way that serves me versus push, push, push?” I love that.
Candy:
Amen. I think with everything that’s happened recently in our world, I mean, I called it sit down in your timeout chair. I think when we were in our timeout chair, a big awakening happened on this planet. I think more people are going to need coaches that serve them to take out their push and the hustle and transition into another level of consciousness in business. I really think that’s where both of our businesses are going to, on next conscious level. I think both of us are very needed. Me, the mindset, healing part, and then you, the strategic.
Candy:
Like you said, everything was just put into encapsulated thoughts. You just pulled apart my business. It didn’t matter if it was spiritual or not and just put it into your… She has many formulas, templates. I mean, she really makes it easy for a business owner to succeed, even if they’re starting. Really, I wasn’t an entrepreneur before. I mean, I had a real estate business, but I didn’t have to worry about marketing. I was an investor in real estate. So, it’s a whole different strategy. So, I really needed to learn everything. I think I’m doing pretty good from you know what you’ve taught me, so.
Jeannie:
Oh my gosh, you are. I mean, where you’ve come and what you’re able to do and the impact that you’re making. This is the piece that I’ve been really excited about for other women too is there’s a way to make more money without working so hard. A lot of people will talk about that and say, “Oh, you can work from wherever.” But to be honest with you, Candy, I have seen a lot of people do that, but they’re still working really, really hard furiously. I think about Fred Flintstone in his car and spinning his feet. I feel like that’s what I was doing for such a long time and many women do the same thing, right? We think we have to do that. We grind away, grind away for our business growth.
Jeannie:
But what about if we don’t have to do that? What if instead, it can really be a simple business model, a business model that gives us the joy and love that we want to do the things that we want to do? If we have an idea, we don’t have to work really, really hard to make it come true. There’s ways in which it can happen. That’s what I’ve been seeing is releasing that grind for further growth in this beautiful, amazing space that is actually possible, and it’s not unrealistic. So, I’m really in a different space than I was, even six months ago before all of this happened. So, I think many of us are getting to that. Well, we’re awakening.
Candy:
Yeah, you really were in a much different space. So, from Jeannie’s first event, this last event was I think the third event that I got to see. So, the first event, there were 80 people. Like she said, that she didn’t know everybody there, but she kind of became a lot more intimate. She liked intimacy, really getting to know the people, having a more intimate space of people, which she did. It was more about… I don’t want to say spiritual, but it seems like she starts to attract more spiritual entrepreneurs at some point or people that are just heart centered, I should say, because of herself and how she’s presenting herself to the world.
Candy:
So, that was before, that was this past November. So, when you had your timeout chair, I know you were talking a lot about that today, but what’s one distinction that you said, “Oh, heck no. No more of this” that you really let go of over this last three months?
Jeannie:
Well, I have to tell you, I don’t know if you even remember this because I know sometimes when you’re doing a reading, you’re not able to. But one of the things that you did say to me was, “Make a list of things that are not never, never again, and burn it.” I did I made a list. So, things that I was doing… This goes back into the grind. So, in order to keep the pace of my business a certain way, to keep the income that it was in, to please everyone, which was a piece of it too, I was working a lot of hours. I was working many, many hours. I was working weekends. I was pulling a lot of all nighters at different times, especially when it came to a live event.
Jeannie:
Ever since I put that on that list that you said put it on and burned it, I go to sleep. I sleep really, really well. I finished my day. I go for a walk every afternoon with my son because he’s working from home now too. So, our whole family’s doing work from home. We are committed to about three to five miles every day. I don’t go back on my computer except maybe if I do, it will be before 8:00 and there’ll be one or two quick things that I’m not working. That was a big thing to release and I feel so much lighter. I mean not weight wise, you know what I mean? But just energetically, I feel so much lighter.
Candy:
Well, you actually are lighter since you worked on your health a lot. That was one of the things that you worked on is taking care of you first again or I don’t even know if that was something you really did push hard in life like really hard. I don’t know if you ever put yourself first before, I hate to say that, but I would guess maybe not, I mean, even to this day as a coach, she rolls her sleeves up and we get at it, but she also says to you as a coach, “Hey, I think we need to go sit by the water and do this work, because you need a little grounding.” When Jeannie said that the first time, this corporate said to me, “You know what? You need to get grounded. I’m taking you to the water,” and she totally grounded me. I went, “Wow, that’s different.”
Jeannie:
Well, this is thanks to you. Really one of the things that we’ve done over the last couple of years is understand how I can best use my intuition, I know we’re going to talk about that, how I’m using my intuition in my business, even as a strategist and coach. I’m so much more comfortable doing it and acknowledging that I’m doing it. I didn’t know I was doing it. That’s the thing. Where you would say, “Do you know you just channeled that?” I’m like, “What do you mean by that? I don’t know what you’re talking about.” You would say, “The way you just operate or what just came from you, you just channeled that when you were coaching me, or I saw you coaching somebody else.”
Jeannie:
And then the example might be when I was doing signature talks a lot for people. I can do a signature talk for anyone. I can create someone’s signature talk. It doesn’t matter who they are, and it just flows right through me. I can come up with a five-minute talk for someone and it’s easy. You’re like, “Do you know you’re channeling that?” I’m like, “What? I just thought it was easy.” So, I love that you’ve helped me acknowledge and recognize what is my intuition and how to use it better, even as a business coach, because it’s helped me be even better at my skills in business.
Candy:
Thank you. Do you remember… This isn’t the same grain of thought. … going to my live event, Awaken Your Intuition? Tell me what that was like for you, because I want to tell you something about Jeannie too. It was absolutely cool, so.
Jeannie:
Yeah, so what’s funny about us is we read back and forth. So, I’m a client, she’s a client. We take advantage of the opportunities to be at different events for each other and all of that too. So, this was an opportunity, which I was really excited about, because of course, I’m always looking for more access to Candy and what she provides. So, it was a one-day event. I remember being excited to be able to have some more time and space to awaken some things that I was working on, like mentally starting to work on.
Jeannie:
I remember that being just like a nice day for me to get grounded and think about how to access my own Akashic records. At one point, you did this exercise, which we’re going to talk about. I was thinking, “Wow, we’re working on the exact same plane here. This is so cool how you’re doing your work, I’m doing my work.” There was this just energetic connection between how you were doing your work and getting insight, and I was observing and thinking strategically about how they could work with what you just given them, right? Am I going to talk about this?
Candy:
Yeah, yeah.
Jeannie:
So, tell from your perspective.
Candy:
So, one of the things I decided to do is I don’t know how I do it, but what I can do is I can open up everybody in the rooms records at the same time. So, what it looks like visually for me is it’s almost like everybody has a little golden thread and then at the end, I release it. I asked for permission, and then I go in. It’s kind of like business hot seats. Somebody said, “Call them love seats. Hot seats aren’t a good thing.” So, then people will go around, and we were looking at some of the blocks that they had that they were going to release.
Candy:
So, we went around the room and they kind of went back to an event that they thought they were going to need to release a block around in their business or in their life, but they also talked a little bit about what they were stuck on. So, my instructions were to everybody in the room, as I go to everybody, I want you to intuit some of the answers to these questions. Because I was channeling the answers, but I wanted them to get a pre-frame of what it felt like to feel somebody else’s energy that was giving permission for this exercise. I’m channeling, so I’m in this world and in the room as well.
Candy:
All of a sudden, I realized Jeannie’s to my right, and she is writing up a storm. Everybody else was taking some notes, but she’s writing a book over there. I said, “Are you okay over there, Jeannie?” You said, “I’m just doing what you said to do. I’m just feeling into my intuition and then leaning into the business model.” She’s like writing books and many of the clients-
Jeannie:
[crosstalk 00:48:10], yeah.
Candy:
Do you remember that?
Jeannie:
Yes, yes. I took your assignment seriously. I always do. Anything you tell me, burn that list, whatever it is. Yeah, keep going.
Candy:
She’s my A+ student. Anyways, I always knew Jeannie was intuitive, but what I realized in that moment was she’s so strong with her intuition as an empath. The one thing I always want to say to each and every one of you as a listener. If I say, “Oh, I see that,” you think “Oh, I’ll never see that,” you might be right. But here’s the thing. You have another sensory. There’s all the [clairs 00:48:57] which we’ll talk about another time, but you have that. I think it doesn’t matter which one you have, as long as you use that well. I think in that moment, Jeannie was lit up like a firecracker.
Candy:
To me, I do believe that was for you a pivotal moment in seeing how to use intuition strategically in business because she was strategic before. She kind of knew things, but now, she was able to access it intentionally and focus it in to use it for whatever her task was at hand. Is that true?
Jeannie:
Yes, absolutely. One of the things that I started to realize was from that time, I started to realize how do I operate better strategically intuitively, because that was such an open time. I was so open. There was nothing cluttering my space or my mind, it was like everything could just flow. So, it was easy for me to find, because I was focused on whoever it was speaking. I was just really feeling what was best for them and seeing what I know strategically could happen. I can’t see things at all. I can definitely feel things but sort of in my mind, I could see what could be happening business-wise for them. But I could feel energetically what should be happening and what their next moves would be.
Jeannie:
Since that time, what I’ve realized is I do some of my best coaching when I’m standing, when I’m walking, like I’m moving around. It’s like, okay, I got the energy going. Sometimes I’ll tell people like, I’ll even have to be on Zoom and I’ll have to do it sometimes, I’m like, “I have to walk this camera around, because I need to get into that space to be able to really intuitively find out strategically what’s the next best thing for you.” I used to hold back though, Candy. Before that, I used to not tell people what I… Not all the time, but many times I’d be like, “Should I even say what I’m thinking?” Now it just comes out. I’m like, “This is what you really need to be doing.” It’s not coming from a headspace. It’s coming from this intuitive space. I feel so much stronger in that.
Candy:
Well, you are. So, Jeannie and I both have access to each other through I call it spiritual concierge, meaning it’s Voxer. So, we both have access to each other that way. So, when I’m working with somebody, especially somebody who has a high-end business, and we’re lamenting over a couple different options or trying to get her next level of insight, I kind of naturally stay with that thought. That’s why I only take a certain amount of private clients. So, usually when I’m in the shower, I’ll get a huge insight. Can I tell them who I am sometimes get an insight from?
Jeannie:
Yeah. I mean, sure.
Candy:
So, Jeannie had this really awesome and still has this awesome uncle spiritually, Uncle John. Uncle John has been such a great business mentor to her. I don’t remember how he popped into the readings. I don’t remember how he start coming. But when Jeannie needs help, he is very strongly there. Her grandmother also supports but she doesn’t like to be as vocal, but because her uncle was a huge presence. So, tell us about that a little bit.
Jeannie:
Now we’re going what are we doing-
Candy:
[crosstalk 00:52:42] direction. Yeah.
Jeannie:
We’re going totally whoo.
Candy:
Totally whoo.
Jeannie:
Yeah. So, I remember actually it was my uncle was passing and he did pass away. I remember you were very much involved in some of the… That’s a whole separate conversation, but you were very much involved in supporting me through that time when he was transitioning in the past. Ever since that time, I remember seeing or hearing… So, there’s a special song that was played at his funeral. Every time I’d hear that song, I would say, “Oh, well, there it is again.”
Jeannie:
Sort of family wise, we always talk about it, but every time I would hear that song, it was like, “Wow, he’s there. I feel his presence again.” This has been going on now almost two years. You know the song now, you’re aware of his presence. It was very hard for me in the beginning because in the space that when he was alive, I remember being able to talk to him and ask him questions.
Jeannie:
Now I feel like I’m in a different space where I can connect with him and chat in these conversations where I’m like, “Yeah, okay, cool. We’re having this conversation about this.” I feel so much stronger in his guidance, I guess is the best way I can say it. It’s like it didn’t change. I still know it. It’s sort of validating some of the direction that I go in now. Yeah, he’s always very strong business wise and make really good strategic decisions. So, I would often ask him questions when he was alive. So, it’s just nice to have a different way of being able to be like, “Yeah, we have this kind of connection that I still can get validation some of the directions that I need.”
Candy:
That’s so beautiful. Yeah, it’s interesting. Jeannie’s not the only person that happens to. I never know who has a guide, and sometimes a guide from their past will come through. I would say, almost every one of my private clients has somebody now that I’m thinking. I never really thought about it. They have somebody that comes through that’s very special to them, and it just naturally happens. So, it’s kind of a cool part of working together, I think.
Candy:
The other part I wanted to say is, Jeannie Voxers me the other day. I was struggling with my business. I was going in two or three different directions. I couldn’t get myself there. She tried to get me there and she’s a great coach, but I just couldn’t get myself there. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. So, the other day she channel she Voxers me. Do you remember what you said?
Jeannie:
I do, yeah, what you need to be doing for an event.
Candy:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. She said, I downloaded. She’ll get downloads like mental downloads. I truly believe it takes such a small, tiny direction to get people using their intuition in business. I think people aren’t just afraid of it or don’t quite understand it. But when somebody holds your hand through the process of “Oh, you mean that’s a channel or that’s a download or that’s an insight or my uncle could still talk to me. He was my biggest business advocate and confidant?”, yes and yes and yes.
Candy:
That’s why I have this podcast. The Intuitive Business Podcast is for this reason. I believe intuition is our next step as business entrepreneurs that have a mission and want to get it out there faster. Why not do it with ease and flow than that hard, harsh feeling of heaviness? It’s unnecessary. It’s just an old pattern that no longer serves you.
Jeannie:
I actually want to add two things to this because in the beginning, I wasn’t aware of what it was until you started helping me with it, which was this awareness, which I loved. It was like you were giving me that insight, but then it’s become this space of validating what I was starting to see as insight and that I was getting stronger in using it and accessing my intuition. Through the comfort and trust of working together, it’s become, “Oh, thanks, Candy.” In the beginning, it was like, “Should I be using this? Is this right? Does this make sense? No, you do it for me.” That’s how it felt.
Jeannie:
Now it’s like, “Oh.” We trust each other very much. I now know I can use this gift that I’ve developed because of our work together even further. It was always there, but I just didn’t know how to use it. I can confidently use it and feel good about it and that I don’t hold back anymore, which is a big difference between before it was like, “Should I ride my bike? Should I take the training wheels off? What will happen if someone sees me and this doesn’t work?” Now I just do it and I offer it and I tell people. If people don’t want to listen to what I have to say, okay, but I’m telling you what I think really needs to happen. It’s just such a nice space to be that we’ve developed me to a level that I feel comfortable now using this skill.
Candy:
Excellent. Is there anything else that you can think of that I forgot or that you wanted to say at this point?
Jeannie:
Well, so should we talk about the levels of whoo and how far I am now? So, I’m not half a whoo anymore, right? I’m pretty close to totally whoo. If not, I’m totally whoo, alright.
Candy:
You believe that if you’re using the advice of your beloved uncle in your business and you’re channeling and downloading, you are officially totally whoo.
Jeannie:
Alright. It’s like I’ve made it to a whole new level. I love it.
Candy:
Excellent. Do you want to state to the world your next iteration of you?
Jeannie:
Yeah.
Candy:
Thank you.
Jeannie:
I’m happy to. I’m happy to do. So, the next piece of me and what I’m doing is… If anyone’s interested in learning more about me, I’m at jeanniespiro.com. The next stage that I’m going through is supporting women who are going through their own personal evolution of sort of unwinding some of what they’ve created, so that they’re stepping into a new business or a business that allows them to work from a very heart centered spacious space and as opposed to a very masculine driven space.
Jeannie:
So, I’m working with women who have reached a level of success, it doesn’t matter what level it is, or they’ve recognized that getting to a certain stage in business has been so hard and they no longer want to work that hard. So, it could be a financial level, or it could be a recognition of “I’ve worked for a very, very long time to try to achieve this. Why am I spinning my wheels and it’s not working?” So, I’m helping get clarity around that, unraveling some of the habits that might have been created, and also recreating from a new space of joy and ease, but strategically doing it to create a business that they actually really love. So, yeah, that’s the next phase.
Candy:
Maybe that’s called Whoo Amplify.
Jeannie:
It could be.
Candy:
Well, Jeannie, I still love you. I really do. We really have more than a coaching relationship. It’s more than a Jerry Maguire relationship. I never expected to just have this type of relationship with Jeannie. Boy, this business is very precious to me, mine and I know hers is too. To be able to have trusted hands in your businesses, it’s priceless. So, check out jeanniespiro.com, because I know that she can get you to the next level of you and I can get you to the next level of whoo.
Jeannie:
I love you too, Candy. Thank you so much for having me.
Candy:
Thank you so much. Thank you.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast.
Hello, everyone, and welcome. As I sit here in my office, I am hearing a truck outside. The truck’s a dump truck and it’s dumping about three scoops of mulch, just in time for Mother’s Day. I want to dedicate this episode, of course, to all mothers and especially to my mother-in-law, Josie. Today, she was diagnosed with a coronavirus and she’s been my mom for 36 years. I’m just sending her really happy thoughts, and I’m inviting you to send happy thoughts of health and wealth to her. She’s asymptomatic right now, but she had a headache this week, we think, so yeah.
So send her some love. She’s really awesome lady. She has a picture with her and Mother Teresa, and that pretty much sums it up with my mother-in-law. She’s always devoted her life to feeding the homeless and helping kids in school that needed it. She was a librarian. She would always read stories and take care of them. So I’m going to devote this or dedicate this episode to her and wishing her good health and happiness, that she comes through this quickly. So thank you.
So today I want to talk about mothers. Oh my goodness, what a subject. For me and for the model of the world I came from, I was very lucky and very loved, and I’m really grateful for that. So that’s the pre-frame I’m going to come from is moms that truly love their children, and for some mothers out there that may have had to go some other … the child that they gave up in this world because of the situation that they were in. As you’re listening to this, you may have not even ever shared with somebody that you had to give a baby up, but I want to talk to you, too, because I want to thank you.
I want to thank you from an adopted kid. I want to talk to you because somehow I understand your heart. My very first episode, I talk about meeting my birth mother. I knew my birth mother. I met her when I was 33 years old. I knew nothing about her. Zero. Not her name, not how old she was nor where she lived. Nothing. So one time I wrote a story called Bananas on Trees. I was a 16-year-old girl, and I went to Florida for my very first time, and my girlfriend’s Nana, we were at her house, and I looked up in the tree, and I’ll be darned, there were these green things shaped just like bananas. I wasn’t stupid, I knew what they were, but it just absolutely mesmerized me that these bananas were up on that tree.
Somehow in my heart, since I never was born from anybody … as a little kid, our minds are quite literal, and I didn’t have a birth vessel. My mom didn’t bore me or birthed me into this world. She loved me and I’d loved her and she was my mom, but she didn’t bring me into the world that way. So I kind of felt like bananas on trees. Even though we know the banana in the grocery store literally came from a tree, the first time you see it, even if you’re 16, it’s kind of jarring. That’s kind of how it felt when I met my birth mother. I tell the story about how intuition led me and intuitive reading led me to my mother, and all parts of that reading were true. I still have that recorded today.
So the person that’s listening to me right now that may have given a child up, and maybe you don’t know who your kid is, or how they’re doing, if they’re safe. So I’m going to invite you to think about the gift that my birth mother gave to me. She gave me my mom, Betty. She gave me a better life than she could have had then when she was 17 or 18. She gave me a mom and dad that I can’t even imagine. I mean, I love my children so much, but somehow as much as I love my children, I really felt loved from top to bottom, front to back, oh man. So if you’re sitting there for any reason wondering how your daughter or your son’s doing that you may have given up, I can tell you, I met a whole bunch of adopted kids. I had a great life, so I can only speak for me, but I saw a lot of adopted kids back in my day. The kids that were given up in the ’60s, they were all so loved, and well taken care of, and so wanted, and had such great families, at the picnics I used to go to with the adopted kids. We were all adopted.
Then, every now and then, there’d be somebody show up with the adopted party that had an adopted kid, and they’d have a bump in their belly. So surprise, surprise. That’s kind of how my mom was too. My mom, Betty, she’s the one that raised me and she’s the one I consider my mom. Jerry was my birth mom and I consider her Jerry, my birth mom, but I called her Jerry. I always called my mom, mom.
So this month, a couple of days ago, I just celebrated my I Got You Day. That always started to be a sad day after both my parents were gone. My mom’s now been gone around 25 years. So May 2nd, I’d always get a gift because that was my birthday. That was the first day my parents saw me and they had an I Got You story. So my mom said she waited and waited and waited for me. They waited 10 years. They were married 10 years. I forget how long. I think it was close to that for the adoption agency because my mom and dad were like 31 and 32. Back in the ’60s, people had their grandchildren by the time they were 36. So they waited to get me a long time. Then my mom was quite anxious and they would make all these visits into the home.
It got to the point that she was going to have a breakdown over it, my dad said, because they’d come in and they’d come in with a white glove. He never knew when they were coming, and the woman would say, “How’s the child ever going to live in this home? It’s so clean. Every time I come in, there’s never any dust.” Like, “How’s the child going to live like that?” Then my mom would just about go crazy, like sitting there waiting and waiting for somebody to like pop into the home while she didn’t dust, which, of course, drove her crazy. So, finally, my dad said to the social worker, “You know, Mrs. Bucca,” he said, “I don’t think Bets can handle much more of this, and we really want a child more than anything in this world. But I can’t see my wife go through this anymore.” Mrs. Bucca said, “Billy, I want to tell you something.” Oops … “Be patient. Just wait a little bit longer.” What she didn’t tell him is that I was already born and I was in the orphanage, and the other thing that she didn’t tell him until I believe the day that she was dying, my dad went to see her.
I remember when he came home, I think it was about 15, and he was shooken up. Like he was … my dad was a real big heart, but he wasn’t like a crier, but I could see he was trying to keep himself together that whole day when he came home and … God, I’m getting emotional thinking about him being emotional. All these years later, I finally realized that when he went to say goodbye to her, I think she told him who she was. Let me tell you who she was. She was an aunt of mine. So my biological birth father was involved in the picture in the beginning, and then my mom and him fell apart at the end. So they had intentions to get married, so the families were involved in this adoption, and at least knew about the situation.
So this lady, Mrs. Bucca, who’s many years deceased, she was a social worker and she was placing her flesh and blood, me, with my mom and dad. I can’t imagine how emotional my dad must have felt knowing that this woman entrusted one of her family members to him. He was a man of great honor and a great pride, and he did everything in life to the nth degree. You know how some people say, “Oh, I procrastinate”? I can honestly say both of my parents were not procrastinators. If something needed to be done, it was done then. When they called me, they expected me to come then. It wasn’t like, “Well, wait a second, mom. Wait a second, dad.” Mm-mm (negative), not in our house. They were great parents.
So this Mother’s Day, all these years later, understanding that when I was born I was in the orphanage and that I was coming home to my mom and dad, and they almost stopped the process right then. Thank goodness that my dad listened to Mrs. Bucca and hang in there for a little bit longer, because right after then they got a call within about two weeks after my mom and dad said, “We can’t handle this anymore. It’s just too disruptive.” Mrs. Bucca said, “We have a couple options for you. One is there’s a little boy and a little girl,” I forget, they were older, maybe four and two, “that need adopted and then we have a baby.” Mrs. Bucca knew what my mom and dad wanted. They said, of course, “Oh, the baby,” and they didn’t even ask what sex. I don’t really think they asked what sex it was right away. Then they were like, “Oh, what is it?” and they said, “A little girl,” and my dad always loved little girls and when they had little Carly, oh my God, he was so happy.
So they went to get me. My mom immediately quit work. She went into work. She said, “Hey, I got my baby coming. I am giving my two-week notice,” and then they quickly had a baby shower almost immediately at work. Then she was a mom. After all those years working, she became a mom. So they drove up to … I believe they went to Roselia. I don’t think that they ever told me or alluded to it not being Roselia, and that’s where they adopted me or picked me up. What I didn’t know my whole life is that Roselia was a home for unwed mothers in Pittsburgh, and young girls would go there to have children that they were going to give up for adoption right before they were showing. Then what would happen is they would help care for the babies with the sisters of Roselia. It was a certain part of the nuns, and I can’t think of it right now. The Dominican nuns and Sisters of Seton Hill, which, if you’ve heard my Phoenix story of my son’s birth, that’s where I went to pray to be healed from cancer. The same nuns. I don’t know if I put that together except right now. So the nuns that nurtured me when I was a baby up until three months old in the orphanage in Roselia are the same nuns I ironically went to, to pray for my son to be born when I was sick with cancer and wanted a second child, Phoenix, my son.
So they go there, and they get out of the car, and they parked the car, and they have a box. There’s like a Kaufmann’s box. Kaufmann’s was a department store, like Watt & Shand or … So they had this box, and my mom says I had to have everything in there. I had to have diaper, diaper pins, plastic pants, shoes, socks. They would have picked me up in May, so like a sweater, a bonnet, a blanket. Like there was … I came with nothing, which is really how all kids come. So they came, they brought this little box in, and the sisters greeted them. They sat them in a waiting room and they took the box and they went back.
My mom said the longest wait of her life. Her nine months was 10 years of having the lady with the finger duster, with the white gloves, coming to her house, and that time that she sat in that waiting room was torturous. She says, “I don’t know what they were doing,” but if you knew my mom, my socks had ruffles. My plastic panties had ruffles. Ruffles had ruffles. I probably had a ruffled slip, so this poor nuns probably had to put all this stuff on me. So she said, “I was waiting and waiting,” and she said, “Then they called me and I came back,” and she said, “Oh, I met you for the first time.”
She said, “You were so beautiful,” and this sister was like putting me, the baby, towards my mom and she said, “Oh Betty, if you don’t stop crying, you’re not going to get the baby.” My dad said she took the back of her hands and start like wiping every tear off of her face so that her eyes were completely dry and like a half of a second, because somehow she took the sisters seriously that this baby wouldn’t be given to her. She was crying. I’m crying now. I never saw my birth like this by telling it to somebody else. I always heard this story as a little girl for my I Got You Day.
So then they took me home and my dad said, the first thing, they got back in the car and he had gotten a parking ticket. He said, “Dammit, Candice Ann, you cost me money ever since.” My husband still says to this day that my dad gave him a dowry to take me. So they took me home and they stopped to get something, some milk or formula or something that was probably on a list. I sat in the car with my mom in her arms. That’s how you carried your baby home in the front seat, unseatbelted in your arms. Although we did seatbelt, I do remember my dad likes seatbelts.
So he went in and he got the grocery bag. My mom said, “I remember when he came out, he had this ball,” and she said, like, he was such a little kid. Like, he went into the grocery store, he was so excited. He’s going to play ball with his three-month old daughter. She said, “It seemed like such a big ball,” and she said, later, she looked at it and it really cupped in her hand. It wasn’t a big ball at all. So that was my gotcha story. That’s how I was born. Dat-da-dah-dah.
So that was on May 2nd. That’s my I Got You Day. I have to admit, these last 25 years, I felt really kind of sad because my sister, she was not born naturally and I absolutely adore her. I remember every part of her birth story. That wasn’t a special day to her. We really didn’t celebrate it as a family. It was usually done privately, my mom, and you’ll get a gift or just say Happy I Got You. So sorry, I had a tickle. So my sister, we’re 10 years apart. I never talked to her about my I Got You Day because we’re sisters. I mean, I don’t think of her as anything different than my sister and I don’t think she ever thinks of me like that.
So this year, I was on this quest, this challenge, and the challenge that the prompter of the quest gave us was a couple options, like to give $100 to somebody; or to read a book, a special book; or to give something meaningful away. All of a sudden, what that led me to was this. I decided to make my I Got You Day a special day again, because it was feeling bad and it shouldn’t have felt bad. I just felt sad. I just miss my parents. I missed that somebody knew that they got me. What a big baby I am right now, but that’s okay. We all have a little girl’s heart, don’t we? I like to think that I do. My little girl was sad. She was sad. She didn’t have her special mom and her special dad, and she wanted to celebrate. She wanted to celebrate her parents.
So what I did was, as I thought, what has meaning that you’re holding onto that your children are going to inherit? But it’s probably won’t mean anything to them unless maybe you give it to them now and place the meaning on it. So I decided that from this day moving forward, I would make my I Got You Day, May 2nd, special by giving my children something special. So this year, what I gave my son was my father’s pocket knife that’s been sitting in the bottom of my jewelries drawer for 30 years. My dad carried that always when I was a little girl. It was in his pocket. When I was a teenager, it was in his pocket. The day he died, it was in his pocket. It was his pocket knife. It was a really pretty, too. I liked it. So I gave that to my son who never met his grandfather. So I thought, “Now I have that part of my I Got You Day back.” Then for my daughter, I said, because of the quarantine, I said, “When you come, I have a little box of jewelry and that’s Bubba’s,” which is her grandmother’s, “and I want you to pick out a piece that’s meaningful to you and to have that in memory of my I Got You Day because I had such great parents.” So that’s how we celebrate May 2nd this year.
So that brings me to my two mothers. So I’m so, so, so grateful that the woman that might be listening right now is hearing a story about a little girl that was really loved, and although you might not know the little girl that you gave birth to, and that you had to make a decision that supported your life and that baby, that baby that you needed to place into somebody else’s arms, just like that nun placed me in my mom’s arms, just like that dad that took care of me and bought me a little ball and cussed at me for costing him so much money. He was playing, of course. My dad was super playful. That little girl that had a daddy that was super playful. You, my love, gave me all that. Your decisions, the decision of a different type of love.
So there’s a special poem that I want to share today. As I met my birth mother when I was 33 years old, my mother who raised me for 33 years, she didn’t want to do this at first. She had the information about my birth mother and I actually … she and I talked about it, and when we first talked about it, she said, “Well, when I pass, you can have it.” That was in July, and then in January my mother ended up giving me some information that helped with the location of my mother. Actually, it’s what led me to my mother.
So the one thing I’ve never really talked about is I was going through so much when I was meeting my birth mother, just meeting her and talking to her and asking, “Why was I put up for adoption?” All the things that you wonder about your genetics, like all the important things that girls want to know. When did you get your period? What size shoes were you? When did you go through menopause? When did you …? All the things I could never ask I was always putting unknown on all my medical records.
So you, my love, that I’m talking to today, I’m sharing happy stories. My mother, who gave me this gift of letting me meet my mother, the one thing I didn’t think about during the … Oh, it was actually traumatic. Just emotionally, it’s too much emotion, too much bottled emotion released all at the same time. So I was going through my own stuff, so I couldn’t support my mom. I know that she has really great sisters and she had my sister so I know she had great support. But one day, then my birth mother passed away almost immediately within 13 days and so I was struggling emotionally. Eventually, after I went to the funeral, to my birth mother’s funeral, I just wanted to go back and just be in my mom’s arms literally. I was 33 years old. I went back, and she was working on a restaurant. She was a hostess and she loved this work so much, greeting people and seeing people every day. She was able to nurture them and carry their food back to them, if they were elderly and just so many nice things.
One day a woman came in, one of her friends, in the restaurant she worked at and they said, “Betty, we know you’ve been probably going through a lot with you helping Candy to find her birth mother and her meeting her, and then of course her losing her birth mother and you supporting your daughter through all that. I’m sure that this has been hard on you and we just wanted to give you this gift.” It was a poem. It’s called Legacy of an Adopted Child.
Once there were two women who never knew each other. One, you do not remember; the other, you call mother. Two different lives shaped to make yours one. One became your guiding star; the other became your sun. The first gave you life, the second taught you to live it. The first gave you a need for love, and the second was there to give it. One gave you a nationality, and the other gave you a name. One gave you the seed of talent, and the other gave you an aim. One gave you emotions, and the other one calmed your fears. One saw your first smile, and the other one dried your tears. One gave you up … One gave you up, it was all she could do. The other prayed for a child and was led straight to you. And now you ask me through your tears the age-old question through the years, heredity or environment, which are you a product of? Neither my darling, neither. Just two kinds of love.
I wish you all the happiest, as I’m crying, Mother’s Day ever from a mother’s heart to all the mother’s hearts. I’m sending you so much love on this mother’s day. If you would like my meditation on love to offer to your mom for Mother’s Day, please go to my website, www.candicehozza.com/love, and share that with your mom virtually, right? Happy Mother’s Day. Much love. Bye.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast.
Hello and welcome. This is Candy, and I am sitting here at my desk today. Big surprises. We’re all quarantined still. So as I’m sitting here at my desk, I had a whole agenda or thoughts to share with you. And I was ready to go. And as I moved my mic over, I realized that something was moving on my desk.
So my desk is one of those, it looks almost like an Apple desk, but it’s not. And it rises, it goes up and it goes down. So it’s a standing desk, and it has a really nice motor on it. But it’s not very big. And I have my computer and some of my equipment on my desk and my podcast equipment. So the other thing I have on my desk are just a few pictures. My mouse, my keyboard, and one other thing.
And as I moved my mic, that one other thing is a black ball. And I had no intentions of talking about this today. But in an intuitive business and with an intuitive mind, and basing my life off of awareness and paying attention. I noticed, I don’t think you can hear it. But my black ball start, you probably hear that sound, it start moving in its little dish. And why do I have a black ball on my desk? So because I’m intuitive, I can feel energy. So having a computer around me all day has a tendency to take some of my energy away.
So I was advised by an intuitive medical doctor to get some protective energy. So I got this black ball. I forget what it’s called. I’m not a stone person, meaning I don’t know all the stones. I have my books and I have my stones. But I always go to an expert to find out what I need. So today as I moved my mic around and I saw the black ball moving back and forth, I realized I needed to share my story on my podcast about what just happened with me.
So that’s what I’ve been guided to share, it was completely ill prepared for this moment because I had a completely different thing that I was going to share, which will be my next podcast, about the power of intention.
So I started this program, it’s called Super High Performance, and I’m so grateful that I did this program. It was in the very, very, very beginning of the pandemic. And I’m not even sure that the person that planned this event knew how timely it would be.
It’s a 60 day course and it’s very high performance. Every day you have assignments, and every day you must complete them. So it’s not like one of those courses that you just buy and maybe when you get to it, and maybe tomorrow. It’s not one of those courses. If you pay for the course and you don’t fulfill the commitments each day, you get locked out whether you paid for it or not. I like that, because I’m one of those people that need that type of accountability for myself. I like that, it feels good to me. And it makes me step up and not use excuses.
So during the course of this, we’ve been faced with several challenges. Some things that we needed to lean into about ourself, and we’re learning self discovery. I think I’ve talked about this before, but we have six human needs. If you look it up on the computer, there’s a need for love and connection. There’s a need for variety. There’s a need for certainty. There’s a need for growth and contribution.
I don’t know if I just went through all six. I’m sorry if I didn’t. Growth and contribution, so the personality needs, the part of the personality, the ego. That’s the thing that needs the variety, the growth, the contribution, the love, the connection. But when we get, I’m sorry, I misspoke. When we get to growth and contribution, those two are kind of a subset from the other six human needs. Because they’re the spirit part of ourselves. That area where we want to contribute and to grow. So it’s kind of like a ying and yang energy, or at least that’s how I see it.
So for the contribution part, I am doing the pivot, which is a Facebook group that’s free. For the growth part, I took Super High Performance course and I’m laughing because that’s just me. I put myself in situations where I need to grow.
And I’m grateful that I do that. But then when I get there, the little scaredy cat inside of me shows up. Has that ever happened to you where you’re very brave, maybe when you were little you stepped up to the rollercoaster and you just dreamed of getting on the Matterhorn or whatever it was called. And then as you’re on there, you can feel these little butterflies in your stomach. And you’re thinking, “What the heck did I just get myself into?”
I remember a day that this happened to me, and it was kind of funny. I went to, I think it was Palm Springs, California. And I was with the Anthony Robbins organization and I had signed up for Master University. And Master University, what that was was for growth. And I was just in a situation that I just couldn’t seem to move forward in my life. I was stuck. And I would turn left and the block would be there. I would turn right and the block would be there, and I just couldn’t see how to get out of my own way.
So I signed up for this Master University class with Tony Robbins and there were different things that you went to. You went to date with destiny, and you got clear with your values and with what a relationship is for you, and how to be in a relationship. And there was unleash the power within is how it started. And there was walking on fire. If you could walk on fire, you could do anything. And yes, I walked on fire. And believe me it was very powerful. I think I’ve done it I think 24 times now.
And the one part that I was really nervous about going to was the Life Mastery. And I’m not sure what all of these are called now. I think the program is transition. But Life Mastery is you go to a place and it usually has a house spa connected to it, and you do a growth challenge. And the growth challenge was we climbed a 50 foot pole. Yes, it was like a telephone pole. And the top of the pole is no bigger than a plate, like a plate that you eat off of. And that’s what you had to stand on. A 50 foot pole standing in the air. Oh gosh.
So I go to the event, and we don’t know where we’re going to go. We’re thinking it’s the first day, so we’re probably going to learn something or have our orientation of sorts. So we get on our bus, and they take us somewhere. And they make up some stories. So you’re nervous already. Then when you get there, there were 50 foot poles, several of them. And helmets, and strings, and instructors. So our goal was to go up this pole, 50 foot pole to climb it.
So I didn’t wait too long. I forget what number I was. But oh my gosh, I cannot even tell you, I absolutely detest heights. If I’m in a hotel that has a balcony, I don’t lean into the balcony. I’ll go out on the balcony, but I feel wobbly legged and I feel very nervous when I’m up high. So having to climb up my ass up that pole was scary. And I keep giggling because I think how simple I get myself into these situations, you know? And I’m grateful like I said for it, but I remember I’m starting to climb up the pole. And as I climb up the pole, my voice kicks in. And I’m saying, “Candy, you are such an asshole.” And I’m saying this out loud with each of these … so on this pole are these metal things that jut out. So you have to put your foot on these each way up. And they kind of rotate around the pole. So you have to get the right footing, and then get up to the next level, and up to the next level.
So I don’t know how far I am, it wasn’t far, until I start cussing myself out. “You don’t think things through. You have these grandiose ideas that you are going to go to this Life Mastery and now you’re on this f-ing pole.” And I’m just going down this awful, cursing like a sailor with each and every step.
So I get up to fairly the top pretty quickly because I’m pissed at myself. And I don’t know why I was yelling and angry at myself at the time, but I get up pretty much to the top. And then my limiting beliefs about myself and my abilities kick in. And I’m at the top of the pole, not standing on top, trying to get that last step. So here’s what’s happening.
Cuss myself all the way up. I am so sure. And when I eventually get down, people were laughing in hysterics. Not at me, but with me because that’s how rough I was on myself. They said all my demons were coming out. And not the real ones, but the inner internal demons that were inside of myself, I was just letting it all out.
So what was happening when I got to the top is you have to take a fairly big step. Because think about it, you have one foot. You’re not allowed to use anything to pull yourself up on this pole, but you are strapped into a harness with a bungee cord off the back. And there’s some unknown person holding that rope. Somebody I’ve never met before is holding my ass up from hitting the ground.
So the first thing that I learned is I don’t trust as easily as I thought I did. Because I can’t tell you how many times as my demons were coming up that I was looking down at that person saying, “Do you got me? Do you have that rope?” Because I knew that the only thing between me and the ground was first of all, myself. Holding myself on the pole. So maybe who I wasn’t trusting was myself. But if I slipped from that pole, what they needed to do was be able to hold that rope still so that I would just dangle instead of flop to the ground. And I’m no small potato, so I was pretty nervous about that rope holder.
So between cussing myself out and saying, “Do you have me? Do you got me? Do you got me?” I was trying to get up. And there’s no easy way to get up on this pole. None at all. And I’m not an athlete. And at the time I probably was in my forties, and so I wasn’t a young person either.
So I’d get the one foot up on that plate. That was the 50 foot pole. But I couldn’t step up, or at least that’s what I was having a challenge with. So it took me 20 minutes of keeping to try to step, to get this step, and I was getting frustrated. And it was very hot and I was exhausted. I was probably completely dehydrated by then. And the instructor comes over.
So the instructor is a guy named Scott who at the time, I think it was between 12 and 16 Ironman competitions. And I don’t know how to explain all of what the Ironman is. So I invite you to look it up. But I do know it’s swimming, and running, and bicycling. I think you do all three and it’s hillish terrains. And I believe it’s in Hawaii, and it’s not an easy thing. That’s why it’s called an Ironman.
So anybody that ever does those, it’s kind of like I’m bowing and hail to the chief. They’re athletes, serious athletes. So that was who was in charge of this health quest at Life Mastery. He was in charge of all of us. So he is down looking down at my pole, because of course somebody must have notified him that we kind of have a cat on a pole theoretically. Because chances are at that moment I was starting to get pretty freaked out, so I wasn’t going to come down easily and I wasn’t going up easily. And the clock was ticking, and ticking, and ticking.
So he finally yells up to me and I’ll never forget this, and this is quite a few years ago. He says, “Candy, how else is this moment showing up in your life?” Wow. Even as a precarious situation as I was in 50 feet up in the air. And the pole sways, I have to say the pole is swaying to and fro, to and fro. Even though this pole’s in cement, there’s no way to get stability with a person, a live person climbing up the pole and wind. So when Scott says that to me, I thought, “Holy geez, he’s right. This is exactly why I came to the program.”
Which wasn’t to paint a whole ton of money and multiple commitments. I think it was a $10,000 program, and then multiple commitments to get there. I don’t know between flights, I’m sure between flights, and hotels, and food. I probably had another 15,000 in the program. So it was quite expensive program. And at the time I was working in a university, so I had to plan and take my days off around these programs.
So Scott says, “How else is this showing up in your life?” And I thought about the box that I felt like I was in, when I was trying to turn left and I was blocked, and I turned right and I was blocked. And I thought, “You know what? This is your moment not to ask that person who’s holding the string of your life if you trust them, but rather if you trust yourself enough to win, to succeed. To get my ass up that pole.” And I was already up. But to stand up on that wobbly pole that was no bigger than the size of a plate. And I thought, “F yeah, I’m going to get myself up there.”
And I took a deep breath in and said, “This is it.” And I put my foot up and then I stood up. And I was standing on the pole. My arms were in the air with celebration, over my head in victory. And all of a sudden I thought I am going to take in this view of Palm Springs, California.
And I remember just looking out and just, it was so beautiful. It looked a little dry, a little desert-ish. But there were trees and there was a tree line, and it was a very enjoyable view. My hands were in the air, and I was thrilled with myself. I had succeeded, until you have to come down.
And I’m laughing totally at myself, but how you come down is you have to project yourself. That means you have to leap while not holding on to anything. You have a harness on, but it’s a very odd feeling. You have to leap away from that 50 foot pole, and there’s a triangle, like a trapeze triangle. And I had already seen through multiple other people, at least five other people times multiple different poles I watched. And the only people that seemed to be hitting that triangle were guys that were about six foot tall. So whatever the physics of that were, that’s who seemed to be winner winner chicken dinner moments. The other people just fell. Just fell. You start falling. So that’s what I was standing there thinking about.
So Scott’s statement of, “How else is this showing up in your life?” Got me on the pole and up the pole. But I didn’t know how I was going to get down because I knew the reality was I was going to have to let myself fall. And in that moment, I was also going to be putting my trust in somebody else’s hands.
Has this ever shown up in your life where you realize that you don’t trust yourself? And you don’t think things through. And thank God sometimes you don’t. Sometimes it is about taking a leap of faith. In your business and in your life, and in your growth.
So I thought, “You know what, I’m going to look at that trapeze like I have the ability to get there. And that’s what I’m going to do.” Instead of thinking I know I’m not going make it onto that trapeze because you have to be a 6’0″, and I’m a 5’4″ woman that’s not an athlete. So instead of telling myself what I wasn’t, I decided to tell myself what I was. And I was a person that could leap towards that triangle. And so I did. And I started to fall to the ground. I pretty much thought my heart once somewhere else, like out of my body. But I did it. And they kind of slowly bungee you down to the bottom. And I was met with so many people that just hugged me and just gave me so many accolades. I don’t know if I cried, but I feel like I want to in the moment because that moment of celebration with others was so joyful. And the adventure wasn’t, I’m sorry I keep laughing, but the adventure wasn’t over then.
So I stayed and I supported other people and watched their journey, and cheered them on. And realized a lot about myself, about how I do things, and about ways that I no longer wanted to show up.
I wanted to be that person that believed I could succeed. And once I became that person, I didn’t make that particular goal. But when I got down to the bottom alive, I did achieve that goal. I did that. And I’m really proud of that.
So how does that lead us back to the moment when I pulled my mic across the table and my black ball start moving back and forth? I kind of think it was talking to me. And what it was saying is tell the viewers, the listeners your black ball moment the last week. So why not do a growth challenge story during a pandemic? Right? Jeez.
I didn’t overthink my decision to join this group. It wasn’t a small fortune. But in this time period, it was an investment and I was willing to make it and I didn’t even think about it when I did. I made the investment, I showed up for the program. And one of the exercises that this person gave us was the black ball.
And I’m going to offer this to you. So the first thing is if you would like, the gentleman I was working with is the same person who helped me start my podcast. And his name is Simon Lovell, L-O-E-V-L-L. And the book that he wrote was called The Black Ball. And the pretense of The Black Ball book is when you speak your truth, you release that shame, that energy that’s blocking you from getting to the next level of you, and most likely your business. So today that’s why I wanted to honor my awareness and talk about my black ball.
So there were three parts to my assignment. One is to answer a very, very long list of questions about getting your head around your black ball, the thing that’s holding you back. That truth that needs to be spoken. One of the original wounds that you have.
And what I love about this is it reminds me so much of the Akashic Records. And we’ve talked a lot about the Akashic Records and simply, I’m going to say it was the Akashic Records, the Akasha is the word for sky. And the energy field of the Akashic Records is basically an energy field within all of us. That’s a database. And it’s connected to divine source, and it’s an infinite space of wisdom, truth, and love. And unlimited possibilities.
So you can kind of see how my original story and this initiation into the story I’m about to tell you what the black ball ties so well into the Akashic Records. Because when you’re in that energy field, there’s a healing modality. And it’s to release the blocks that are holding you back.
And it does it in your energy field. So it might be things that are in your unconscious mind. It might be things in past lives, and if you do or don’t believe in them, I just can tell you I’ve seen them, that energy in the past life energy field. It could mean we have past lies. It could mean that we’re all living multi-dimensionally. It could have tons of meanings.
So I’m just going to use it for this purposes of this lifetime. That when I do work with somebody, we can release this at an unconscious level, at a soul level, soul wounds. So Simon has his own beautiful technique. And as a healer, I like to be growing all the time because I’m asking I believe, people to step up when they’re working with me. So I should also be stepping up and I should be creating stronger muscles and stronger energy in my own self so that I can hold space at a greater and higher level for all of you.
So the three parts of the exercise was this endless list of questions. We had to complete that. We had to read the book. We didn’t have to, but we were invited to. And the third thing was a challenge, and it was a speaking your truth challenge.
And we were to go live on Facebook, and we were to say something like, “I hate to admit, this is hard for me to share.” And that was the introduction line. And after I did that, I had to come up with what was I going to talk about? What’s my black ball? And after all this work and a really cool meditation, I love to meditate. And he walked us through a meditation where we released our black ball. And I remember during the meditation, there was a person that I knew I needed to forgive. And I did in the meditation, but I also saw a black ball. And I knew it had to do with me, but I wasn’t sure what in that one meditation. So I did feel successful. I did feel like I accomplished my task.
But then came the moment on Facebook, and I knew what I wasn’t doing well in the group. And we were invited to do this. Look in the mirror meditation with ourselves and sharing our love with ourselves. And I’ve invited people to do this exercise through their own guides in readings in the Akashic Records, and it’s called Ho’oponopono. So if you look up Ho’oponopono, you look into your eyes and you say, “I forgive you. I love you.” I forget all the words around it, but look up Ho’oponopono. And it’s Hawaiian.
And I’ve done this before, and it was lovely and it worked. But this time, I kept looking in the mirror. And I saw my age. I saw there were too many hairs here, and too few hairs here, and too many gray hairs there on my face. And this eyelid was sinking too far. and I was kind of shocked at my moment of vanity. I didn’t think I was that vain. But there was something else going on. and as I went live, I knew that I couldn’t connect with myself right then. There’s something just seemed off.
And as I began my Facebook Live, I was honest. I said, “I’ve been doing this exercise and I’m struggling with loving myself.” And I can’t remember all of what I said honestly because I really, truly was speaking from the energy of my heart.
What I do remember that I was saying was that there was a relationship to me not taking care of my health and me not loving myself. And it’s one of my core wounds. And I know where it comes from. However, that wasn’t important in the moment. What was important was sharing with 1,600 people of friends and family that I wasn’t stepping up to my own health issues.
And what I thought I was going to do was a juice, but that in the pandemic just isn’t a good fit for right now. So what I’m going to do instead is look at the recipe books that for whole food 30 or whatever that’s called, and just eat higher quality foods in the proportions that are suggested. Instead of doing some dramatic diet, I want to do something slower that I can lean into and learn from.
So as I’m doing this Facebook Live, I share the story about me not being able to look at myself in the mirror. And I knew I was going to talk about this. So I had a mirror sitting next to me and I pulled it out and I said I commit to when I looked, do my morning meditations, that I will be looking in the mirror and sending love to myself, and connecting with my internal love. Because by staying connected with myself, I thought that that would be the connection that I needed to stay connected to my health. That’s what I was proposing in that moment.
And in that moment as I say that, I hear this loud crash. And I had already shown them the mirror, and I put the mirror back on my desk and the mirror was sitting there safely. But what had happened is my black ball fell off the desk. And a loud crash in the middle of the Facebook Live. And I held up my black ball and I said, “I’ve just spoken the truth. My black ball has been released.” And I started to cry, and I felt like I lost 71 pounds of doubt, of fear, of not trusting myself, of not taking care of my body, of not owning my value. All of that came out with that ball.
And when you read Simon’s book, that’s what happened to him. That’s what was so incredible is he was holding a black belt ball. And when he spoke his truth in one of these growth challenge games he was playing, the ball almost projected out of his hand when he spoke his truth.
So that is what needed to be said today .Is what black ball are you holding onto right now? Is there a conversation that you need to have with yourself or with somebody else? Possibly a parent, possibly a sibling, possibly a spouse. That you’ve been holding onto that’s taking up energetic space in your body. And instead of you being able to freely flow through your business and your life, you might feel stuck at times. The same way I was stuck climbing up onto a 50 foot pole. I was stuck getting up. I was stuck getting down. That must be my stuck pattern. At least I’m all encompassing. I don’t just partially get stuck. I just go all into stuckness.
And as I say this to you now, I’m just wondering what is it that you’re going to do today? Not tomorrow, but today, to start the release of your black ball. Maybe it’s reading Simon’s book, or maybe even right now listening to this you already know what’s holding you back.
And remember this is so easy to release. Just go on a live Facebook post, and put, “This as hard for me to share.” And share it from your heart. Some other people’s black ball in the group, some were addictions. And they got on Facebook Live and talked about the details of their addictions. There was somebody that Simon used as an example, and it was tough. I mean he’s like, “Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking I had two drinks a day. I would drink this energizer drink to go with a bigger buzz, and I would do this.” It was planned out. It was planned out, the intention of the abuse with the drugs.
And I don’t know what happened with that situation because that wasn’t part of my group, but I can tell you some of the people in the group had multiple people reach out to them and say that they loved them, that they admired them, that they felt their heart. And one, even though admitting something serious like a drug addiction in the past and letting go of that in the moment. Was even offered a partnership to partner on a business something or other. I don’t know where that’s going to go.
But my point is exactly what we think that we fear the most about speaking our truth isn’t always the truth. Just like when I was climbing up the pole, worried about that person that was holding onto that rope. Instead of worrying about my ass just getting up that pole, and me taking responsibility for myself.
So I invite you to do a few things. One is ask yourself the question, “What is my black ball?” That thing that once released will bring you freedom. It will set you free. And two is are you willing to take the challenge of saying your truth publicly in a way that will make an impact?
What if when I went live, that there was somebody sitting there thinking, “You know what? I am so unhappy with myself that I don’t want to live anymore.” And then they saw this truth being shared, and maybe it touched their heart. And maybe it just gave them a moment of self reflection of saying, “You know what? Maybe that’s what my problem is. I don’t love myself enough. And maybe I need to think about this before I take an action to do something negative to myself.” What if you’re the person that changes that, because you speak from a genuine place of truth?
I’m sure a lot of you right now have been on virtual networking calls. And did you ever hear somebody when they do their 30 second pitch and it just sounds like something from a Charlie Brown teacher that goes [inaudible 00:39:59]? And I don’t mean to belittle anybody’s 30 second pitch. But they are so in their head, I can’t feel them. So I don’t know if I want to work with them. I mean they could be offering me a million dollar bill in their hand. And in that moment, if I don’t feel connected to them, connected to their heart, I don’t care what they have in their hand. What I care about is what they have in their heart.
So in the intuitive business, I invite you to lean into your truth, to lean into your heart, and to stay aware. And when you’re thinking you need to share one thing, maybe the truth is that you need to share your black ball.
If you want to reach out, one of the things that I’ve offered before and I’m going to offer again is if you go to candicehozza.com/love, L-O-V-E. I have a beautiful self-affirmation of love statements and I created them to share a while back when we work on with our pivot to profit that I’ve had in place since I think last September. So one of my clients teased me and said, “That pivot thing is all over the place now, you were one of the forefront owners of it.” And they said, “You must have seen that in advance.” And I thought, “Oh my goodness, if I saw this whole mess in advance, I don’t think I would have been happy seeing it because it’s a lot right now.” And the second thing as I bump my desk in it and it moves like a George Jetson dusk.
The second thing I invite you to do is if you want somebody to talk to in this pandemic and you’re thinking, “I think I do need to release something.” And you can’t quite figure out what it is, that’s one of the ways I can support you at a soul level. To release the blocks that are holding you back. So you can get back into alignment, get focused on where you want to go, each level of that pole. Going up, and up, and up. So getting into your focus.
And then the energy of flow, which was when I landed from the 50 foot pole. And that celebratory moment just gave me such joy and freedom. I felt so powerful. I mean if you would have put a Wonder Woman belt on me and gave me that cute little costume, I would have rocked it. I just felt like Wonder Woman in that moment.
So if you want to talk to me and you know that you’re needing just a little more support, I offer complimentary spiritual strategy sessions or business alignment sessions. And you can get either one of those at candicehozza.com/book, B-O-O-K.
So I’m excited to connect with you. Go release your black ball. Listen to the book or read the book. It’s on both formats. And please reach out to me, put some comments below. I think that also helps a little bit with I don’t know about ratings and all that stuff, but I’d love to hear your comments below as well from this particular show. So thank you. And stay safe, stay happy and healthy. And sending you so much light, love and joy.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within, so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS, so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast.
Hello, everyone. I just wanted to say, from the top of my heart, the bottom and both sides, that I’m really welcoming you here today. Let’s just take a deep breath in today, because we all need it, especially me, maybe you too. I feel when I breathe in, that it just reminds me of life, and that I have life, and that life really is good. I’m sitting here in my office a little bit frustrated with myself, because, for some reason, my podcast just wouldn’t come out of me. And I know the reason why. I was in my head, I was saying, “What should I say? What do people need to hear? How can I make them feel better?” And as I sat with that, the more confused, and the more confused, and the more confused, the more stock I became.
And so, today, I just hit record, and I popped on just like you were sitting here with me as my friend in a crazy time. And we both have this big glass of water, and we’re sitting in my office together. And as we sit here together, we might be hearing some of the birds cheeping as they’re cheeping right now, and some of the white tufts on my tree have fallen away, and little buds of green leaves are coming up. My hostas were, about a week and a half ago, they were about two inches, and now they’re about nine to 10 inches in just a week and a half. And the little puffy pink tree that’s next to me, half of the pink flowers are on, and half of the red leaves are on.
And it just reminds me of all this new growth and all of the things that are happening naturally, that’s coming through the earth, they don’t know, these trees don’t know that we have this crazy time in our lives, this pandemic. And I promise, I’m not going to be talking about that much. Because, the reality of it is, is there’s hope and there’s miracles all around us. I’ll never forget, I was sitting with my financial advisor and I really like him. He’s such a developed soul and I just feel like I trust him so much, which is probably a pretty good thing for my financial advisor, who has quite a lot of my funds that he manages.
And we were sitting at a corner coffee shop and we were looking out, and I said something about miracles. And he said, “Wow,” he goes, “Miracles, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a miracle.” And I said, “Do you want me to show you one?” And he said, “Wow, yeah.” And I said, “Turn around and look out of that window.” And we were sitting in a corner section with big, long windows. And outside was a fairly small, maybe eight-foot tree, and it too, back then, had buds on it. And I said, “Nobody told that tree to start budding its little flowers and leaves.” And I said, “But yet, it happened.” And I said, “Isn’t that a miracle?” And he said, “I never thought about it like that. Yeah, it is.”
I said, “Miracles are all around us, each and every one of us, each and every day. And all that we simply have to do is be aware and look around.” So, today, I want to tell you a story about something that’s an actual documented miracle in my life. And I want to share this story today to bring you hope. Because, some of us might start feeling that this is an impossible situation that we’re living in. We can’t see when the future’s coming or when we’ll be released from our sit down time-out chair, and figure out what it is that you need to do next. So, I started thinking about how well miracles can be just that miraculous, miracles might not always be the easiest things to achieve.
And so, here’s my story of not being able to see an end in sight, but still holding onto the hope. And that’s what I’m going to offer you today. So, pull up a sharp rock, pull up a cup of hot tea, and look out the windows with me, and watch the joggers, and the scooters, and the children with sidewalk chalk, as you hear the story of my personal miracle, to give you hope today. I’m trying to think how to put a pre-frame on the time of when this happened. I guess I was about 30 years old and my daughter was five. And my daughter just popped into the world. One day, it was like, we were fairly newlyweds, married about a year and a half, and the next thing we know, this beautiful young lady, Carly, is coming into our world.
And she came in just like that, and we accepted her just like that. And it was so perfect. And I have this little girl, and she had blonde, curly hair, and she looked like Shirley Temple. And every sound that she’s spoke was enunciated with joy and happiness. She sang songs, she told me she loved me, she smooshed my cheeks together. She told me I was a little too fluffy. She brought me joy in every ounce and corner of my life. Her father traveled a lot, so, we really had a lot of time to bond and to get to know each other and spend special time together. And so, after she was getting to be about three or four years old, I had been raised as an only child and I thought to myself, “This is the one thing I absolutely did not want for my child, is to be raised alone.”
While I was raising Carly, I was still young woman. I was only 25. So, I put all of my energy and fun and playfulness into this adorable, happy little girl. And so, we both had a good life, and I worked a partial shift, I worked 12:00 to 5:00, and then again 9:30 to midnight. So, I had a lot of freedom. I lived in a residence hall with 365 women. So, sometimes a whole floor of college students would invite her up to have a party. They would make gift baskets, or, for Halloween, she could go trick-or-treating on all their doors. They would dress her up and take her around and bring her back. So, she had quite a good life. And I really, really wanted another child.
And so, I put that out there and for a couple of years, not overly serious, but I remember I was in Phoenix, Arizona, and my husband and I were on this phenomenal vacation. And back in the day, we stayed in this room, and this is many, many years ago, probably about 28 years ago. And we stayed in a hotel that if you pushed buttons, blinds would go up and down by themselves, and it was really, it seemed very fancy to me. And it wasn’t just a room, it was like a villa. So, I thought, “Wow, this is the coolest thing ever.” And it was my 30th birthday. And on that day, in Phoenix, Arizona, I said to my husband, “I want to be serious about starting to try to have our second child.” And he really didn’t answer.
He came from a family of five, and it wasn’t unusual for him not to answer. That was kind of a style that he had. And so, a couple years went by, and I noticed that we were zigging and zagging, and I’m not sure that, actually, I know we were not on the same page with this baby-making plan. And so, it started to get to be a bit painful. Because, if you think about it, if you’re following the rules of marriage and you’re in love with somebody and you’re just with that person and you want to have a child with just that person, if they aren’t quite on board at the time, it’s a very difficult situation. You’re either making a child, or you’re not making a child. But when one’s going in one direction and one’s going to the other, it becomes interesting, to say the least.
I wouldn’t bring this up a lot, but not necessarily in the most positive way after a few years. After a few years, it was getting wearing and taxing on me emotionally. And it really affected intimacy. Because, if you’re not on the same page in that area, that’s a really difficult thing. And you can get more communication from a girlfriend, or a guy friend, or less communication or whatever. If your husband doesn’t like scary movies and you do, you can get a friend to go out. But when we talk about having children, and then if you’re in a monogamous marriage, you can have one conversation with one person, your husband, about that. So, things just, I felt stuck in life around this issue.
I knew what I wanted, and I knew it wasn’t happening, and I knew why it wasn’t happening. And I was frustrated. So, time kept moving on, and I’ll never forget, like I said, I worked in a residence hall at a university, and so, my shift ended at 7:00 A.M. My daughter, if my husband traveled, she would spend the night with me at an apartment at the university, and we would sleep there together. It was a beautiful apartment. It had two bedrooms, two bathrooms, dishwasher, back porch. It was very nice. It was free, too. And we lived there for a while and had saved money, but we had a house and I was required to live there. So, that’s what our living situation was.
Sometimes I’d wake up a lot earlier than she did, but I’d let her sleep. And then we’d wake up and then we’d leave the housing office or the apartment and we would drive 10 minutes home and I’d prepare for school and get her on the bus, and then go back to work at noon, and then go back to work again at nine o’clock at night and tuck her in between 9:00 and 9:30 and then step out into my office or wherever I was needed. Because it was a connected office. So, I was waking up a little earlier, and all of a sudden, I felt this feeling, and it was the same feeling that I remembered before when I nursed my daughter. It’s a very unusual feeling. It’s, when you’re going to nurse them, there’s this feeling called a let-down, and it’s a feeling of euphoria. And it’s almost like the hormone shoots through your body and it’s very, very distinct.
And my daughter by then was probably about six years old, seven years old. So, it had been six or seven years since I had experienced that. And it was that distinct that I was wondering if something was wrong with me. Until that one morning, it happens again. And this time, I asked better questions. With intuition, and when I do intuitive readings in the Akashic Records, it’s always about the questions that we ask that give us the distinctions and the clarity. So, that particular morning, I closed my eyes and I said, “Is there a baby there?” And I don’t know what made me ask that question. But the minute I did, I had my eyes closed, but I could feel the baby almost enter, the energy of the baby.
And what I saw is kind of like a concave room with this warm white light that’s very bright but it didn’t hurt my eyes to look at it. It was just very, very bright. And then I saw it. I saw this little boy, just the face, just the head of this little boy. I don’t know how I knew it was a little boy. He had blonde hair, it was straight. It was parted on the right side and combed over. And it was the same color as my daughter’s, except hers was bouncy curls. This was a baby that was probably about 16 months old. I could tell it wasn’t walking, even though it only had a head. But the smile, my God, to this day, I still remember that smile and I fell in love with this little boy almost instantly.
My daughter had more chubby-full cheeks. This little baby had a more, I don’t want to say chiseled jaw, but there was a more distinct line, jawline. And instead of big, round eyes, this little boy had an almond-shaped eye. But it was weird, the color of the eyes, I couldn’t distinguish if they were blue or or brown, but it seemed like they were a mixture of a gray. And it was almost an unusual gray. And that was my son. And I knew in every single part of my being that this little boy was coming to my world, and that he was my son. Unshakable, unmistakable. And so, I told my husband about this. I’m really not sure how he felt about it, there was silence. A couple eye-rollings, I believe, which this is part of a normal conversation with them.
And finally, I think he said something like, “Well, we’ll see.” And after a few months of, “We’ll see,” I said to him, “Can’t we just…” If this vision, which I can’t say I had many visions in my life that were so distinct and so knowing that every part of me knew that this was truth. I’ve had some, but this one was probably the highest and best I’ve ever had. And I just said to my husband, “Hey, why don’t we let the big guy or the big lady upstairs make this decision for us? Why don’t we just trust that if this little boy is meant to come, that he’ll come, but we have to be open to it, we have to be accepting to this? And are you accepting to this?” And I don’t think I really got a status on it. That’s how it was left. And I just kept hoping that this little baby would come.
A little time after that, my husband’s father became really sick. He was sick in June and he lost use of one of his arms, and things weren’t going well. And by August, he was diagnosed with cancer. And I remember, it was the first weekend in August, and I remember Tim and I went to see Batman, one of the original Batmans. This is a long time ago. This is in Batman Seven, Eight, Nine, The Joker. It was Batman, the first rendition of it. And that evening, we came home and we got a phone call from my husband’s mother-in-law that, or from my husband’s mother that my father-in-law was very sick. And it didn’t sound like there was much hope and his condition worsened.
But that night, I just remember, I love my father-in-law’s so much, and I had lost my dad five years before, and it just brought so much grief into my heart to have to lose somebody else. I just didn’t quite know how I was going to handle it and I felt like I needed to be supportive, of course, of my husband and how he might feel during this process. So, in the middle of this whole thing of his father passing, I got some incredible news. I didn’t even know it, but here I was pregnant. And I was through the roof. I was so excited. I got wallpaper books, I started planning the baby’s room. I had waited for this for quite some time by then. And I remember I went to Vegas with my mom, and my cousin, Suzie, and my sister, Cindy, and we had so much fun.
But before I got on the flight, I wasn’t feeling so great. And by the time I got home from Vegas, I felt like there was something wrong regarding the baby. And I went into the hospital to get things checked and the baby was gone. It was there, but it wasn’t there really anymore. And I was really sad. And my husband promised that we would do this again. And a lot of things happened, his father was sick, and his father then by Thanksgiving passed away. And pretty soon, I realized that we weren’t trying to have a baby, and that was something I really wanted to do. And then, after the devastation of losing a baby, it was like, “I really want to do this now.”
A few more years went by, and still, no baby. And I was 36 years old. And I remember being at the university at Millersville and something was really wrong with my body. And I called the doctor to tell him that things weren’t going well. And he said, “I’ll tell you what, don’t eat or drink anything.” He called me at 10 o’clock at night, which was the weirdest thing ever because I’ve never had a phone call from this doctor ever at 10 o’clock at night. But I have a feeling that he also sensed that something was really wrong. So, he said, “Come over tomorrow at 9:00 A.M. and don’t eat or drink anything just in case we have to do some surgery.
I listened to him and I went. And he said, “We’re going across the street. We have to do some surgery and stop the problem that you’re having.” And that was it. It was around Christmas time, and I was closing up the residence halls at Millersville University. And I was able to run over early in the morning to make sure that I had found help to close the building. And I got that in place and I went into surgery. And so, I had some time to recover because the buildings were closed, and that was really nice. And we had a wonderful Christmas that year. And on January 2nd, I got a phone call from my doctor that had called me late at night, and he said, “Candy, are you home alone?” And I said, “Yeah.”
And he said, “Can you sit down for a little bit?” And he goes, “We’re going to talk for a while.” And I said, “Okay.” Never a great thing when a doctor says that to you. And I knew. So, I sat down and he said, “I know that you’ve done everything possible to get some certainty around having this second child that you’ve always wanted.” Which was such a true statement. And he said, “But you have problem, and here’s what it is.” In essence, he was saying I had precancer, which, 35% of people have active cancer, when they can get into the exact area to look. And it was in my womb where the baby would be formed. And what he needed to do in order to save my life was to take out my womb.
So, I said to him, “Do they have transplants?” I was reaching. And, poor guy, he was like, “No, not yet.” And I said, “Well, then, I don’t think I can do it. And I don’t think I can have this part of my body removed because you know I’m going to have this little boy. I saw him many years ago now.” And he says, “I know.” He said, “I understand that.” And he said, “I would too wanted more children, but my wife’s health after the third child, there were signs that could have been really risky for her to have our fourth child.” And I, in my infinite wisdom, said, “Well, which one of those children would you have given up, of the three that you have?” And he said, “None.” And I said, “I don’t want to give up my two.”
Now, remember, I only had my daughter. But that’s how much I felt that this little boy was already part of my life. So, from January to June, ensued a bit of an interesting plight. The type of cancer, I was in the oncology department in Hershey Medical with multiple tests there, multiple tests with my doctor, all confirming I had a big problem that needed to be addressed. The good news was, this type of cancer doesn’t grow quickly. And so, that made me feel like I had some time to get my head around this whole situation of, number one, not being able to fulfill a dream I had since I was a five-year-old girl. And I remember the day I pledged to myself to have two children.
I was a little girl, I was five, and I had the prettiest pink dress on. It was made of 100% cotton. I still remember it. And it had tooling in the front, meaning, one piece of fabric was put together with stitching. So, it was really, it was like a French type of stitching, and it had a little pink collar. And I remember the pink bow on the dress had snaps on it so that you could take it off when you washed it. And my mom would iron this 100% cotton dress to perfection. And she and my father went to a wedding, and when they came back, they had brought the favors, they used to call them at weddings, and they were always mints, and they were wrapped in a white little netting. And they had two wedding rings with the name and the date typewritten and cut in a little Hershey Kiss tab, that it would look like that hanging off of the mints. And they would always save me this.
And so, I remember leaving my aunt Carol’s in that little pink dress and being outside, and between getting in the car. And I put this wedding ring on like a marriage, and I looked up to the stars and I said, “I will be married and I will have two children.” And I was five years old. And I meant that with every part of my being. And I knew why I wanted that is because I was an only child then. And I remember feeling lonely at times. And so, that’s when I made the commitment. And so, that commitment that I made to myself, that pledge as a five-year-old girl was gone like that in a moment.
So, as I kept going to Hershey, finally, I had to make a decision, and I decided to have the surgery on April 16th. But I was mad. I thought I was mad at my husband for not giving me what I asked him to for many years. And so, I wrote a letter and I put both of our wedding rings in a little pouch, and I put it in an envelope and I invited my girlfriend to take me. I asked her to take me to have the surgery because I was so angry at my husband, I couldn’t think that he would be the one to take me to surgery. And so, I had made the plans that I couldn’t live in this marriage because the pledge that we took to take children willingly and lovingly from God, to me, was broken.
I think it would have been easier sometimes if it was a different thing, but it was heart-wrenching to me. But who I was really angry at was not him, it was me, for letting this, I’m going to call it a game, be played with me. That honesty about what he wanted and what I wanted wasn’t communicated. And that it was my full and complete responsibility to either say, “Hey, I need to be respected with this wish.” Or, “We need to get professional help to talk about it.” Whatever the case, I’m the one, for responsibility, that did not take responsibility for that and just let it go on, and on, until, in that moment, it was a tragedy to me. So, that was my game plan. And as they say, the best laid plans.
When I went for my final appointment to have my surgery, I had to have one more examination because I was so young, and surgeries weren’t completely perfected about removing the uterus. So, we were going to see which type of surgery. And I just absolutely could not bear the thought of having a scar on my abdomen, because, in that moment, I had a deep wound in my heart, and I wasn’t sure that that was going to be able to heal. But a scar on my body to prove what was taken away, that little boy, I just couldn’t live with that. And if you say, “Oh, you could adopt.” I was adopted, I love being adopted, but this little boy was not adopted. He looked so much like my daughter. I knew he was a genetic child.
And if I was having a challenge getting a genetic child, there was no way I was going to be able to ask for somebody else’s birth child to come into our home. So, for me, I felt completely hopeless. So, when I went to see my doctor, he sat me down, and as he went to examine me, I sat back up and I said, “I’m not doing this. I’m not doing this.” God bless him, what a great doctor, he sat down, he looked at me, and he didn’t say, “You’re crazy, people don’t see babies before they have them, and then risk their lives to have something that’s not there.” I think that’s maybe what I would have said, although I believe more than that. But I remember he had really dark eyes and they were really warm eyes, and he just looked at me, and he said, “Let’s talk about this.”
He said, “You’re okay now,” and he said, “But this has been going on for some time.” And he said, “You have a sweet little girl to raise. And where this cancer goes is out of your uterus and goes down your fallopian tubes and into your ovaries.” He said, “We’re okay now, but when that happens, we’re not okay.” I got what he was saying, and I said, “Thank you,” because I knew that that was said out of love, and I left, thinking, “There’s no way in hell I’m getting the surgery.” That’s all my mind would go to. Even though I knew what he was saying was true and real, inside of my heart, I knew what I believed that this baby was coming was true, and it was real.
So, he said, “Let’s make a deal.” And he said, “After the deal’s made, you have to follow through, or I can’t be your doctor.” Now, I can’t tell you the type of love I felt for this man. He was an incredible surgeon, he was an incredible doctor. He was willing to tolerate when I wouldn’t want to use one drug or use another drug or use some holistic things. He was extremely tolerant and honorable to my wishes always. So, I knew that that wasn’t going to be the end. I knew that I would still have a relationship with him. So, I said to him, “What’s the deal?” And he said, “You’ve had multiple tests, all the tests have been the same and have proved exactly what you have. Which, probably not saying right, but is a tubbiness hyperplasia and precancerous cells, which basically means, the only way to save the body is to get rid of the deceased organ.
He said, “We’ll go in one more time, we’re going to do one more test and sampling, and whatever the results are, you have to have surgery within six weeks, and I’ll do it. But it has to be done within the six weeks. From the diagnosis, I’ll either make sure you get on the schedule or do whatever needs to be done, but this needs to be taken care of.” I shook on it, I said, “But here’s my deal, I’ll do the test, but I’m going on vacation and I don’t want to know anything when I’m on that vacation.” Because, I was having emotional spirals and negative energy and hateful energy towards my husband and I had finally transitioned my emotions around that. And so, I shook on that deal.
One of the ways I did transition my emotions, and I don’t know what your belief system is, but I really believe in angels and guides, and that they come to us in our greatest needs. I was depressed when I was diagnosed, and I remember, about February, my husband was going to Phoenix again. Isn’t that ironic? And he invited me to go. He had meetings, so, I would have a lot of time to myself, but he always stayed in such nice hotels and breakfast were usually included. And it was Arizona, and it was February, and it was around my birthday. And he knew I was really depressed. And he knew I wasn’t myself, and definitely, wasn’t myself towards him.
So, I agreed to go, but very loosely. He got me a flight, I was coming in late at night, and a car was supposed to pick me up. I think I got in at two o’clock in the morning. And he said, “Could you do me a favor and just let me know if you’re not coming?” Because, that’s kind of where we were at. I said, “All right.” But, honestly, I wasn’t going to make any promises. Because, I had to really lean into who I was and respect, I was sad, and I needed to just respect what was happening, because it was hard to push through. And at the time, I remember, I don’t think I was seeking any counseling or anything. So, I was trying to do this on my own.
And so, I got there, I ended up going to Phoenix, Arizona to meet him. It was two o’clock in the morning, my car didn’t come. So, I’m standing out in the middle of an airport, and this is before cell phones, and Uber’s, and lifts. So, if your car didn’t come for you, you were either going to spend $250 on a taxi to get somewhere, or you were going to look for a bus, for the hotel, which, it’s two o’clock in the morning. There happened to be a dental convention, and I flew in with a husband and wife dentist, and they invited me to come along. I think they rented a car, and we happened to be going to the same hotel. So, that’s how I got there.
I get to this fancy hotel really late at night with no bags, and my one rule is, before I go to bed, I have to brush my teeth or I don’t sleep all night. And, no toothbrushes. Fancy hotel and no toothbrushes to give out or to sell. Now I’m starting to get really pissy. It’s two o’clock in the morning, yes, it’s nice weather, I don’t have a toothbrush, I don’t have clothes for bed, I don’t have anything except my purse, and I crawl into bed. And that’s all I remember about that. I know I wasn’t happy. And the next morning, my husband kissed me goodbye, he gave me some certificates for breakfast and told me where to go. And I was like, roar, roar, roar. Grump, grump, grump.
And so, I was wide awake, and I was lying there, and I was like, “I’m completely naked, I don’t have any clothes, I don’t have any makeup, I don’t have anything that I need,” and I was, grump, grump, grump. And it’s morning in Phoenix, Arizona. So, I’m just lying there. I’m holding the sheet up and I hear somebody in the other room that’s adjacent to us, when you came into our room, we had a whole sitting area with a bar, and then you walked through that area and there was a bedroom, and then you walked through another area and there was a beautiful bathroom. And so, I heard somebody, my husband had already left, and I heard somebody say something, and I pulled the sheets up even higher, and then I thought, “What did I just hear? What did they say?”
And I heard a voice as distinct as the voice that you’re hearing in your ears right now, say, “You still have a uterus.” And I thought, “Well, what kind of bell boy would bring my bags in and say that?” Because, my whole thing was, that it was either Tim’s voice, or it was the bellman’s voice. But the third thing that was quite perplexing is I could remember thinking, “I don’t know if this was a man or a woman,” which was even more confusing. And later years, I learned that angels and guides can be often androgynous, or choose the sex that’s most relevant to the moment. And that’s why I couldn’t distinguish what this person was saying. I distinguished very distinctly what they said, but couldn’t distinguish their sex.
So, I got up with the sheet wrapped around me and I checked the middle room, there was no bag, the door was locked safely, and I just was standing there scratching my head. I wasn’t depressed anymore, I was curious and wigged out, to be honest, because I never heard a spirit out loud like that. So out loud that it made me sit up and go look for them. But that’s the truth. So, I went in and I got a shower, and I felt better already. And then when I came through the middle room, guess what? During my shower, my bag had finally been dropped off. It wasn’t there when I had checked before, and now it was there. So, the day was looking up.
I went and I had breakfast, and I was going to meet a student that I had worked with at the university and we were going to go shopping, and we did. But before we met, I was still scratching my head about, “What does this mean? If I heard this voice, what does it mean I still have a uterus?” And then I got excited. I was like, “I know what the angel guide was saying that I can still get pregnant because today I still have a uterus. Maybe I’ll wait and try to get pregnant, and then I could have my baby, and then I’ll get rid of my uterus. That’s what I’ll do.” That was my game plan. And I honestly had an absolutely lovely day. I went from severe depression and walking in a cloud, kind of like Pig-Pen’s cloud on Charlie Brown. I felt like that was always hanging around my head.
And that uplifted, and it had been, at least, I’m thinking about five weeks by then, that I was walking around in this doom and gloom. My letter had been written, I was getting a divorce. My rings were in an envelope, in a little baggy. My surgery was scheduled, and I had made a deal with the doctor that what was going to happen is, I was going to have a little, I guess, I’m sorry, I don’t mean to confuse the story, but later is when I declined the surgery. At this time, I still had the surgery booked, when I was in Phoenix, Arizona. And that was my intention, until I heard the message of the angel. And then I was like, “Oh, yeah, here’s what we can do.”
While I was at the mall, I bought really, I went to lingerie and I thought, “Ooh, we’re going to get this done. This baby’s coming.” So, anyways, it was a nice trip. It was a really, really nice trip. And when I got back, I called the doctor and I said, “Hey, here’s what I think can happen.” And that is the doctor’s office that he and I sat down, and he said, “Look, when you have these cells, healthy cells can not grow in an unhealthy condition, and your uterus cannot sustain nor can it conceive a child right now. You have a disease in your uterus.” Man, was I bombed. That’s when we came to our agreement.
That was February, and March, my mother-in-law invited me to this place. It’s in Emmitsburg, Maryland, and it’s St. Joseph’s Church. And many years ago now, there was a woman, and I’m forgetting her name, I feel like it was Giovanni. And who she was, was a woman who went with some other women to a pilgrimage. I think there were six of them that went. And when the six of them came back, all of them were being visited by the Blessed Mother. And her visitations came every single week at 7:00 P.M. And so, when, I’m not sure who in the church got wind of this, they would invite this channeler and she would channel the messages of the Blessed Mother. And as I sit here right now, I’m actually looking at an image of what this channeler sees. She had an artist’s rendition, draw the actual features of the woman that she sees, who is identified as the Blessed Mother.
So, we go to this place, St, Joseph’s, and my mother-in-law, Josie, God bless her. I mean, she has a picture with Mother Teresa, if that says anything about who she is and the journey that she’s led. She’s probably the closest thing to a saint I’ve ever met. She’s helped people in hospice and she helps children when they didn’t have a sponsor for Holy Communion, she just is that person. And so, she knew, although we don’t talk about things like that in his family as much at the time, we’re more open now, I think. It’s a different world even 20-some years later. But she took me to St. Joseph’s, and as soon as we got there, there was a woman named Bunny, like Easter Bunny, Bunny.
And I’ll tell you a little bit about her later, but she was there, and what she does is she just welcomes people. She goes every single week, every single Thursday and she helps people to make their pilgrimage, so to speak, there, at St. Joseph’s Church in Emmitsburg, Maryland. And so, what she did is, she helped me to sign up for a private healing session with Giovanni at night, and she would bless us. And there was a man next to me and it was a simple blessing, to bless us for whatever our intention was. And of course, my intention was to have my son, and to have a healed uterus. How the day looked is we got there super, super early, and there was a five o’clock rosary in the evening and a seven o’clock rosary. And at the seven o’clock rosary, that’s when the Blessed Mother would come.
I’ll never forget, we had special seats this Bunny really hooked us up. And they were up high, looking down into the church. And so, I had the privilege of watching the energy shift, as the energy of the Blessed Mother entered the church. I could literally feel the hairs on the back of my neck stick up straight. There was like this electric energy when this woman channeled the Blessed Mother’s energy. And no matter what religion you are, I’m just telling you this, it’s a story and it really happened to me. I looked down at the church and I saw some people having spasms and they were talking in languages I didn’t understand, and it was a little frightening and a little bit out there. But I just felt something special.
What I haven’t yet told you is, before that seven o’clock moment, I was on my knees during the five o’clock rosary, and all of a sudden, I felt this like a little mini gentle tornado type motion underneath my belly button and above my pelvic bone, and it just felt like a little warm, gentle finger took one or two swirls, and I thought, “That was an interesting feeling.” Now, the only thing I had done for treatment at that time was taking a natural drug called progesterone, which just is helpful for the tissue of the uterus, that’s all it is. It cannot heal it, it cannot make cancer go away. It was like putting a bandaid on a situation, that could not heal anything.
So, that was the treatment that I had, which was basically none. I was going to shaman and having my energy fields opened up and cleaned out. And this was new for me. This new age stuff was really out there, but I didn’t have anything. I had no medical assistance. There was nothing medically that they could do, except the thing I didn’t want, which was removal of the organ. So, I was eating special, I was putting special sense on my body, I was going organic. When I felt this little swirl, my first thought, of course, was, “Hmm, that’s interesting because I’ve transitioned all my eating and everything,” so, something was going on there for that moment. And that’s as far as that went.
My mother and I, in-law and I, after the special blessing, how the day had started off when I met Bunny, I forgot to tell you, she gave me this anointing. She anointed my forehead, and it was supposedly from the tears of the Blessed Mother. There’s a statue that goes around that’s weeping, you could actually look it up on the internet, it weeps. And people collect, it’s like an oil, and it smells sweet, it’s fragrant. And this woman had this cotton ball in this little baggy for years. It had never dried up, and it smelled sweet. And she said she’s never put anything in that baggy except what she collected the day that she was somehow allowed to collect this precious, the tears of the Blessed Mother.
She anointed me that day, and then, I already shared the day, and then we left. I had my blessing in the evening with a special, special woman and we left, after a very, very long day. And I happened to mention to my mother-in-law what this felt like. And she said, “Hmm,” this little like tornado feeling, she said, “That’s unusual.” I said, “Yeah, I don’t know what that was about. Never gave it much thought.” And so, now comes the time of the agreed upon procedure that Dr. K and I were going to do, and then we agreed that the results, I would have my surgery within six weeks. And we also agreed that he would not share any of the details of what the procedure said because I was going on vacation, and he happened to be going on vacation. And I just wanted a free and clear mind.
I didn’t want to think on that vacation for seven days and seven nights about this up and coming surgery that I dreaded, to begin with. I just wanted to pretend like it didn’t exist for a week. And that’s exactly what I did. I enjoyed myself and I enjoyed my family, and the doctor and I did not talk. So, I get a phone call from the nurse and she reminded me that the doctor wanted Tim, my husband, to be with me. I guess he was probably going to have a little conversation with him, if I started to back out of my pledge, is what I’m thinking. And maybe, I’d done most of this by myself. I think he probably felt like I would need support. What a kind man. And so, Tim came with me, and the doctor came in, and he had said, “Oh, my goodness, I wanted to look at your chart before now,” and he goes, “So, give me a minute.”
And so, he read my chart, and he sat down, and my heart sank. And he paused. And I wanted to open my mouth, because, I thought, “Shit, now I did it.” I waited too long, and I said, “Charlie,” and he said, “You’re okay.” He said, “Relax, you’re okay.” He said, “I just don’t know how to say this, but I’m looking at your test results and there’s nothing there.” I said, “Did they forget to provide the results?” He goes, “No, no, there’s results, but what I’m trying to tell you is there’s no precancer. It’s gone. And there’s no place for it to go.” And I’m sitting here trying to figure this out. Because, medically, this is unprecedented. He said, “I don’t even know exactly what to do with you.”
And he pulls out a prescription pad, and he writes a prescription, he tears it off, and he looks at my husband and he said, “I don’t know if she can conceive a child, but I can tell you something, this is the time to try. For some reason, she’s been given a free and clear, and this prescription is prenatal vitamins. Start taking them, and start getting her pregnant, because this might be your window of opportunity.” And he says, “And I’m not sure how to explain any of this.” He said, “I don’t want to give you false hope, Candy, but I am telling you that you’re healthy, and you would be able to conceive, as far as I can see.”
I’m pretty sure I floated out of the office, and I was so happy. And Tim and I never had another discussion, it just seemed natural to try after six months of this dreaded surgery. And so, this wanting, because we were trying, I just, I stopped thinking about it. I took this whole situation and I said, “I’m placing this in your hands. If I conceive, it’s meant to be. If I don’t, it’s meant to be.” But I was, at least, at peace. And I thought, “You know what? Maybe that’s why this happened to me. God just wanted to give me peace, and wanted us to stay married, and wanted us to stay raising this beautiful young lady,” who was now 14 and a half, our daughter. And so, I felt good.
And guess what, two years later, we got to go out to Phoenix again. This time with Carly and her girlfriend. And while I was there, I wasn’t feeling particularly good, and I remember feeling a little nauseated. And so, that was fine. And I came home, and I did some counting because I was still taking that natural progesterone. And you went on it, and then off of it for few days. And I realized I had screwed this up a bit. And I hadn’t had my period, and I was about a week late from taking the progesterone. And I thought, “Shoot, with the travel, and the plans, and getting everything together, I just messed this up.” So, as I was throwing everything away and putting my stuff away from the trip, I realized there was, I had to buy a pregnancy test for some procedure, and I thought, “Well, I bought one and here it was a twofer.”
So, I had half one left. And I took a pregnancy test, and then I threw it out. And then I thought, “You, goofball, you should, at least, look at the results.” So, I go back into the trash and there was window that was white and one window that was pink, and the box had two windows that were up. So, I threw it out again. And something told me to pick it back up again, and I’m like, “This is getting ridiculous.” So, I picked it up and I looked at the date and I thought, “Maybe this is expired.” And expiration date was good.
And so, then, I don’t know why I did it, I never ever read directions, which is one of my problems in life. But as I read the directions, it’s about this hormone, and if you have a lot of it, sometimes one of the windows will be really light. So, I took my phone or a flashlight or something, and when I put the flashlight to the stick, I realized that both windows had pink on them. So, I walk around the house saying, “Please help me, somebody please help me.” Only my daughter is in the house with my husband, who is in the basement. And my daughter’s like, “What’s going on, mom?” And I’m like, “I think I’m pregnant.” She was like, “Oh, cool.” I mean, what does a 14 and a half say?
But I was so shocked after 10 years by now, of wanting the second baby. And of course, this pregnancy test could have been wrong. I was still not sure if I did it right, the windows weren’t perfectly aligned like I said. So, I go downstairs and I’m like, I said to my husband, “You’re not going to believe this.” And he goes, “What? You’re pregnant?” I’m like, “I think I am.” The next morning, I decided to go to the doctor and had a test. And I was waiting for the results. I left the doctor’s office and I was thinking, “Hmm, I wonder if I’m really pregnant or not,” until they called and they said, “Congratulations, you’re pregnant.” And I looked at the calendar, and it was April 17th. My surgery had been scheduled April 16th. I conceived a child after pregnancy, and it was unprecedented.
I’m now 59, my son is 20. He’s 19 years old. So, it was 20 years ago I was pregnant. And I had surgery a few years ago, and I said to the doctor, the same doctor that delivered my beautiful little boy, he walked me down to surgery because I had to have hysterectomy. I didn’t have to, there were some challenges, and he said, “You know what? At this age, I don’t know, we’re not going to have a precursor anymore.” I was 54, I think, 52. And he said, “So, it might be the best thing to have it removed.” And I agreed with him. He walked me down the hall, and which is unusual, I’ve always been carted off to surgery. And arm in arm, he said, “Do you know how many patients I have just like you?”
And I thought, “Geez, my daughter’s, even today as we sit, she’s 33 years old. So, she was, at least, 30.” And I said, “Probably was in practice four years before that, because he was young then too.” And I said, “Probably about 34 years you’ve been in practice.” So, I would say, probably about a dozen people in his practices. Huge, I think one of the biggest in our county. And he said, “I am looking at the only person I’ve ever seen this happen to.” And I was like, “Wow.” I mean, I always knew that this was a huge gift, the pregnancy, but I hadn’t really processed how much of a gift it actually was. My son was, I mean, hands down, a gift.
And I said to the doctor, I said, “Would you do me a favor?” I said, “When you remove my organ that gave me my two beautiful children, would you just spend a moment in thanks for it holding and protecting my two children, and bringing them to earth, so that I could have them in my life, and to hold them and to enjoy them?” And he promised he would.
Here’s the part of the message that I want you to hear regarding hope. Right now, we’re in interesting times. They’re unprecedented. And some days, we might feel like there’s no hope, or there’s no controlling this. Or, “What if we can’t get our lives back?” There’s all these fears and questions and feelings of uncertainty. And as you listen to this, most likely, you will be at home. But here’s the message in all of this, the first thing is that, once I was pregnant with my son, his name was supposed to be William John or John William. William, after my father, John, after Tim’s father. Both had been deceased, both parents.
And so, that’s what the name of this little boy was going to be. I knew it, I knew it, I felt it in my heart, but what I else also felt in my heart when I was pregnant was, there was a big feeling of a break being put on, like, “Mm-mm, it’s not his name.” But no other name would come to me no matter how hard I looked, and no matter how hard I tried. I remember one day, I had gone to BJ’s, which is a whole foods store. And I usually rarely eat meat, red meat, and especially back then I didn’t, and I was buying the Fred Flinstone packages of steaks and bringing them home. The big pack.
And I remember I brought this pack home and my husband looked at me, not being able to say much because I’m pregnant, and he’s like, “What are you doing?” And I said, “I’m eating and I want steak.” So, I invited my friend over to talk, who worked with me and Tim, and the three of us were sitting there eating these steaks, and Tim looks up, out of nowhere, and says, “Phoenix.” I said, what do you mean Phoenix?” And he goes, “I just heard in my head that’s supposed to be our son’s name.” Now, as some of you may know, my business is run off of intuition. And I’m really good at it. But honestly, he has an intuitive side, we all do, he just uses it at different times and differently.
But in that moment, I really believe he heard that voice that said, “Name your son Phoenix.” And I started thinking about, “Well, the first time I wanted my son, we were in Phoenix. Right before I found out I was pregnant, we were in Phoenix. So, that might be a cool name, Phoenix.” But that name was a little different. And when I started researching names of that generation, it wasn’t as different as I thought. So, I wasn’t overly concerned, but I just wanted to be certain. So, I just waited. I go into, at the time, my daughter was in a Catholic school in St. Leo’s, and everybody had known for years how much I wanted this baby. I mean, if people knew me, they knew I wanted a baby. And I would hold anybody’s little baby. It was an obsession for me to have this baby I wanted.
And that’s a strong word, but I really was committed to having this child. So, when people found out I was pregnant, and that I had the cancer, which they watched that whole battle as well, I can not tell you the amount of cards, and the amount of joy, and the amount of love that was sent our way. It was incredible. So, I go over to the school and I happened to bump into the one and only nun, Sister Dorothy, in that parish. And she says, “I hear we have some excellent news.” And I said, “yes, sister, we do.” And we had just walked out of church. We were in the gathering space. And she said, “Well, this is a very special child, isn’t it?” And I said, “Well, all children are special, but this one really, in my opinion, is really one of God’s miracles.”
And she said, “Well, what are we going to name this miracle baby?” And I said, “Well…” I’m thinking, “Oh, great, the nun has to ask me this, and it’s not going to be a Joseph or a Warhammer John,” and I said, “Sister, we’re actually thinking about this name, and it’s Phoenix, and it has special meaning to us, thinking of the two trips in Phoenix.” And she says, “Come here, I want to show you something.” She brings me back into the church, and we both look at this huge circular window of stained glass. And in the stained glass, she points to this bird flying, and then a Eucharist. And she said, “That’s a Phoenix bird.” And I said, “What do you mean?”
And she said, “Look at my necklace.” She said, “Somebody’s handmade this. It was silver and it was a bird of sorts.” And I said, “I don’t understand, sister.” And she said, “Did you ever hear the story of the Phoenix bird rising from the ashes?” And I said, “No.” And she said, “You’re considering the name Phoenix and you’ve never heard this story?” I said, “No.” And she said, “There’s this golden bird, and this golden bird is known in many cultures, Asian culture, Indian culture, and Native American culture. And the premise of this story is that this bird, like hope, rises from the ashes of devastation.
And as she started telling me the full and complete story, something inside my heart opened up and I knew that this baby was a Phoenix bird. It’s name was absolutely appropriate. And so, as time went on, I found more and more references about this Phoenix bird and it just seemed like such an appropriate name. And so, it’s getting closer to the time when the baby was supposed to be born. His due date, I still remember was December 13th. And I had been watching this story called the Baby Story, and I thought, “How cool the baby story is.” Back then, 20 years ago, real time TV was still unusual. So, these baby stories of real people giving birth sounded really cool. I don’t know what made me do it, but I got up from the TV after watching the baby story and I put my hands on the keyboard, and there was an email to send in this notification about your story, and I just shared the story that I just shared with all of you just now.
And so, in the beginning of November, I get a phone call. And this person, it was a woman, she said, “Hey, my name is so and so, I’m from the Baby Story, and we’d like to do a story on you and your family about your up-and-coming birth on your son.” I was like, “Oh, my goodness.” And so, after a very long process of getting some approvals from medical staff, because you have to get approval from the doctor’s office, and the hospital, and multiple places, and get things signed off for liability and insurance. Thanksgiving was coming and so was the Baby Story to our home, to film the baby story. And so, we got a full and complete version of not only the birth, but the beautiful story of my son, and how his birth gave so many hope.
So, today, what I’m saying to you is that, we are in tough times, we’ve all been in some sort of a tough time before, but how did it turn out? I thought I had cancer, I thought I’d lost my childhood dream of having two children. I had a husband who wasn’t overly cooperative at the time, and a body that was broken and unable to have a child. And yet, that boy is now 19 years old and brings joy into my life every day. And I can’t even imagine the last 19 and a half years without him. And I can’t even imagine giving my story of how he came into this world up. So, as you sit into your story that’s happening in your life right now with the pandemic, what is going to rise from the ashes of this time? What is going to be the Phoenix in your life? What is going to give you hope right now?
I am a living example and a living proof, and my son’s birth is living proof. The two can come over and through any obstacles. This is serious, but we are all going to survive and overcome this. We are going to rise from the ashes. I invite you to look at my story. It’s very old story now, but I made sure that I have it on my website. It might be a nice divergence from Netflix, or you might just be curious of what the whole thing looked like, or you might just want to watch it. If you go to candicehozza.com/media, M-E-D-I-A, let me check my assistant. I believe that that is the exact link that you can utilize to see this beautiful story. So, make sure you put in www.candicehozza.com/, and you can put media, M-E-D-I-A. There’s also, /ababystoryvideo. But media is probably easier for you.
So, I invite you to always reach out to me, especially in these times of need. You might not be a Christian, you might not be a Catholic. You might not even believe in intuition, or you might believe highly in intuition, it’s all okay with me. Those definitions don’t define who I am, but this miracle that happened in my life, taught me so much about believing, believing in myself, believing in hope, and showing other people the message of hope. So, that’s what I’m offering you today, and I’m sending you the message, we’re going to be okay. We’re going to be better than okay. We’re going to come out of this stronger, better, more aligned, with better ideas that are our core and our values.
I’ve been sitting in this neighborhood for 30 years and just seeing the people walking around enjoying themselves, sidewalk chalk, the kids, the scooters again, people waving because they’re so happy to see anybody walking. And all the food, and how much I appreciate the food that’s being brought into my house because there’s days that we run out of the bread and the milk right now, and there’s a couple more days that we have to wait until we get those things. When have we ever had food rations in this country? We’re learning. There’s a greater appreciation for who we are, and probably, the freedom that we’ll have again, when we step out of this.
If you want to reach out to me, and if you need somebody to talk to, I’m so grateful to talk to you about your situation, that thing that you feel that you can’t overcome, or that feeling of depression that comes in right now, those waves of sadness and fear. You can reach me at candicehozza.com/book, B-O-O-K, and pick a 30-minute spiritual strategy session. They’re complimentary. I’ll hold space for you and I promise to do it well. Sending so much light into you today and always. Have a great evening.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to The Intuitive Business Podcast.
Candice Hozza:
This is an interview between Candice and Carmen and right now what we’re talking about, I actually really want other women to know is about the difference between fierceness and anger and how that shows up in business. Today I want to introduce Carmen and I don’t have the script in front of me.
Carmen Hoffert:
We’re going off script.
Candice Hozza:
We’re going to off script and I’m going to let her introduce herself for the sake of time and for fluidity.
Carmen Hoffert:
Sure, my name is Carmen Hoffert and I love Candice, she’s amazing. Yeah, she’s great. I introduce myself, so I am the founder of Rebelle Lancaster. It’s a community for women, it’s inclusive so if you are a woman or identify as female, you’re welcome to join our community. We meet once a month and members enjoy just getting together and talking about topics that are meaningful to us.
Candice Hozza:
How do they get in touch with you?
Carmen Hoffert:
Well, we are on Instagram at Rebelle Lancaster, and we’re also online at rebellecon.com.
Candice Hozza:
Excellent. Excellent, so thank you for that information so let’s continue.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah.
Candice Hozza:
Let’s tell you what ended up happening. Carmen and I connected and I was invited to be a speaker when one of her speakers became second. It just really worked out well and it’s been such an incredible connection. The women and the group and Rebelle, it just felt like my tribe.
What we did is we did an interview on what intuition is, and we were about to begin that interview. She said, “How are you?” I said, “I’m not happy with myself,” and I wasn’t happy with myself because I managed about 22 properties over a course of time. That didn’t fit the identity of who I was anymore. What I feel my purpose is, is about consciousness, enlightenment, helping people. As Carmen said, talk about what you just said, because she gave a really great analogy about what I do to help other people and I never saw myself in that light.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah. I think that what you do is you are a slingshot, a loving slingshot. Imagine if Candice is sort of the actual slingshot and you are the ball or the rock or whatever it is. She just propels you in a really loving and graceful way to discover new things about yourself that you didn’t realize were there all along. You do that so well and with such grace.
Candice Hozza:
Oh thank you so much and what made you feel that? What gave you that vision?
Carmen Hoffert:
My intuition gave me that. Yup, absolutely, my intuition. When I was talking to you, that was the visual I got, was an actual slingshot and you embodying that, yeah.
Candice Hozza:
Here’s where we’re at today. Here’s what I did and here’s what I feel super bad about, is I was in a situation with real estate. When I started real estate about, I don’t know if it’s 12 or more years ago, I remember talking to people that were dealing in real estate and they were like, “Are you sure that person isn’t doing this or that?” Pretty soon I was learning that in real estate it is a dog eat dog world. The realtors have been interesting to deal with, brokers have been interesting, a challenge to deal with, some brokers, some have been amazing.
What it does is it triggers something inside of me and it made me feel bad that I had to push somebody to the point of I accused them of lying. There was a whole bunch of things going on that weren’t adding up and I thought that they were playing me for a fool basically, which was my ego, first of all. I performed with the energy of anger and I’m really frustrated because I feel I’m like a spiritual leader now and a teacher. Pushing anger into the world in any situation, even if I was being conned in that moment, anger was not the tool or the energy to use and that’s what I did.
The challenge with me using anger was that I had a kind relationship with this person, and because of what I learned in the past, I brought that into that moment and in the future. I was embarrassed about my behavior and I didn’t even sleep well last night. I hit the counter. I didn’t even sleep well last night because of this. When Carmen’s like, “How are you?” I feel I’m a pretty genuine person and I was like, “I don’t feel good because of this.” Then here’s where we hit record, and I want Carmen to share what it is about women and anger versus her thoughts, and I’ll let her go from there.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah. Well, first of all I want to say in response to what you just said is thank you. Thank you. I’m going to get a little emotional, but you being super vulnerable and saying, “I,” I know we’re getting emotional over here.
Candice Hozza:
Both of us.
Carmen Hoffert:
You are a spiritual teacher in so many ways to so many women and men and all your clients and all of it, but you also are human. You saying, “Oh crap, I lead with anger,” and then being able to voice it and not only voice it, record it and send it out to all of your listeners is huge. It shows us that we are all still on our journeys, still learning and applying the tools that we have to continually do that every day, no matter who we are. I just want to say thank you.
Candice Hozza:
Thank you. Thank you and thank you for holding space for me, because I didn’t know who I was going to talk to about this. To be honest, I wouldn’t have recorded this and made this into a podcast. I wouldn’t have wanted people to see me in the light of accusing somebody of lying to me. The sad part that really hurts me is they were having a rough day, like their movers didn’t come and I didn’t believe them. I thought they were stalling moving from the property, which has happened to me and they’ve taken refrigerators and stoves and it’s cost a small fortune, but I hadn’t had that relationship with this person.
There were some things that were off I will give it that, but that did not give me the permission. I literally like attacked her with this accusatory language and I was angry with her. It made me so frustrated and I felt embarrassed, I was embarrassed and I let my own self down by letting her down. She was struggling. She was having a hard day. She doesn’t have good health and her movers didn’t show up and I accused her of stalling.
I go over to the property and the movers were like, “Yeah, we’re really sorry we weren’t here the day before.” She was telling the truth and she really liked me. I had done her a favor and then she said, I threw that up in her face. I did not perform in a good fashion and I don’t think I would have recorded this.
Carmen Hoffert:
Well, I love that. I love you, I think you’re awesome. I think that there, as you know, in your life there’s always that opportunity to use this experience, to deepen the relationship that you even have with her. You allowing yourself to show some vulnerability there. We were chatting about the difference between being angry or anger and fierce. How women often, we don’t know the difference between being angry and calling up our fierceness because often in the world and in our lives, we are told to be the good girls. The stuff it down, hold it in, show up kindly, sweetly and all of these different ways that it’s hard for us to really sort of tap into that place of being fierce. When I say fierce I mean like mama bear, so those moments where somebody’s like doing your kid dirty or whatever, and it just comes out and that’s fierce.
We were sort of chatting about what the difference is there, and I’ve been learning this in my life and I’ve been learning … I just read a really, really beautiful article on it and discussed it with some really intelligent women just over the weekend. As we were kind of like diving into what that difference is, I think that you taking responsibility in this story and saying like, “Oh crap, I definitely could have taken a moment to discern it in a different way and now that I know I did lead with anger. I was trying to be fierce, but I was also replaying all of the past trauma that had happened to me before. Someone else stalled, someone else said their movers didn’t show up. Someone else stole from me. I was taken advantage of and so I’ve learned to protect that part of me.”
While you came at this woman from a place of anger, you were still protecting that past Candice who had been taken advantage of, and you just wanted to make sure that that wasn’t happening again. I think now that you know, you have a really beautiful opportunity to deepen the relationship and the trust between your past tenant, right?
Candice Hozza:
Yeah.
Carmen Hoffert:
And you.
Candice Hozza:
Well, I actually thought about that. I thought, “I’m going to take them,” I mean, they’re still in the middle of a move. I’m going to take them a meal of some sort, and then her some flowers. There were some things there though that were challenged, but in the same token … What I was thinking about, so I was going to sleep and I was thinking forgiveness is another issue that I have issues with.
Okay, now I know I did something wrong and now it’s time for me to step up. Now I’m really, I’m stuck. Now I’m not saying I’m not going to do it, but I was thinking, “How could I make this better?” I also barked down my husband’s throat that same day with like anger. He said, “You have these anger things that are coming out,” and I thought, “Hmm, here I am trying to teach people to be unstuck,” and I realized I have some anger issues that I need to let go of. That once I do, I believe that the next level of me will evolve.
It’s not about me, it’s about what I can do for others, but I can’t teach others when I have this brokenness around this issue. Yes, I’m going to continue to teach, but now that I’m aware, I have to transition that and be in integrity.
Carmen Hoffert:
Well, and I think you’re exactly right, but I think that we are always teacher and student. While you are teaching other people, the only reason and the only way you’re able to teach other people, is because you’re putting in the work. You’re putting in the work in your own life, you’re calling yourself into awareness to say, “Whoa, I barked down my husband’s throat. I took anger out on someone else.” The only reason that you’re able to then provide this insight to others is because you recognize it in your own life and you’re doing the work.
I think to follow up on something that you said, you had said, forgiveness is something that you struggle with. I would even say, perhaps look at the forgiveness that you need to give yourself, because when did this happen? It’s Monday, this happened yesterday?
Candice Hozza:
Yeah.
Carmen Hoffert:
Okay, so in that time you said that you haven’t been sleeping well, you feel sad, you got emotional. This happened yesterday, but you’re still torturing and punishing yourself for a mistake that any of us could’ve made and you’re still letting yourself be punished by it.
Candice Hozza:
Yeah, and even by saying, “But it happened in the past,” that’s just a justification and I don’t like that. I don’t like that energy so I have to forgive me first.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah and say, “Oh crap, that happened and I didn’t like the way I handled it. I didn’t like my reaction. I didn’t take a second to breathe. I have all of these tools and next time I’ll do that.”
Candice Hozza:
You know what else I didn’t use?
Carmen Hoffert:
What?
Candice Hozza:
Well, what I was using instead of my intuition was the past pain. I was connecting to the time that somebody took our stove and dishwasher and every appliance out of the house and didn’t tell us they moved. I was going back to those bad things in my head and what my business is called is The Intuitive Business and I wasn’t using that skill instead. I knew as I was doing it, I said, “This is your ego. This is your ego,” and my ego picked up the phone and I was like, “No, I don’t want to use my ego.” My ego’s like, “Oh hell yeah,” and guess what? My ego really screwed up.
Carmen Hoffert:
No, your ego didn’t screw up.
Candice Hozza:
What did my ego do?
Carmen Hoffert:
Your ego did what every ego does, your ego answered the call. This is my ego. This is my ego. I’m picking up the phone for the ego. The ego is just going to do what the ego always does. Yeah.
Candice Hozza:
What if I would have played with my intuition instead in that moment?
Carmen Hoffert:
What would have happened?
Candice Hozza:
What would have happened differently?
Carmen Hoffert:
Maybe that’s also where you need to forgive yourself is, yeah what if I would have done it differently, but I didn’t, and so I will next time. Then I will know what would have happened differently because I will have used my intuition.
Candice Hozza:
For all of you listening out there, what is it in your life and in your business that you need to let go of? Is it your anger because of past hurts? Is it that you have a hard time forgiving others or forgiving yourself?
Carmen Hoffert:
That is a good question. I’m trying to think, what would I want to let go of? Well, I definitely do what you do. Something will happen and I will mull over it and work through it and try it, or I think I’m working through it, but really what I’m doing is just replaying it in my head. I’m like, “I’m processing.” No, you’re just working it through in your head over and over and over again, so that would be mine.
I’m really working towards forgiving myself in those moments and understanding that, going back to the Maya, Angelou, Dr. Maya Angelou quote, when you know better, you do better. Now you experienced that, you’ll move forward and the next time that that happens, you’ll have this experience to pull from and I know you will.
Candice Hozza:
Say that again.
Carmen Hoffert:
I know will.
Candice Hozza:
I love it, say it again.
Carmen Hoffert:
Dr. Maya Angelou said, when you know better, you do better. You pull from the experience, you say, “Oh, that one isn’t great. I wish I would have handled that differently. Next time I’ll pull from this experience and I’ll do better because I know.”
Candice Hozza:
That feels so much better. Even just talking about this feels so much better because I kept it inside. What are you keeping inside right now? What is that thing? I love the word that Carmen used that was festering, what an awful word and a such a great word because it was eating me up. When I looked into her eyes and she said, “How are you today?” Before we hit record or before we even talked about what we’re going to talk about, when I looked into her eyes, I just felt like I needed also to be honest.
Here’s what’s really ironic about this whole situation. Carmen was here before and we thought we recorded something about intuition, and it was really awesome and something went wrong with my machine. It’s the only time that it hasn’t recorded and then we finally got ourselves back around to today. Here we are really talking about intuition, but in a way that I didn’t expect, but what if we start listening? I just felt like she and I, our hearts were connected in this subject, fierceness and anger for women. What we’ve been taught and what we need to bring more of into the world is who we really are from, what? What do you think it is?
Carmen Hoffert:
Well, I think that even just trusting our intuition is really, really, really important. It’s something that I’ve been leaning into in the past several years and trusting myself that I know the answers. Or if I don’t know the answer, if I’m really not sure, to create a team of really trusted, beautiful advisors who know your soul and know your heart so deeply, that they can kind of help you see the way and guide you into making decisions. It’s all about intuition, discernment and just being able to walk in that, that’s been my experience.
Candice Hozza:
That brings us to this very moment of what Carmen and I stepped into, is we trusted even the subject matter that was going to come out. This wasn’t where we were going, but I felt into the moment and I’m like, this is what high performing women business entrepreneurs that are delivering a message out into the world. What if you’re struggling? What if there’s a pain point that’s keeping you up at night, that’s festering about something inside of you and how can you release that? I love this topic about forgiveness and about listening to our own intuition.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah. I’m trying to find it right now as we speak. There’s a really beautiful piece on Instagram about the difference between processing emotions, which is something that you and I talked about and ruminating on emotions and experiences. This is actually from a beautiful woman on Instagram, it’s at Therapy For Women on Instagram. She’s a professional and she sort of outlines the difference between processing emotions and ruminating, and that which is kind of what I was saying I do.
I think, “Oh I’m processing, I’m processing,” and no, I’m just replaying that over and over and over again and also not trusting my intuition to say, “No girl, you’re human. That was an oops. That was a mistake. How do we make it right? How do we learn from it and continue on so that, that pain or that confusion isn’t wasted?” Does that make sense?
Candice Hozza:
Yes, it does and so what I did last night when I was struggling is, I pulled one of my cards and let me see if I can find what it says. I pulled one of my cards last night and because I was struggling so much and I needed some internal guidance. I’m going to see if I can find what it said, because it was really, really cool. I felt really connected. There’s these cards I use, I don’t see them sitting here.
Carmen Hoffert:
Is it the Rebels?
Candice Hozza:
The Rebel.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah, Sacred Rebels, I saw it over there. Yeah.
Candice Hozza:
Do you realize, so Rebelle is her group.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah, and then I was in here and I just happened to glance over and she has her cards and it’s from the deck Sacred Rebels.
Candice Hozza:
Here’s what really, really hit me last night when I read this card. The energy around this matter is relevant to your secret birthright and sign. Perhaps you need to trust more to know that all is well, no matter what happens or what appears to be. And to ask for help and believe that you deserve to receive it. Like why didn’t I say, “Hey, guides, help me out. Is this person trying to con me?” Why wouldn’t I ask? I just went with boom, anger.
This goes back to the cards, the Rebel cards or Sacred Rebel, I’m sorry. The legacy of light can also ask you to call on the unconditional love and support that exists for you every day. The light will offer you all manner of assistance. Do not call upon it like you’re starving because you believe you have no means to acquire food whilst a few days late before your eyes, if only you would partake of it.
Basically it was just saying, “Abundance is around you,” and I was thinking in lack. This card also talked about something about once this is healed, because what I really like about the Sacred Rebel cards is they also put the component of healing. It says like, once this is healed, basically I will transition into the next level. That light and bringing light into the world is my sacred gift, and this anger that I had also can be transformed into passion because I’m a very passionate person and that’s one of my gifts. Sometimes it’s that double edged sword, like the gift and the curse, right?
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I don’t believe that anger is bad or a bad emotion. Anger is simply an emotion that’s trying to tell you something. In this case with your experience yesterday, that anger was just trying to say like, “I’ve been through this before. Let’s check this out to make sure that it isn’t the same experience that you already had.” It’s just a little tap on the shoulder to say, “Let’s investigate this further. Let’s get curious and ask some more questions or ask your guides.”
Candice Hozza:
So because I didn’t plan on us going down this road, I kind of feel a little lost to where else to go. I do just want to stay in this one moment of, as women we didn’t learn this stuff. I’m quite a lot older than you, I think we’re probably 15 years apart, something like that. I’m 59.
Carmen Hoffert:
Oh I’m 38.
Candice Hozza:
38, so about 20, wow, damn. We should do a whole next show on aging, but even with that being said, so we have a 20 year age gap and I didn’t learn how to manage my anger. Carmen at almost 40 or at the end of her 30s, she didn’t learn how to manage that. She’s probably more, has a lot more freedom and visions of freedom than I did as a woman.
Like everybody in our neighborhood, maybe except, no, I can’t think, nope. Everybody in our neighborhood, the woman worked or stayed at home and the father worked. Everybody lived off of a salary that was basically a steelworker’s salary because that’s where I lived. Whether you had five kids or you had two kids, everybody’s house was pretty much the same, you just fit more people into that same unit and that’s how people lived.
I didn’t get to see different things in my environment. Everybody was pretty much doing the same thing, staying at home, raising their children. I knew that I wanted to have a career because something inside me told me and I kind of think … I always had two things. I always had the baby buggy and the machine gun, and I don’t use guns or anything like that. It was the Vietnam war and I would have my helmet and I’d get a football and a baby doll. I always think my dad, because in the beginning I was an only child and then my sister came along, it was 10 years later.
I think he always stretched my masculine side. “Come and learn how to fix the car because you could be stuck on a road Candice.” Then he’d put military rations in the back of the trunk and a woolen blanket and water and a spray and wash type of thing for the windows, as well as paper towels. I was good to go and in the winter there were sandbags and a mini shovel.
Carmen Hoffert:
Aw, but you’re right. Well, and that’s how we all are made, right? We all are the feminine and the masculine and we just are learning to sort of balance those out. I think now you have been called into a feminine space if I’m correct.
Candice Hozza:
Yeah.
Carmen Hoffert:
I don’t want to answer for you, but I would feel that way too about myself, but yeah, we’re figuring it out in a balance of both.
Candice Hozza:
The last month had been quite of a challenge in real estate because some of the properties and most I did not. You get pushed and shoved around on both sides and I found myself being not happy with that. It was making me somebody who I wasn’t, or I shouldn’t say, it made me feel like I was losing my power. The way I feel about my business, like when I went to speak at Rebelle, they had a professional photographer that I’m going to actually hire for my Spirit Spa Day, right after …
Carmen Hoffert:
Megan Hopper Photography.
Candice Hozza:
.com.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah.
Candice Hozza:
I’m actually going to meet with her literally after this appointment, I’m going to go over to …
Carmen Hoffert:
Really?
Candice Hozza:
Yeah. I’m going to …
Carmen Hoffert:
Oh I love her.
Candice Hozza:
I’m going to text her and we’re going to meet.
Carmen Hoffert:
Give her a hug for me.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, I will. Yeah, she gave you a hug.
Carmen Hoffert:
I know, return it.
Candice Hozza:
Here’s where we are, hugging and you know what, that’s my highest and best. Like this connection, this giggle-ness. I worked in a hard profession. I worked at a university for 33 years and then the real estate for about 12 years, and that would often put me in my masculine energy. I’m moving the desk down because I’m realizing like we’re both stretching into this mic because we’re shorter and I have my desk too high.
It made me take a step back and say, “What brings me joy in my life?” Real estate can bring you some really good money, but it wasn’t bringing me joy and I needed to make a decision. What I did is, I retired from managing properties and instead I’m going to put that time into something I love, that brings me joy. Now even saying that makes me feel kind of feminine and soft, but yet I’m not a soft person. I’m not a weak person and sometimes softness, here’s another good word, softness and weakness. Being soft and in your flowy, feminine energy is a whole different thing than when you’re pushing and pushing.
Carmen Hoffert:
I would even take that one bit further because you’re saying, “I want to be in my joy. I want to be doing what feels right for me and that feels soft, but is that weak?” I would say that you moving into that “soft” space is actually empowering you, which is the opposite of weak.
Candice Hozza:
I love that, empowerment.
Carmen Hoffert:
Yeah and I also wanted to circle back to something else that you said about our age differences and say that, I’m going to speak for folks my age. For us, for me looking to you, I didn’t even know how old you were. Being able to see you live a life and create a life that is fulfilling and empowering to you so that you can then empower others is really beautiful. It’s really neat for us to be able to see that and to hear your story of where you came from and that you didn’t have that to look to. Even though you didn’t have it to look to, that you’re creating it so that we can. That’s really, I just want to thank you for that.
Candice Hozza:
We’re hugging and I have goosebumps.
Carmen Hoffert:
It’s true. It really is true and that’s the connection. That’s the universal connection. That’s why we’re all connected. We don’t even realize it and we are.
Candice Hozza:
Wow, and for those of us that are at the end of our 50s, maybe 60s, maybe even 70s, some of the people I work with are in their 70s and they’re still going really strong. I don’t see any end to what they’re doing and they’re making huge contributions.
Carmen Hoffert:
They’re just getting started.
Candice Hozza:
They’re just getting started. At my Pivot to Profit, there’s a lot of women on my group Pivot to Profit and you can check out my website for that where groups of women come in and they ask questions. I go into the intuitive side of myself and somehow we got on the track of aging and boobs. It was like talking about how the boobs are now slipping out underneath the bra and poor, poor Renee he was at one of the interviews that you listen to and he’s a guy. He was there, but you know, I’m looking at the physical symptoms of aging.
It’s a little bit slower getting out of the bed, and things hurt in the morning for a while sometimes and sometimes it’s a good morning. I’ve had surgeries and health issues and I feel great right now, but when you get to this age, you start looking at this body that you’re hosting with your spirit. You know that, let’s face it, even these beautiful women in their 70s, okay, if we have 100 years to live, how many of those years are going to be great? You start at this age evaluating where you’re spending your time and how you’re spending your time, because there is a limit to how many years we have on this earth in this lifetime. I believe the soul’s ageless and that it never dies, and that these are experiences that I’m going to be taking to the next incarnation of who I’m going to become. I really want them to be great.
What I think that I can contribute to this world, and I never thought about it like this, is for women who are of my age, that they’re looking at stepping into another age. Sometimes it’s so hard when you look in the mirror and so many of the things that used to look like you don’t, and that’s not really what’s important anymore. It’s the wisdom that I’ve learned through my experiences in each one of those wrinkles and marks and everything that’s on my body now and everything that’s not on my body now. I’m looking at it in a different light with what Carmen just said is, I have something more to offer than my wrinkles.
Carmen Hoffert:
Absolutely. You are your light. You are and I just feel really lucky to get to know you, I like to be here with you. I’m lucky.
Candice Hozza:
Wow, thank you so much for that. I think that this is kind of a good natural ending. Remember, I just want you to lean into what we’re talking about today and maybe spend a little time with yourself. A lot of people listen to these recordings while they’re in the car and so this is a really good time. You’re probably by yourself and to ask yourself, what is it right now that if you released it, maybe that anger, or maybe worrying about the wrinkles or how your boobs keep slipping out underneath your bra and thinking about what we have to offer to this world, what thoughts can we let go of and behaviors? In their place, what are you going to choose to free up and bring into the world? Thank you for being with us today.
Carmen Hoffert:
Thank you, it was so fun.
Candice Hozza:
Tell them one more time, how they can get in touch with you.
Carmen Hoffert:
Oh yes, Rebelle is the name of the community and we are at Rebelle Lancaster on Instagram and rebellecon.com online.
Candice Hozza:
Thank you.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast. Hello, and welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast, and we have a visitor today. So I have one of my clients who’s working in my Quantum Connection program, and we kind of want to unpackage together authentically, who he is and the process of why he’s on the podcast today. So I hope that’s okay with all of you and his name is Rene Gonzales. So Rene, first of all, I just really want to welcome you on the podcast today, so thank you for being here.
Rene:
Well, thank you for inviting me, I appreciate this, this means a lot to me.
Candice:
Excellent and tell us where you’re located, because I’m over here in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. So I just kind of want to see where you’re located.
Rene:
I am close to the Dallas, Texas area, I’m just on the outskirts out of about 30 miles or so in the Rockwall area. It’s kind of the country parts of the town, and it’s really fun out here.
Candice:
Excellent, excellent, so the first question I wanted to ask you is, I wanted to tell the listening audience, how we connected. Because the Rene’s kind of unique for my business, most people I meet when I’m publicly speaking or they’re referred by somebody. And Renee just kind of popped in from big old Texas in a different way, so I want them to hear that part too.
Rene:
You bet, so when we first met, I had just been awake for probably about a month, and my sensitivity was just really, really high. And way I was looking at things was I was trying to look from a different perspective of somebody else that can see something that I couldn’t at the moment. And so that’s when I reached out to you and I was like, I found two choices and the first one, I didn’t even bother calling because I just pulled you up as a second, but everything just kind of resonated with every little, every little line. And I was like going, “There’s something about her that I just, I got to find out.”
So when I sent out to contact you, as soon as you called me back, I just automatically knew, I could just tell it from your voice. As we both had that little bit of already automatic connection, real quick and, and it didn’t take long, as soon as we first got started, it was almost instant.
Candice:
Oh, wow, so do you remember even like one little line or sentence, and the reason I’m asking that, I have an intention to help others about that. So do you remember just one thing that resonated?
Rene:
Absolutely the aligning with your soul part, as far as business. And for me, I was looking at trying several different businesses, and I just wanted, I came to the point I was like, you know what, let’s just go to the source of the soul, and let’s just ask and let’s see what we can get. And that was my really big intention, of really want to come out and try to talk to you. Because I think what you do, your gift that you bring out is so awesome. You can see so deep between, that people have to go like to extreme depths, just to see the things that you see. But that is one of the most awesome things about seeing what you get to do.
Candice:
Oh man, thank you so much, that’s really special. And yeah, sweet, I did I felt really connected to Rene and I felt like we would be working together for a while. I remember thinking that and not from a salesy perspective at all, it just was this again, I have an Intuitive Business, and an Intuitive Connection. The other reason why I ask Rene to unpack this a little bit for the listening audience, is can you now see how your ideal client, which is totally an ideal client of mine. Your marketing message, and reaching that person through your marketing and you found me through, what was it a Google Search?
Rene:
Yes, and it was, it was looking up for Akashic Records for businesses, and a sense of that. And there was only two people, that really came up and like I said, there was one that was overseas. And then there was you, and I was like I want to talk to you about, but it was like I said, when I got onto the website, there was a lot of things, that were just resonating with me that I already knew about the Akashic Records. I mean, I have already kind of been intrigued with it, never reached out to anybody about it, but I thought at that point in time, with my sensitivity, I said, “You know what let’s find out a little bit more about it.”
Candice:
Excellent, I’m going to go into, remember I said, I wanted to be this like an authentic type of interview, talk about the word sensitivity, and what that means to you.
Rene:
Wow, that’s a good one. When I, for me, I’m going to say this for me, I was just so oblivious to how sensitive I was. It was always for me, that I just wanted to do the right thing for somebody else. And I’m wanting to help out, and I’m just always wanting to encourage, and just kind of, [inaudible 00:05:42] keep going type of person. and whenever I’ve always just looked at it as, I think sometimes I kind of forget where I go, cause I go a little far but.
Candice:
It’s all good, like I said, we want to have fun today. And so, so anyways, again, I really want to make a point to those business owners,, when you’re looking for our ideal client and he and I have been a wonderful match, I believe for both of us, we’ll figure that out in a moment. But your marketing message is super important. And then having an updated website that has great information to support and help others. So I’m going to move on to question number two. So what specifically were you looking for with the Akashic Records, and the alignment of business for you?
Rene:
For me, I was, since I had several ideas that I could have gone through, I could have gone through real estate, online marketing, just different ways, YouTube marketing that I was looking at. But it was, I was so scattered, so what I really wanted to do is, I wanted to drive it home, get centered and focused on what it was that I was supposed to be working on. And then from there start going forward. So that was my main reason why, when I reached out to you, I was like, I got to find out, there’s something here that I got to see. And you’re the judge, you’re the person that could just like, I mean, you, the reading part of it is you had me like from hello, from the moment we got in. So it was just, it was an awesome experience for me, and it has always been since every time we get in, and you have our little fun, so,.
Candice:
Oh you mean your own personal Akashic Record reading?
Rene:
Yeah, my mine and whenever we’re both in it, and we just have our little conversations. It’s the, and I will say this, I think it’s because we’re both so intuitive, that we don’t really get to match up with someone that’s just as intuitive as we are. And it’s really fun because we paint things off each other.
Candice:
We really do, and I want to ask a couple more questions, but this is something I want to come back to, is what is it like doing tandem readings with me? So I want to unpackage a few things, so let’s put a place marker there, because I think that’s going to be really cool to talk about.
Rene:
You bet.
Candice:
So we’re kind of moving into that right now is, your program was called Quantum Connection, and it was a private, independent program. And so I am kind of baiting doing private work, and I am now going to move this Quantum Connection into group work. Because I’m seeing how to do it more effectively. So the good news is I still do private work, and the greater news is that Renee has just gotten through this program, along with several other people. But because he’s so highly intuitive, he did have extra, I think he had some extraordinary results. And I want you to hear what his life is like after working in the Quantum Connection program. So let’s talk a little bit about first of all, what did we do together specifically?
Rene:
When we got in there, the first thing that you really did help me, it was to kind of open my eyes up to this other world that I wasn’t quite sure that I was seeing. And, and what was amazing, it was actually in our second talk, was when actually, when we actually were doing reading the Akashic Records together and it was like, wow, I can really do this. And I didn’t even know, I even had that gift. So what has happened for me is once we started getting into what you were teaching, is that there was just a lot more remembrances.
And I even remember having one of these dreams where I woke up, and we were having our second talk, and I was seeing connect the dots in my mind. And that day we connected a lot of dots that I needed. And I think right after that, I got off the phone call with you, I went in there and I tried, and I think I ended up with like three or four pages of information, that I was just felt like I was channeling. And information from my grandfather to my mom.
So I read it to him, I read it to her and I haven’t been able to connect back with him. I’ve actually been able to connect to some other guides that I have, I now just can recognize when they come in, and I see them is like, boom, I know I’m in. So, and it has been really profound, and just to be able to see it. And I think what helps here is that, the way you present it, your confidence and how you give it, your presentation about it. If you’ve tried to resonate, and in-tune to that frequency of you, you can really just, it starts to sink in really easy. And I was finding it becoming more and more easy, as I was trying to give it less, less resistance to learn how to do it.
Candice:
So I want to paraphrase a few beautiful things that you said, and first of all, your kindness and your accolades, like really touch my heart. So I just really want to thank you for that.
Rene:
You’re welcome.
Candice:
I just honor you so much, so for stepping into who you really are just really, I honor you for that. And I want to talk a little bit about what you were saying. You were basically saying I had no skill set about reading the Akashic Records, and then through trust, trusting in yourself, and through going through a process that you started to get downloads almost instantaneously. One of them was three pages, and one of which went right into mediumship.
So tell us a little bit about the process that you use, like tell us how you do this now. Because what I find personally is yes, I went over very specific skill sets, and we did like a three and a half hour training. But during that three and a half hour training, we were in the records, in what would you say the first 10, 15 minutes?
Rene:
Yeah, as far as when we get in there, my biggest thing that I always love, and you do this for me, and it just absolutely blows my mind. Is it how big you see me growing in the records? And I will say this, as a teacher you, that the first, one of the biggest questions I asked, three days into getting into the records is, is what does Candi see within me? And I tried to go as deep as you could go, to find out how you teach. And what I was finding out was empowering. It was very empowering, because it forced me to go deep within myself, to be able to find the answers, and I didn’t know, I could do that. But you could see that I could, and you could see that overall picture, that I just couldn’t quite see for myself just yet.
And whenever I was getting there, and I was seeing from your eyes, it was like, “Oh, my word.” It was, I will, there was a question I was asked, and it’s basically simple, and it says, what does that look like? And, so one day I went out to my little meditation spot, out here in the woods, and I had, I took that question and I pondered, what does it look like? And I tried to come up with this idea, that I was just going to give away. And I looked at it and I thought about it, and I said, “You know what, I’m seeing through Candi’s eyes right now, because she can see these like billion dollar ideas. And it’s because she’s locked into abundance that she can sit here and say, ‘I can give this away because I could see more and more and more and more.'” And that was awesome.
That is an awesome attribute for your teacher, that, and that’s why I reached out to you. I saw this big old light, I said, there’s something there I can learn. There’s a whole lot more, but that is just one of those main aspects, that I just saw something within you. And it was just what you were seeing in me, and it just blew me away, it truly did.
Candice:
Oh wow, I really, I want to sit with that. And first of all, I really, my heart is just so full right now, because when I stepped into this work, I was afraid.
Rene:
Mm hmm.
Candice:
And I think you, might’ve been a little bit of that too. When we first started, it’s like, can I do this? Because this is one of those things it’s like, if you drive down a road three miles, there’s this little navigation device, and it says, “You’ve traveled three miles.” But when you’re on this a spherical space, how can we prove what we’re doing? And so it’s even hard to believe in yourself. And so I so love that he trusted me, and what I saw in him, which, when I channel, I don’t remember everything consciously, but if somebody gives me an opportunity to revisit their readings, then I can remember what was channeled.
And I do remember seeing that he was so big energetically, meaning he had a lot of capabilities and capacities, to do something really big with it. Gift of intuition I think all of us can, but there was something I saw in Rene that was huge. And so this is kind of the first time, that I’m hearing this connection, meaning that he saw what I saw in him. So that’s really, it’s very deep what you said. And I’m just, I’m going to ask everybody to breathe, because I think that was a really good moment, so let’s all do this.
I almost felt like I needed, that was deep for me. And I just wanted to acknowledge that and honor it. So let’s, thank you, and I wanted to honor Rene too, because he is a bright light. He’s going to be one of our bright shining stars I believe, in this world with his gift. So you couldn’t read the records before, and then all of a sudden, all these things started to happen and you were getting deeper and deeper within.
Rene:
That is correct.
Candice:
Tell me what it’s like now, like give us, share an insight to somebody who might be sitting there thinking, “I’ve always had my heart set on learning more about intuition, but I don’t know, I don’t know if I can do it? What if I’m not that big light?” What can you say to them so that they can believe in themselves, and seek guidance from somebody like me or like you moving forward?
Rene:
Absolutely, the biggest thing, and I will say it from my perspective here, and this is what really drove me about the Akashic Records, is just understanding that this is the information of who you are. And trying to find out about more of who you are, and bringing that information up, to where you can bring it out, was a driving factor for me. And whenever I see that you can do this through the Akashic Records, and how you can really harness everything that you’ve got, to bring the best out of you. You start to see possibilities of everything in this world.
You see that you can do this, I can do that, I can do this, this, that. And it’s just so mind boggling, because all these things you didn’t think you had, all of a sudden you now have, and you have it in massive spades, and it’s all because you just decided to take on learning a new skill, and about how to empower yourself. And that’s what really drove me, as far as wanting to know more about Akashics.
Candice:
Oh wow, that’s awesome. So would you recommend for that person that’s sitting there listening to us right now. And here’s my thought on whoever’s listening right now to Rene and I, it’s not a coincidence because there was a day, when I was sitting there looking for answers, and I came across angels and guides 27 years ago. And about eight to 10 years ago now, the Akashic records. And so what would you say to them right now, would it be worth reaching out, and starting to do their own inner work in the Akashic Records?
Rene:
The way I see it, is the work is healing work for yourself. It is you learning to expand you, and learning to embrace everything that you have. But it has to take that different mine’s perspective, and seeing from that different angle. And when you really get grasp that angle, then it just the picture just boom, it just unfolds. And you can start to see how profounding this can be, the insights to be able to connect with somebody else, and to be able to give, it’s from your heart advice that you see with this, within them. That you can just it’s life changing for them, it’s profound.
And to being able to do that, that is the gift. That is being able to see, and see how big their life changes, because of you being able to reach into them, and seeing them and open them in a way, that most people can can’t help get.
Candice:
Wow, that’s really beautiful to share. And I also want to go back to something that you said you used the word, in one of your descriptions, is so empowering. I really liked that. And I want to share with the listeners something about that. So guess why I didn’t want to do Akashic Record readings for other people? Because I had this skill set for a few years, and I was only practicing on one person, as a practice person, for over a year. And it probably took me another year to actually put it into the world. And then I had a challenge with asking for money about it. And so first I want to go back to that word empowerment, and the reason why I didn’t want to do, read the Akashic Records, was guess why?
Rene:
Empowering, you were not empowered yourself?
Candice:
Exactly, I was like, if people come to me seeking for the answers, then they’re looking at me like a guru. And while I don’t mind stepping into any type of a leadership role, I don’t want to be the person that is just giving random answers. And so I was trying to think of a way to make this a resource of empowerment. And it’s since has I figured that out, when I’m working with people. And they don’t come to me for all the answers, I’m educating, and I’m training, and I’m guiding people in multiple programs, to help them to find their own way. And I always say this, and I think you probably would, may agree with me, the Akashic Records are simply a database of your soul connection.
PART 1 OF 4 ENDS [00:22:04]
Speaker 1:
– records are simply a database of your soul connected to divine source. It’s an infinite space of wisdom, truth, and most especially love, that energy of connection and love and abundance. When somebody like me or now, Renee, as he’s trained in the Akashic Records, tops into that energy source. I loved also, he said, “Tapping into that space of everything that you are and every potential possibility that you can be,” and you can see that. It’s so much easier to step into something that you can see and feel confident in than that fear of the unknown, because that’s what gets us stuck, right?
Renee:
Absolutely. Yeah, it’s almost as if I’m seeing the picture coming to life here and then watching it now filter down into here. But I’m really giving the details of everything I can imagine, the best things of myself, the highest and best situations of things occurring to me, and I’m literally just putting that picture together and just letting it come out as it may. But that is what it feels like when I’m in there, and it’s just like I’m just still all giggly. I remember I was telling you at the beginning I was having troubles trying to keep up. It was like I’d just get stuck in just a la la of seeing all the colors just coming at me. It was just like, “Wow, this is really, really cool.”
Speaker 1:
And this was without drugs.
Renee:
Yeah. No, yeah! This is just literally going, “Wow.” But you remember, you had taught me about trying to keep… It’s like reading the karaoke machine, the little ball, the bouncing ball. What would happen, I would get this little flicking in my eye like a ball bouncing to keep me on track of saying, “Okay, you need to keep up now,” so I would speed up. I was finding myself just learning and having so much fun going in there and just seeing that type of stuff occur.
Speaker 1:
Well, I want to talk a little about these little details, because I want to let them in on our secret. And also when Renee was talking about this, he was using hand gestures like dropping in from his head. He had his hands around his head area, and then wiggling his fingers and placing them more in his heart. I just wanted to make that distinction, because what he was saying was putting it from your head to your heart, and that that’s where the energy source is at for you.
Renee:
Absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 1:
I want to say a little bit about the program Quantum Connection, so that they understand what we’re doing and how we connected. We had about a three hour training. I have these video slides that I can use for anybody or a PowerPoint presentation. We go through a very small process and we immediately start going into the records together. What I love about going in together with a client almost immediately is that clears up some doubts and some fears like, “I don’t believe this. I don’t think I can.” But when you have somebody saying the same darn thing that you’re seeing, it starts getting to be like, “Oh my goodness. Either she’s in my head or she’s in my energy field,” and we are in a type of an energy field that we can see, feel, hear, and know, depending on what clair that you have, which is the different senses, like seeing, hearing, feeling, and knowing.
The next thing that we did is we had a whole day of tandem readings, et cetera, but then I feel like that’s not enough. For me, I trained in a couple different classes, and I think I’ve discussed this in the past. One had like 15 different trainings, and in each component, there was another six to eight to 12 classes. At the end, I just got sheets of paper and basically a pendulum to try to figure out these questions. That didn’t make sense to me, so I developed a system where we get right into the records. Once we’re in the records, then we do tandem readings. And that’s where, like Renee was saying, “Oh my goodness. I see all these colors and I see all these lights,” because one of his highest clairs is he has hearing and seeing, so he’s clairvoyant and he’s clairaudient.
I didn’t feel an integrity to just let people go after a day of playing with the records, so what I do next is they have two extra readings with me, and that’s individual private readings. They are an hour and a half. And then after that, I have Voxer access for my private clients so that they could tell me each day what’s going on. Now, Renee, what do I say about intuition? What is it?
Renee:
It’s like a muscle. It’s like a muscle and you got to work it, and that was one of my problems in the start. I did not even believe I had intuition until I had to literally see it through your eyes. It was like, “What does she see about this about me?” And I don’t know yet, but I was like, “You know what? I am intuitive.” So boom, and then it kicked in. It was like, “I am.”
Speaker 1:
You’re very talented too. I do think that there’s parts of this that are gifts, but please do not hear that, “Oh, no. Then that’s not my gift, because I did not believe in myself and Renee did not believe in himself.” Chances are if you’re saying that, you probably are the one that is intuitive. Then the next thing that happens, and this is where I wanted to take this now, is about Voxer. I want to talk a little bit. I can remember some of the things that you asked me, and one of the things that Renee asked was a question about… Now, this is where I said the ping pong ball thing, but what was the question? That’s what I wanted to make sure that they heard, because that’s pretty cool what you had asked me at that point.
Renee:
Well, I was struggling with trying to keep up with the things and the items that I was seeing. They were floating in and I was trying to ask you how you go about to keep up with this, because if I didn’t capture that moment and try to interpret it real quick, that it disappeared on me. I’d have to stop myself and try to re-image that picture to where I can then regurgitate the information now back out. Once I started, actually I just relaxed. I relaxed into it, and all of a sudden the pictures started turning into a picture frame for me, and then it was like a movie playing for me. And so I was like, “Okay, I can sit here and watch this now. I got it.”
Speaker 1:
This is really cool. I’m so excited. Renee, we’re going to do this again, because we could fill up seven episodes with what we’re about to talk about. I want to get deeper with all of you that’s listening. Remember Renee did not think he had a very strong gift of intuition. Then the next thing that happens when he opens up the records, how it looks visually is when you’re watching one of those space shows or going to Disney World and all those lights come at you super, super fast, like you’re almost in a time warp travel, and you see thoughts and feel energy and feel love and feel tears and feel joy and feel passion like everything’s coming your way, and you’re seeing it and you’re feeling it. What was happening is I think it was probably he was trying to get his distinctions in this energy field.
What I instructed him to do at the time, and I never know what I’m going to instruct people to do, but was to use like on the old cartoons when there was a song that was coming up and they wanted us to follow with it, and they put the words at the bottom of the vision of the slide, and then they put a ping pong ball jumping up and down, up and down. What that did for him energetically is it taught him rhythm and pace in reading the records. Now, I want to add something here too because I’ve been doing it a long time, but Renee’s going to be able to, I think, support this. When I give a reading, I was always embarrassed to say, “Please don’t interrupt me,” because I kind of thought that would be rude to say, but now I’m starting to say that a little bit more.
The reason why I say that is I had a reading with this really renowned medium, and she says, “Please don’t interrupt until I pause, because things come at me like it feels like in one piece.” And I thought, “Oh my gosh, that’s what it is.” For me, it comes in an energy ball almost like water, and if I start talking when that one concept comes through, or if I’m interrupted or interrupt myself, it’s like somebody puts a finger up into the water droplet, those droplets that spout across Disney World. There’s a left side and a right side to a water stream, and it shoots. It goes [inaudible 00:31:54] and it shoots up in the air, and then the other one shoots and it’s one solid loop. And you’re like, “How is that so from one stream to the next?” If you walk by and you get all playful and put your finger up in the water, everybody around you is going to get wet because it’s breaks the water bubble.
I had a friend who he was an engineer, which you are too by trade, right?
Renee:
I’m an engineer, yes, yes.
Speaker 1:
He’s an engineer. He’s an engineer intuitive. My engineer friend was a fluid dynamics specialist, and when we were in Disney World, everybody around him, when that water thing went across, got wet. My point is, is that these thoughts come in big energy balls, and in order to get all the pieces out of it is really difficult. It’s extracting pomegranate seeds. You have to have a strategy to get them out and get them out quickly. Sometimes people ask me a question almost two weeks later, and I can remember a whole nother chapter of an answer, because can you agree that we see almost literal volumes?
Renee:
Absolutely.
Speaker 1:
Like those old encyclopedias? I almost feel like it’s one of those each time I do a reading, and then [crosstalk 00:33:18]-
Renee:
Absolutely. [crosstalk 00:33:21] I actually had this experience I did last week while I was out on my hog hunt trip. This is a deal every year that we get about 50, 60 guys, and we build these relationships. It’s a fun time seeing each other. I came across one of the guys. He’s younger, about 27, 28 years old, and he was mentioning to me about a relationship that he was no longer in. He was mentioning the scenario, why it didn’t work and everything. It was like it was almost instant, where I felt like I just connected, and I could see some scenarios occurring with the relationship that I don’t think he had just really focused on yet. I don’t think he was seeing the whole picture.
I came back to him probably about an hour later and I broke out that picture from the book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, of the picture of the two women, the one where it’s the old woman in one view and then the younger woman in the other view. I tried to use that as a learning tool for him, and I was saying, “You see this one side.” I handed the picture to three other people, so we got three different views of what this picture looked like to them. One saw the old, one saw the young, and one was like, “I see something. I don’t know what it is, but I think I can see both,” but he wasn’t sure. He didn’t trust himself. But just with that saying, it was like, “Listen, because you looked at it from one side, you didn’t see the whole perspective. I just wanted to let you know that maybe this happened here from this other side, these things that you were saying.”
I just regurgitated the information back to him, but I just opened his eyes up to seeing something that he pretty much had just said, “It’s closed. It’s over. I don’t really care about it.” But to seeing that, “You know what? I might have done that in a way where I didn’t really put my best foot forward.” When he came back to me about an hour later, he’s like, “That was awesome.” He goes, “I really do thank you for it, because I see something that I didn’t see before.” To be able to help somebody in that way, you know you’re changing them but you’re not really trying to do anything. You’re just trying to help them just see what you see. That’s like I said, whenever I connected with you through your eyes, I was literally being able to see myself do that. What was also funny too, is I can also hear your voice and your laughter in my head as a guide, just on my shoulder, just keeping me going. Yeah, it was pretty funny.
Speaker 1:
Oh, wow. I really want to lean into this moment, because for those of you that are spiritual men, you can see that spirituality can be very masculine. These dudes were out hog hunting in Pennsylvania. I don’t even know what that is, but that sounds like it’s a real man connection. Here they are talking about something that I’ve often understood that for men, having an intimate conversation with another man, there’s a few times that you can have them, and one is in a car because you don’t have to look at each other and that’s safe. Now I know it’s hog hunting too, seriously, something where you feel connected and bonded with your guy friends, and then it was safe for both of you to talk about something intimate.
Renee:
I have been able to hang with you. I have been able to understand you. I have been able to watch you. I’m just trying to give you the wise [inaudible 00:37:14] advice of somebody that through this experienced that same thing, and I’m just trying to give you that advice first, saying that I can give that away because I have that within me. That’s the same thing where we were talking about earlier about the empowerment. You can give it away because you possess it yourself. You don’t have to worry about anybody else doing it for you, and because of that, that’s when your cup starts overflowing and filling up, and then it spreads out. Whenever I approached it that way to him, it really was more heartfelt and it really took home. It felt like a lashing, but it wasn’t a lashing. It was more so just, “Hey, I’m being honest. I’m being real. I’m going to keep it like this.”
Speaker 1:
Do you think that that helped him, or was there something that changed because of that moment to believe in his life?
Renee:
The perspective changed on how he was viewing the situation. When he was originally viewing the situation, he was dead set on, “It looks like this. It looks like this. It’s this fault, this fault, this fault.” And I just came back to saying, “Well, it may look like it, but we have to look at it from a different angle on why you were seeing that particular scenario show to you.” I said, “Maybe if you would have asked about this.” I go, “Did you ask these questions to her or about how you felt about this?” “No, I didn’t.” “All right. Were you expecting her to figure it out on her own?”
It’s kind of going into the, “Hey, because you didn’t do your full due diligence regarding it, you didn’t ask, you didn’t try to gain the information needed, you made a decision without too much involvement.” And I said, “That’s where you really needed to look at it and to change how you do it.” And I said, “If you can see from another angle of another partner looking at it, talking to you and trying to show you these things that you may not see at that point in time, that you can really change the way you’re viewing it.” I thought it was a pretty awesome deal. A lot of cool experiences on that trip. I found out one that one guy thought I could do a talk show host. I was like, “I might explore that one.”
Speaker 1:
Why not?
Renee:
Why not?
Speaker 1:
Why not? You do have such a happy personality. I know you can’t see Renee right now, but he’s a big old Texan with dark hair and a beard and a little bit of gray trims around, but mostly-
Renee:
It’s my salt and pepper.
Speaker 1:
A little bit of salt, a little bit of pepper, and he has a green polo on. He just is jolly, like happy personality, just very engaging and very warm personality. One of the other things I remember that you were talking about is another part of the Quantum Connection program. We do private work, and in addition to that, I wanted him to be able to see how I deliver one of my other group programs, as well as for him to open up his Akashic Records and to feel in multiple readings that I do in an hour’s time. There’s a program that is added on to Quantum Connection called Pivot to Profit. Pivot to Profit, Renee and myself and a whole bunch of other women. Unfortunately, right now he’s the only guy, so come on guys, let’s join in on our spirit connection. Yeah, I think we talked about aging last month a little bit, and I’m really sorry for that call, Renee.
Renee:
It’s all right. I needed it too.
Speaker 1:
Oh, I think we talked about body parts that didn’t work as well anymore for women, but I’m really, really sorry about that.
Renee:
It’s all right.
Speaker 1:
We love having Renee there. He keeps us in check a little bit. What we do is twice a month, it’s the first Thursday and the second Thursday of every month from 12:00 to 1:00 Eastern Standard Time, is we get together and everybody’s allowed to ask anonymous questions. How we keep them anonymous is I have an actual assistant that’s on the Zoom call with us and we meet virtually on Zoom, and then she gets all the questions. She’s typing so quickly that basically everything’s anonymous to her, because she can barely keep up with it. But when she sends the question to me, all of them come from my assistant, so I literally never know who is asking the question.
I’m utilizing the energy of the person and the energy of the group. Then the last 15 minutes, we usually do a healing of sorts, and I ask this question of the energy field of the collective consciousness of the group. What did we need to learn? Is there something that is a block and it needs to be released? Can we release it now? And tell me the way to do it. They usually give me insights, instructions, assignments for the group, and then we release the blocks that are holding us back in the collective consciousness of the group. Boy, that sounds like a whole bunch of malarkey, doesn’t it? How does it feel being a part of that group?
The one other thing that we have each month is we have a theme. Like starting with March, it’s aligning to your pot of gold, and we’re going to be working on the energy of abundance because money is just a piece of paper, but the energy around abundance is something that flows. I say everybody’s a multimillionaire. We just have to figure out how to get all the energy of that money showing up in your bank account. Talk a little bit about Pivot to Profit.
Renee:
Here’s what I feel whenever I am in the group, kind of how you were just saying where we open up the Akashic Records. I am allowing myself, because when I look at it, I try to view you only, but I try to sense what the other participants are feeling in that sensing as well. I’m trying to learn from how you’re doing it and watching you doing it, but it’s one of those you can really feel that difference to the frequency. What I feel like is happening is that we’re all attuning to that message at that time to that frequency, and it’s really cool how we can all-
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Rene:
At that time to that frequency. And it’s really cool how we can all just get really in sync and in gel with what it is that you’re saying because of understanding that frequency. And as far as feeling the blockages falling away, that’s now allowing that flow to come through us and opening us up to even more. And so whenever, at the end of that, being able to get that refresher and have that come to us, it really gives us that little energy boost to keep going and just see how far we can take it until the next one.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, thank you for giving us that insight because I’m not a participant I’m the leader of the group, so to speak. And so I never really talked to a lot of people about it. I mean, most people say that they’re happy with the group and I keep seeing everybody’s face back each week, twice a month. And I absolutely, I love doing that. That’s one of my favorite two hours of the week. And so if you’re sitting out there thinking, how can I join that? Just go to my website, candicehozza.com/joinpivottoprofits. And if you can’t remember all of that, just go to the website and scout out and around. Would you recommend that be a nice taste tester? If somebody doesn’t want to go as deep as you did, and they just want to taste my work, do you think that would be a good start?
Rene:
Absolutely. Because once you start to hear some of the stories of some of these ladies that have just really empowered themselves and are taking their businesses to new heights. Just to hear from their mouth, some of these questions that are coming out and just to seeing how the insight that you bring forward to them, and then to watch that insight unfold into the actual reality, like seeing, getting the dog over Christmas or the writing yourself the check to saying this is how much I’m going to have and then it coming back to you. And seeing those stories and hearing those stories, it’s really energizing. And just to see that you’re shaping it because of what all you’re seeing and you’re helping them align even more. And you could just really tell that the girls are really engaged with everything that’s going on.
Candice Hozza:
One of the things that I want to lean into a little bit here that you just said, because since March is going to be aligning with your pot of gold. And so everybody will get a meditation that they can say for the 30 days during the month of March. And what Renee was just talking about is one of the ladies in the group did an exercise that I teach and I call it the Willy Wonka golden envelope exercise. And I invite everybody to do this now, while you’re listening. And I invite you to take an envelope and then, just like you’re going to mail it, put your address where it goes and your return address, where it goes. So basically your addresses in two places, put a stamp on the envelope, get your check book out, or however whatever means that you use to mail money for yourself. And write a check for the amount of money that you want and a time period in which you want to acquire it.
So one of the ladies in the group did this, and there’s a couple other tricks. Hold on, I want to finish what I was saying with that. So sign it and in the memo put why you’re going to get this money. And Jim Carrey on the Oprah Winfrey show talks about this. And years and years ago, he gave himself five years to manifest $10 million. And he carried this check around in his wallet. And Rene, do you see my check? It’s sitting on my desk.
Rene:
Absolutely.
Candice Hozza:
I just went to Aruba, so I still have my check. I didn’t want to take it to Aruba. So anyways, what you do is you put that check in the envelope and literally mail it and put in the memo like services rendered. I put, what was interesting on my check is intuitive business development. And I usually put the Akashic records and I didn’t have this, The Intuitive Business podcast when I wrote this check. So parts of this are starting to happen in my life, part of the money. Because the memo is lining up because I just called my business something different then. So you put this check in the mail, you send it off and then you wait until it comes back. And when it comes back, take it out of the envelope and put it in your wallet and be prepared to cash it someday.
So I tell this little Willy Wonka golden envelope, abundance exercise. And one of the ladies in our group did this exercise and she wrote a check for $1 million. She gave herself one year to cash it and she thinks it was a little over six months and under eight months. And she got $1.5 million and she wasn’t a rich person. Her husband happened to do a huge sale the first in his entire life for 25 million and I think the commission was 8%. And then they sent them to Bora Bora and gave him a stack of cash. Right.
Rene:
Awesome.
Candice Hozza:
And she said she literally still had some of the cash. And she was walking around giving hundred dollar bills to some homeless people. And so she’s part of our group. And so that was what he was talking about and that story was too juicy not to share.
Rene:
It’s awesome. Seeing that those stories play out and they’re around you all the time, because that’s what you do, you’re literally helping them see that vision and bring it into their life. And when you get touched like that, it’s very profounding, it’s life changing in a way to be able to see that occurring that you didn’t know, you could. And then to see someone that they can see that within you, it just moves you in ways that you weren’t expected to move before. And it’s just like, all right, there’s a drive now, there’s just this, I’ve got to go, let’s go.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, thank you so much to hear that. The empowerment, so the thing I was afraid the most of, which was being disempowering, is the thing that he’s talking about most, is being empowered. So where else in your lives, in your fear basis that we all have, so let’s face it, I have them, Rene has them, y’all have them. We all have them as Oprah would say, we all, have things like that, but do you see what he’s saying? Exactly what I was afraid of is exactly the thing, the opposite of what I’m delivering. And so where’s that showing up in your life? Where you’re sitting there afraid that you might not be able to be aligned with your intuition or you’re afraid of a new business or a new business start. Lean into that fear because why I started Pivot to Profit is I believe that you don’t need to build the mountain in order to change. You just need to pierce the membrane and then the abundance, the fluidity comes into your life.
It releases the fear and realigns with the energy of flow. And so with his beautiful empowerment statements, I want to ask you this important question. Are you happy that you chose to step up into the new level of view and reach out and learn a new skill?
Rene:
I will say the biggest thing and for courage is that most people they think they know themselves so well that they don’t need to learn anymore. And I used to be very similar to that. I thought I knew a whole lot. And then whenever I was awakened to the fact, then in my thoughts had to shift to courage, to find out more about me and all the things that I didn’t even see within myself, that to be able to bring out. And it has been an experience for me to be able to view myself that way, in which a way I didn’t do before. And it takes courage because you’re facing your fears, it takes courage because you’re going to have to do something you’ve never done before. It takes courage to stand up into this and go, I’ve got to do it no matter what, but I’ve got to find out. Because you only have this lifetime to understand everything about who you are to the most that you are.
And bringing that out up and to being, is the gift to bring it to the world of bringing everything of who you are out and that’s what I want to do. And that’s the type of teacher I see within you. That brings it out of me like that and really being able to see it from your eyes, you can really just see how that really harnesses together. And I know that when it’s going to come time for me to build a business, there’s a lot of things I have learned that I could go deeper on. I probably told you, you’ll come back and make you cry here, but I don’t want to do this. But there’s a lot of things I have taken from what I heard-
Candice Hozza:
No, you simply are going to be authentic. I’m interrupting. Go for it.
Rene:
There are things that I see within you that I have learned so many lessons. And I think that I’ve really tried to harness in how teachers teach, because they see a vision of things that we might not be able to see just yet. But once we actually tune in to what it is that you can see, then your whole world just expands. And I really wanted to harness in, on taking that approach into whatever businesses it is that I’m bringing to the world a lot of these lessons, I have been learning since I have been getting into the Akashic Records. Since I have been watching, observing you and being able to learn these things, because if it’s the empowerment of being able to go into so deep within yourself, define these things. And it’s just like, I thank you for helping me see that.
And it’s so life moving that you just, you don’t even know how to explain it sometimes, but I want to be able to bring that into whatever business it is that I’m doing. I want to be able to bring that change, that feeling, that empowerment, that seeing something so profound that just moves you. That it just changes you for the rest of your life in a sense of, and the thing is I’m not really going to do anything for you, I’m just going to help you remember. And that’s how, you did it with me and that’s how I know I’m going to have to help others do it for themselves as well.
Candice Hozza:
Wow. I’m just so touched. And this really, this perspective that Rene’s giving us about, how he’s grown in a very short amount of time, that’s about him. So I didn’t want to go deep into that question because it’d be about me. I really wanted it to be about him and hearing his expansiveness and Rene, how long has it been since we worked together? It’s not that long.
Rene:
We started right before Thanksgiving and we really started having a lot of that really heavy movement about a month into it. Now, the first few days it was, I think I’m doing this, I’m not sure I’m doing it. I think I’m doing it, I’m not sure I’m doing it. And then you would give me a little bit of validation with the communication through Voxer that, “Hey, you are doing it, I can sense it, I can see it, I know what’s happening here just keep going.” And then when we get back on our next call, the biggest thing they really helped me was the validation portion of that. Being able to say, okay, I didn’t think it was occurred, but if it feels like it’s occurring and being able to be able to have that validation of saying, yes, it’s not only occurring, you’re doing some big things. And then, like I said, seeing the energetic ball of me just continuously growing it’s very moving and motivating me to just keep going and going and going and finding out more and more about myself.
So that’s what I’ve been really excited about for being able to do the work in there. And I know that’s the type of passion I want to bring out too, when it’s my turn, to be able to bring all this out, I’m going to bring that. And it’s one of those, hey, this is my gift to honor those that have taught me how to do this. And I think that’s whenever you see, as a teacher to students saying, you’re going to do things big in this world. It’s that gift to be able to say, you’re right, I am and then being able to reflect it back to you saying, yep because of you helping me out here, this is what you’re going to get to see because of you teaching me everything that I got in here. And it’s really awesome.
Candice Hozza:
Well, thank you. So we’ve been working together about two months, fully. That’s where he was and that’s where he is. And I’m really taken back because this is our first conversation that we’ve really had deeply. And I also want to tell them one other distinction that you just talked about. So when he was Voxering me, I remember there was a time when you were saying things like, “I hear all this static in my ears.” And do you remember what I told you to do? When he was in meditation and connected with the Akashic Records, he was hearing all this static and he wasn’t sure what that meant. Do you remember that?
You told me to lean in and try to see if you can, ask to tune into the frequency and have the messages come in clear and concise and in complete sentences to where you can understand the message a whole lot clearer. And I was struggling with that at first because I was trying too much and thinking too much in my head. And it was whenever I just realized, just stop thinking and became to that, I don’t know how to do this, then it just, Oh, it just started happening because I just let the flow start to naturally occur. And then that’s whenever I just said, “If I just stopped trying so hard that I just let it come more natural and easy, I think things will really start to move in a positive direction.” And that started occurring. And now as far as the clairaudience, I’m starting to pick up on noises outside.
And I’m out in the country, I look at it, I don’t think there’s anybody that’s within a football field, 360 degrees around me. So when I started to hear music at three in the morning, and then my name being called by a female voice, it’s one of those, Oh, I am hearing some stuff outside.
So now you’re clairaudience, you actually hear it in the proximity of our world?
Rene:
Yes.
Candice Hozza:
That’s cool.
Rene:
And it’s coming in, in sounds of songs and then definitely the songs have been the messages that have hit me the most. I think it’s right whenever I’m thinking about something, boom, a song comes in and it’s the exact same message that correlates to what I was thinking about. And it just helps me reinforce when I go back to re-listen to the words. And I really want to say, since my sensitivity just expanded, I now see different versions of the same music I used to love. And it’s just changed how, I thought it was this one message, and now it’s completely different to this other message over here. And it’s been one of those, I did not even see that. So it’s been one of those things, what else in my life can I view in that way where I didn’t see it before, but if I take a different view point to it, can I not see that lesson and make myself better just from taking a different angle?
And that’s what I’m looking at this Akashic Records for, it’s really to help me see that different angle of me and then that different angle of somebody else to really help see a whole complete picture.
Candice Hozza:
Wow. I’m really finding what you’re saying is so true to me as well. There’s a type of awareness that happens when you’re utilizing the Akashic Records. That you usually, or in the past, I didn’t see and like a song or even I, this sounds silly, but last night I was with my son and his girlfriend, and we were watching Ratatouille. I’ve seen that show a whole bunch of times with both of my children and I was watching it and there were two or three distinctions I’d never seen in that. One of which was when Ego was taking the bite of Ratatouille and then he warps back in time. And then they show him as a little boy and they show his mom in the kitchen. What I always missed, is both of his knees are skinned. And so I knew his face was upset when he was going to see his mother, but I never realized why he was upset as he had fallen and there’s a bicycle behind him and he had skinned his knees. So Ratatouille for him was his comfort food. And I missed that.
I mean, other people out there might’ve seen it, but in your thinking, well, that’s not much of an awareness, but things like that, that’s the example I want to use. Because I was like, I never saw that before or listening to a song and rehearing it. The other thing I tell people to do is I record all Akashic Record readings and I send it to them and I said, please listen to it and if you can listen to it three times. Because the first time you’re going to hear it differently than the second time and differently than the third time. And you will get more information each time you listen to it. And then if you listen to it at a later day, it’s even more intriguing. So it’s almost like the gift that keeps on giving, even though it’s one reading and all the words were the same, but you start seeing, there’s an expansiveness in your, I believe in your heart, when you listen to this and stay more open to multiple meanings.
Rene:
It’s the story behind the story. And that is something I have seen through this whole process of it. And what really helped is that you offer me a audio book to listen to, I don’t remember the exact name of the book, but it had that story behind the story. And you wanted me to share that message with you what I was seeing. And I remember seeing a hand pointing to a tarot card that had this red butterfly on there. And I remember explaining that to you that’s what I was seeing when I was listening to this audio book. And that’s one of the key points too that I wanted to bring up that I did forget about seeing the story behind the story here. And it’s just exactly how it’s working here, where we might have missed it in the beginning, even though we’re looking at that whole thing, it just that one little angle, little changed that insight. And it’s just so profoundly, it’s moving and it changes how you feel and you see, and you now react to the certain situations outside of you because of that.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, that’s so cool. And such a great point too. So when you work with me, I give you a lot of resources to read and to help amplify some of your learnings because our mind gets super curious and it starts searching for more answers. So I provide reading materials, different books that I read and the book that Rene’s talking about, I can’t think of the name of it, but I do know when clients work with me-
Rene:
It’s about this, it was the seven mystery schools or something to, yes.
Candice Hozza:
Something like that. But so anyways, when I listen to that book, what happened to me was, I was doing a group program called, clearance sites, which I’m going to offer again within a year. And I was working with a larger group of women and we were learning different things to align our businesses, like values, clarification, et cetera. And as I would talk about spirituality and about aligning with our businesses, one of the people, they were also a friend and they pulled me aside and they said, “Did you ever hear this book?” And I said, “No.” They said, “I think you should listen to it because so much of how you say things, they say almost exactly like that.” And I thought, that’s interesting. So I usually listen to audio books because I go through them a lot more quickly. And I decided to listen to this one as I was going to sleep. And the whole night long, I must have listened to the whole book while I was sleeping.
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Candice Hozza:
Oh, must have listened to it for the whole book while I was sleeping, and there was a book behind the book. Because I was in an half unconscious state, I was seeing visions while I was reading the words. And one of the things I remember distinctly was being able to see that we have these codes, this wasn’t part of the book, but we have codes inside of us. And what I was seeing as I was sleeping and I must’ve been coming in and out of consciousness, is I was seeing lights almost they were like glowing yellow lights. And there were different triangles and shapes and sizes, and they were in us and that we’re made of these shapes, these almost like formulas.
And they said more and I don’t … That’s very deep and that’ll be in my book Under Spiritual Geek Out, but I don’t want to geek out today. So, but it was really cool because there was a book behind a book and it’s almost like in life, there’s a message behind messages that we’re supposed to learn in order to move us forward. And it happens at the right time too. So, if you’re listening to us today, is it the right time to move forward with something that you want to do in your life or in your business? And so, I invite you to lean into that. And as we just about are ready to close, I want you to talk a little bit about what you might be doing next, and I love the one charity that you talked to me about that you’d like to do.
So, one of the things that we do in our group to create expansiveness is we start thinking about, what are we going to offer this world, because I believe the more that we give, the more that we expand, not that we get, but the more we become. And so, Renee had a really cool thing. Once he hits his financial marks, because let’s be real, we need money in order to move forward in life. Even if it’s an energy field, it does need to pop into that checking account because that’s the reality of life. We could go into the grocery store and say, hey, these are the groceries my family needs to eat, but they’re being manifest, that money that you need today is being manifested in my energy field and it didn’t yet show up in my checkbook. You’re going to be walking away without that food.
So anyways, I want you to talk about when you grew into your expansiveness and know that you will have all of the financial resources to support people, what are some ways that you’re going to contribute back to the world?
Renee:
I have been looking at and doing more of the coaching in a sense of being able to reach out and talk to other individuals. There are several different charity works that I really do. I love Red Cross, the Scottish Rite Kids as well, Shriners Hospitals and all that, and just being able to be a part of different levels of organizations that I’ve been part of the past, Boy Scouts. As I go, and even with my kids, and then just being able to see different things that I can volunteer in. I want to be able to take what I can and do and bring these gifts and to be able to help trying change things a little here, a little there that can help improve everywhere I go.
And I already know I do that automatically. So, it’s one of those. I think it’s just part of our personalities that we have that it’s just, it’s a drive to be able to see it from a different angle than everybody else is just, hey, if I can give you this one little thing that you can change here, and it’s not really a bad thing, it’s just, it’s very, very simple. And I think a lot of the times that it’s so simple that most people just look at it and go, that can’t be the answer, and it truly is.
Candice Hozza:
It truly is.
Renee:
I was just going to say, but yet being able to bring that type of deal in and what I really want to do, and the way I’m looking at it is I’m thinking of trying to build something that’s more in a intuitive relationship coaching deal, but I’m looking at it more into a sacred type of relationships, really fine tuning what it is. And I am in the process of thinking on how I can build this course and how I can make it work and be able to apply everything. And it’s coming slowly but surely, but I’m seeing the insights grow. And then, I just take one question, keep asking another answer to it or another question to it and just keep going and trying to keep up with that pace or that balance a ball. So, it’s coming to me and it’s getting exciting to park. It’s like, I can really start to see this happening on how I can really make it work and bring it into the world and how I can really just help change, just do my part.
Candice Hozza:
You are doing your part my love, you definitely are. He also told me, and I thought that this was super cute about Christmas. You were going to do something at Christmas, you were going to …
Renee:
My Christmas Santa.
Candice Hozza:
I think that’s what I wanted you to say.
Renee:
Yes. I didn’t get to make me a suit this year, but this is my goal is to get me one of these really fancy Christmas Santa outfits. And I have been doing this now for about three or four years for my family here and I’ve expanded it out to my girlfriend’s family whenever I was dating her. But I actually want to take this and bring it into more of a higher level to where I can even do this at some of the hospitals for some of the children. So, one of the things I have also been learning how to do on the side is Reiki. And I have just finished my level two and my teacher is saying, “Hey, listen, most guys, I tell you can wait a year, I’ll see you less than six months.” So, he’s like, he goes, “I guess I already know you’re ready. You’re already asking questions of how to get to that point right there and you already understand what it is even from where I’m giving it to you. It’s like it’s just very natural to you.”
And I think that has been one of the most inspiring parts of my whole journey here is that I didn’t realize all these things within me that are so natural that are coming out and it’s like I’m seeing it happen for the first time. And I really haven’t looked at it from somebody else’s eyes. I’ve always put myself in somebody else’s shoes to feel what it is that they feel, but to really see how they see me in their world, it just it’s inspiring. And confidence for me is like, wow, I didn’t know I could do all that, but it is still cool to be able to see it really occurring and to be validated for it. And, it’s a skill that I didn’t know existed until I literally met you.
Candice Hozza:
And he is very good at it. And his Reiki teacher is Riney. He really is a true healer. One of the things that Renee and I did, which I never really, I don’t think I ever had anybody do. Maybe there was one person that I worked with that I asked them to do this, but we were really working one day in the Akashic Records, and I actually asked him a question to read for me, and he was able to do it and I could feel it, excuse me. And I was super excited because, he and I had been on similar wavelengths in our thinking. I have a tickle. And when I was able to see that he was connecting at the level he was connecting, I was actually excited.
Renee:
And that actually happens first in our second meeting where we didn’t even know we were reading each other and seeing the experiences where we were coming across the visions that we were seeing the same thing, it was mind blowing for me. And just to watch you being mind blown, I was like, wow, this is mind blowing for her. Something is really going on here, it’s really profound and talking about being able to go back and re watch it and to re see it and being able to go back to those recordings and it is just so cool, how, oh, I did forget that part, but I can now see it again after hearing the recording, but it’s reliving that experience over and over again. It was really cool. I actually enjoyed a lot.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, I loved it too. So, how are people are going to get in contact with you? Because now that you’re doing this, guess who’s going to be knocking on your door? There’s going to be probably some men that are going to need your help, that are going to identify with you more than me. And by the time you get ahold of him, he’s going to be in a whole different state because well, he literally is, Texas. But, you figured this has been two months and I’m sure he’s going to continue to do work and he’s in pivot to profit. So, tell us how to get in touch with you.
Renee:
Okay. So, what I’m looking at right now, we’re in the very beginnings of it. And I will have something up on the website, but the website name is going to be Blue Diamonds Coaching, and thank you very much for that hint. I’m actually pulling that off of one of the things that she said within the reading about how rare she thought it was, and the first image that popped in her mind was an image of a blue diamond. So, I am taking that and rolling with it because if she sees that so profound in me, I am definitely going to roll with it as far as the business name. So, that is how you can get ahold of me.
I’m going to set something up to where you can leave your contact information. And I might not be able to reach out to you just yet, because I haven’t put everything here together. And it’s all in the very beginning processes of it. But at least if I can get your name and your information, I can reach out to you once I have something, and then we can begin the process from there.
Candice Hozza:
And then spell it out because I heard an s in there and [crosstalk 01:16:15], But I love the Blue.
Renee:
Yeah. Blue, B-L-U-E, Diamonds, D-I-A-M-O-N-D-S, Coaching C-O-A-C-H-I-N-G.com.
Candice Hozza:
Excellent. I love that. I know when I’m listening to something, it’s always like, did he say an s somewhere? And so, I know people are going to really need your help. The other thing I really am sensing, so what the two of us did is we decided when we went into this recording that we were both going to open our Akashic Records because it’s such a familiar place for both of us to be in heart energy. And, we’ve also visited each other in the Akashic energy fields, so we’ve decided to utilize that space in order to be more fluid and flow.
And I hope you enjoyed this, and I hope there was fluidity and flow. And in this moment, I’m just really seeing spiritual men going on this hunting trip of sorts and connecting even if … Or in ways like that, in very masculine ways that feel comfortable for men to let their guard down and to open up their hearts a little bit more. So, there might be things going on for you like that in the future, I feel it in my heart. So, I don’t know if you’re feeling it too.
Renee:
I actually got to see this occur the other night. I was taking my children out for my birthday this past Friday, and my son is becoming more and more spiritual. However, he doesn’t realize how spiritual he is becoming. And I watching him and he was just saying these words were just coming out of his mouth. And I’m going, I remember five years ago when I just wanted to whip your butt all over the place because you couldn’t stay in your lane. And now to watch you is like, this is proud daddy moment of watching him just really grow. And the things that he was saying was so mature that I don’t even think 60 year olds would say something that would be that mature at his age and just seeing it come out so natural out of him, I was like, this is too awesome.
And I love to be able to have that experience with another man, to be able to validate that for somebody else and being able to share that, to be able to open up that with somebody else, because I’ve always felt like I’ve been on the outside and I’m very confident into who I am now that I can actually stand up and it doesn’t matter what you can give me, I can handle it. And so, I can take the pressure on being able to sit there and talk about subjects like this with other guys and be more natural and give it in a way that it feels it’s empowering in how it can really just change you, but I’m not going to do it for you. You’re going to do it yourself, I’m just going to say, this is a direction. You look at it, if it doesn’t feel right for you, you don’t have to take it. But, if it’s something that feels right for you, feels natural, feels like it resonates, keep moving, keep going and just see where you can go with it.
If you’ve got any other questions, ask me and I’ll keep pointing you in another direction. So, it’s fun to watch them to be able to do that. And my son has been one of those that’s been my mirrors to being able to actually seeing how it is that I have been putting out into the world that it’s being reflected back to me. And it’s just one of those very proud, proud daddy moment to experience.
Candice Hozza:
I love proud daddy moments. And I also want to say, we all are all mirrors of each other. So, everything that you have said to me Renee has been a reflection of who you actually are.
Renee:
Mm-hmm (affirmative), yup. And I got that. That’s something I was noticing last week whenever … I had seen myself because it’s a one year marker for all the guys to see each other and to see how much each person has grown and to now see how far I grew from the last time that I was seeing him and to see the stuff mirrored back to me were the reflections of me that was shining about.
And this is where my eyes changed, he literally said, because I was so [inaudible 01:20:29] with sensing somebody else that I couldn’t even sense me anymore. And now, to be able to be aware that what they’re saying are these reflections of me and it’s now I know how to use that mirror for the benefit of me to be able to keep working on the things that I need to work by some of the things that I bring by people naturally doing these little things. There might be a little nuances here and there, but it’s little things I pick up on and I’m serving for that I can make a run with.
Candice Hozza:
We lost audio for just one minute.
Renee:
Oh, I’m sorry. Okay, I’m sorry, I paused for just a second, but yeah. But yes, that is some of the things that’s occurring for me now. And to be able to see that and sense that, and have that awareness of that actually occurring. Being able to use that mirror for my own benefit, to be able to say, I still need to work on this. I can still focus on this to where I can be able to help that little deal, but also looking back on it and how much you see the smiles and you see the reactions and you can really feel that energy of what happens when someone does change around you and it’s been awesome. It really has, and I got to see that quite a bit last week.
Candice Hozza:
Oh, that makes me so happy. And congratulations and happy birthday. I feel super bad I missed your birthday.
Renee:
Oh, it’s okay, I had a good time and happy late birthday to you as well.
Candice Hozza:
Thank you. We’re birthday buddies, that’s cool.
Renee:
That’s right, we’re Pisces. We know what we’re doing.
Candice Hozza:
We know what we’re doing, right?
Renee:
Yeah, yeah.
Candice Hozza:
So, I wanted to just thank you for your time, especially today and your patience and your kindness and your love and your wisdom, and just for stepping up. And the other thing I want to point out before we go is taking action. Part of, one of the components of an intuitive business is taking action, so he was saying, his website is bluediamondscoacing.com and he doesn’t have everything in place and you know what? That is okay. Because, if he would wait to get everything in place, he couldn’t be connecting with you today because he’s going to have a few weeks now until this podcast airs and he’ll have more time to get a few more things in place and all of us where we start and where we end up, do you think Oprah Winfrey had everything in place? No, she didn’t, then things kept growing for her. But, we need a touchdown somewhere about taking action.
It’s so much easier to unpack maybe mistakes that we make and directions that we go, maybe we go left instead of right. But you know what? Then, while we’re standing in the right lane, we get to make another choice. But if you’re not even on the pathway, there’s no choice to be made. So, taking action in your intuitive business is so important. And not shaming or judging yourself when it’s not all perfect, because goodness knows it took me forever to even get to what I feel is a sense of normalcy in this business. So, I just wanted to point that out and that’s about it for me. I think I’ve put a fork in that and all in all done. What about you?
Renee:
I think this has been so fun. Like I said, I have so much fun talking with you.
Candice Hozza:
Me too, I just love it.
Renee:
I think it’s just me because we don’t get to see somebody, if we’re looking from the mirror’s perspective, that in what we’re seeing occurring mirror wise is so profound. It’s like, oh, someone understands me. Someone could really relate to all the things that I get in a way that I can’t really share or have someone fully compensate how I do things. And I think that being able to have that relate-ability is what really is driving our relationship, it’s really cool.
Candice Hozza:
I love it. Well, I’m going to let you have your Sunday. So, he took his Sunday to be with us and I’m so grateful and thank you, Renee.
Renee:
You’re absolutely welcome. Thank you.
Candice Hozza:
And thank you to the listeners.
Renee:
Thank you guys.
Candice Hozza:
Mm-hmm (affirmative), bye. Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within and that you’ll take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
This episode is a continuation of the last week’s episode: Quantum Healing Part 1. Be sure to go back and take a listen to Part 1 if you haven’t already.
Candice used Quantum Healing to help professional home organizer, Summer Rose, heal from an allergy to oils that were causing her health issues when she would visit her client’s homes. Candice saw the reason for Summer’s allergy and sat down with Summer to ask questions and channeled her past lives to clear out her system. Associations from our past and past lives can shut down our systems. Smells are our highest energy function and closely linked to memory. Candice was able to revert back to Summer’s negative association from a past life and replant a healthier and lighter energy to clear the issues she was experiencing now.
The lesson Candy learned from this experience was that if you have a way to help people, don’t wait. Don’t let your insecurities hold you back from reaching out to people.
Summer Rose founder of Star Organizers, was born and raised in Miami, Florida and has been passionately organizing for over a decade. She currently resides and works in New York City and travels to organize clients’ homes all over the country. Summer not only helps you create effective strategies for your home and office, but she also helps you create effective strategies for your life. She teaches you how to effortlessly follow these strategies so your space and your life are consistently clutter free. You can e-mail her at summer@starorganizers.com.
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Candice unpacks healing in this quantum energy episode. What do people need to know to connect with their intuition and the energy that exists all around us? How do we explain this? In this episode, Candice walks through her process, where she has been able achieve consistent results for her clients to show listeners how healing takes place.
Candice is trained to open the Akashic Records, which allows her to tap into her clients’ energy and once that field is open, she is able to identify barriers that limit progress in their life and business and reach the next level of success.
Much like a roll of film, Candice is able to see the negatives and identify the moments in a person’s life that cause hurt and hinder their progress. Candice then works through the release process to free clients from the blocks that hold them back to become their highest and best selves.
To learn more about the Akashic records, visit candicehozza.com/AkashicRecordsReadings.
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Get ahead of your spring cleaning. In this episode, Candy shows you how she enhances prosperity and energy in her business with Feng Shui expert and international psychic medium, Marjorie O’Rourke.
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Those of us with big open hearts know what it feels like to be hurt. Candice dedicates this karmic episode to you. Candice calls on her guides to take you through what happens when you offer your love and don’t receive it back. If you’re in a relationship that is not working, there is no passion to be found and you are not living to your truest potential and experience.
Love relationships that hurt greatly are some of the most divine that exist, but don’t let your heart stay in pain from that soul connection. We are beings made of energy and when we lose something as important as a soul connection, it leaves a hole. Join Candice as she helps fill you up and heal old wounds.
To collect your free Morning Love Affirmations mentioned in this episode, visit www.candicehozza.com/love.
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This episode looks at the ways we can get stuck and held back from our life’s purpose. Candice talks about her own experience with stuckness, how she transitioned and stepped into her power.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business Podcast.
Candice Hozza:
Hi, this is Candi and I’m calling myself out on stuckness. So my basic business model is I support people to get out of stuckness and into focus and flow. And I was listening to my podcast to review it about your business has a voice. And I realized the good news is, is I no longer have the identity of being stuck because I didn’t fully and completely share my story of stuckness. And I want to call myself out because I of all people am not perfect. And I used an example of other people, and it’s not really the truth.
Candice Hozza:
I honestly was the queen of stuckness. I went through almost 20 years, maybe even longer, of being stuck in a multitude of things that I wasn’t happy with. I already had talked about not being happy at the university I was at, but there was a lot of years I wasn’t happy with my position. I loved the students. So if any of my students ever out there, you guys are what kept me going, but some of the challenges with the administration, the go here, go there, go up, go down, stop, and nope, now it’s not yours. Like all of that was so taxing because you go full speed ahead. And it’s like pulling the brakes on. And even saying that, my energy was so depleted, but I believe that I couldn’t do anything more. I was always too old, even at 28, I wanted to go back to law school and I was like, well, I’m too old for that.
Candice Hozza:
So one of my girlfriend’s mother is 77 years old and is going to graduate from law school at NYU this May. So we’re never too old. My favorite movie is, or my favorite Netflix right now as Frankie and Grace or Grace and Frankie. And Jane Fonda is 82 years old. We’re never too old, we’re never whatever we’re telling ourselves. So I went through cycles of I’m unhappy in a relationship and I’d get into this big blame game because I didn’t want to take responsibility for the parts that I was causing for things to be broken. So I cannot leave my podcast unattended by your business as a voice and talking about stuckness and not throwing me big time into the mix. I think how I became such an expert at seeing people’s stuckness is by being stuck in so many different venues of my life.
Candice Hozza:
So how did I make changes to get me unstuck from relationship issues and from career issues and financial issues? I’ve always been blessed somehow with finance, meaning it always seemed to work out well, but there was a time in my life that it got really hard. My husband and I have currently been married for 35 years, but he always says with an asterisk, there was an eight year period that we were on and off and on and off. Talk about queen of stuckness. Even in my house and if you haven’t heard it yet, I’m not sure what part of the sequence it’s going to be in, but I’m going to talk about decluttering my home. And I had so much shit in my house, we took out five trucks of stuff. I’ve been in my house 30 years. I had tax forms from 1984.
Candice Hozza:
That’s all a symptom of stuckness and releasing 72 pounds of shredded paper with no file folders. I really was like serious about just pulling the things out that needed to be shredded. That’s a lot of stuff I had at least seven bags of electronics and flip phones to go to Best Buy. That’s being stuck. So for me, I’m starting up purge system to remind myself to stay out of holding on to things that no longer serve me. Everything, every piece of paper, I was just closing my eyes and imagining that I was gaining more health because I still don’t have the perfect body that I want. I believe my body’s perfect and I’m so grateful for the fact that it brings air into my lungs and then I could move and travel. However, there’s some things in my body that need to transition and change, and I need to release the things that are holding me back from getting to where I want to go.
Candice Hozza:
So how did I start transitioning this? I remember, and I think I shared a little bit about the story of me getting thyroid cancer. I wasn’t listening. My guides kept saying, this is no longer the job for you, but how was I going to make money? And I was still in my early fifties, like I needed to be able to do something in life to contribute. So I remember I took a leap of faith and although financially I wasn’t making any money, my husband and I ended up being separated, I believe at that time, I decided to go to a conference and I remember I saw Stevenlinder.com and I decided to take a public speaking. I don’t even know or remember why I thought I wanted to do that. And I don’t even remember what I thought I was going to be able to talk about.
Candice Hozza:
And so I went to this conference and there were some really high performing men and some women that were there. And I was so nervous. There was about 10 people. And some people were really high level attorneys and plastic surgeons and super high performing business owners that made a shit ton of money. And here I was literally disabled at the time. I didn’t have a job. I had just gotten over cancer. I didn’t even really have a vision. Gosh, I can’t even believe I went there. I didn’t even have a vision for what I wanted to do. I did believe that I loved reading the Akashic records and I would do something with it, but I had no clue of how to even formulate my language, but yet I was standing up in front of those guys and some beautiful women making up what I was going to say, because I had no marketing.
Candice Hozza:
But just in tonalities and gestures and how you bring in an audience and how you use your voice to engage people was intriguing to me. And everybody did a great job, but I can remember my lower lip literally quivered. Like I didn’t even know if I was going to be able to stop it. I was so nervous in front of those high performing business people. And I felt kind of like a loser because I didn’t even know where I was going to go, but yet something inside of me leaned into that fear.
Candice Hozza:
I still can’t like right in this moment, I’m actually proud of myself because I just remember how scared I was and how full of uncertainty I was. But yet I leaned into that. What ended up happening after I left that event with those really awesome people that had awesome careers and made beautiful amounts of money and contributed to the world, I ended up leaving there and going to Rhode Island. And when I went to Rhode Island, I happened upon a free ticket. One of my girlfriends, her name was Nicole, or is Nicole, hi, Nicole. She was growing so quickly in her business and I really liked her style. She talked about money mindset at the time and her approach was so soft and warm and welcoming and nurturing. It didn’t feel salesy when she would talk about what she had to offer. And that really turned me on in business because I don’t like personally to feel like I’m being sold or sometimes that might feel a bit manipulative.
Candice Hozza:
And I don’t like that. That’s not who I am. So I like to treat people in business like I like to be treated. So I ended up with this free ticket in Rhode Island. So jump off the plane. I’m in Washington State. Oh and I got to meet Deepak Chopra with one of the really cool men who we went into the VIP seating. And we went and got a book signing and I actually met Deepak Chopra. So I knew something was happening. You know, remember I talk about awareness, paying attention. So here I am right out of cancer surgery and learning to use my voice and my lower lip quivering and no income whatsoever. And then flying to Rhode Island to meet this woman who had a program called Talk to Profit. So when I was sitting in the audience, I just heard loud and clear my guide say, this is your coach for the next three years.
Candice Hozza:
Now she hadn’t even got into any type of sales or program offers, nothing. And I looked to my girlfriend, who I had just met for the first time. We drove all the way out to Rhode Island. So flew in from Washington, came into Pennsylvania and then got in the car with this person I had never met. Mary Beth. Hi, Mary Beth. And we drive all the way to Rhode Island and I lean into her and I say, “I think I’m going to hire her for a coach.” And she goes, “I’m thinking about it too.” So we kind of giggled with each other because neither of us even had an expectation. We just kind of wanted to see what this woman, Jeannie Spyrow was all about. And I’m going to bring Jeannie on so she can tell you a story too. And so I just had it in my head.
Candice Hozza:
I just wanted to meet this woman. And so there was a champagne toast evening and it was very elegant. So we go to this event and I was a woman on a mission I wanted to meet Jeanie and why I wanted her to be my coach is there was something really clean, crisp, and clear. The same way that I had noticed with Nicole’s presentation, I could see this woman just had a lot of focus and I had no clue. I had hired a coach before and she was lovely, but I had no clue about what language to use and I could not get myself there, but I knew that this woman, Jeannie Spyrow, she was going to be able to get my voice into the world. And so back to the champagne cocktail. So we were having cocktail hour. I was a woman on a mission and I just gently touched her on her shoulder.
Candice Hozza:
And her back was facing me. And I remember when she spun around, I saw the most piercing blue eyes and it looked like, honestly, it just looked like she was an angel in her eyes. And it really kind of took me off guard because she had a very corporate type personality when she was on stage. And I’m not going to say anything more about our meeting today with this, because I’d love for her to be a part of this journey of telling you about me hiring her as a coach. So that’s why I’m even calling this podcast The Intuitive Business, because with my awareness of how things were unfolding in life, I just kept saying yes to myself, even though I didn’t know how I was going to move forward. I somehow trusted that everything was going to turn out.
Candice Hozza:
But I wanted to call myself out today after listening to your business has a voice. I literally was stock for an example of my own stuckness. And because I didn’t put myself in the mix of being stuck, how could anybody really work with me unless they knew that I had some major experience being stuck. And I did.
Candice Hozza:
When I leaned into my fear, which was like, how am I going to get the money? How am I going to make people even understand what the Akashic records are, let alone trust in this process to heal and to be able to step into their full power. I still trust that all of this is going to be in alignment now, even though I still don’t know. I don’t know what tomorrow’s going to bring in this business, but I can tell you one thing, I’m putting my heart out there to help people to heal and that is my gift to the world. I used to say I help people to align to their heart centered mission, but I really think what I do now is even deeper than that.
Candice Hozza:
I believe I help people to align to their legacy, their highest and best self and bring their highest and best self with their skills, their abilities, and their talents to those that are praying for it. So you all have a great evening. I had to pop back on to call myself out this evening because I didn’t like that when I listened to the podcast, I liked when I was talking about with alignment and I think that was great. And I hope I conveyed what you needed to hear. And I hope that that triggered something inside of you. But if you know that something’s just off, you don’t have to build a new mountain. Most business owners are exhausted with reformulating their business. What if it’s a tweak? What if it’s as simple as turning an hourglass upside down and with that one clear insight from your Akashic records or from you paying attention to what you see in the universe that meeting, accidental, coincidental meeting with Deepak Chopra.
Candice Hozza:
I knew that something was in alignment for me to take an action about the spiritual side of myself and my personal gifts. So what’s it going to be for you today? Well, coincidence is going to happen. That’s going to give you an awareness to pivot, to profit. And I don’t mean just money. I mean your legacy, that thing that you have to offer this world.
Candice Hozza:
You guys have a great day. I’m sending you so much love and light. See you soon or talk to you soon.
Candice Hozza:
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to Candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
Your business has a voice and a message to give you. Candice walks listeners through the ways we can tap into our energy and take action to build momentum and bring our highest and best selves to our business.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business podcast.
Hi everybody. And welcome to the Intuitive Business podcast. Tonight I’m filming or I’m recording I’m in the evening, and I thought I’d spend some time with you and have a little cup of green tea, all nice and warm. And I thought I’d spend some time talking and finding out more about your business. So tonight’s topic is going to be about your business. Did you know that your business has a voice and a message to give you? So how did I find out about your business having a voice?
When I first started the business, I thought that I would be a relationship coach or I would work somehow on helping people to heal wounds at a soul level regarding relationships. And that’s what seemed to come to me at first. I have to be brutally honest, one of my girlfriends would always ask for readings regarding channeling business ideas and moving forward in business. And every time she did that, we were sharing readings. I would literally let out a guttural sound of, oof, because I really didn’t like it. But as time moved on and I started to realize where businesses are really created, is they’re really created from the hearts of these beautiful entrepreneurs. And when I got in touch with that, I kind of got excited about being able to help. So somewhere in about 200 readings, I started to see something. And let me tell you how this process unfolded.
So when somebody comes to me for business alignment sessions for either releasing blocks or channeling information about making decisions and there’s many other capacities, but for simplicity’s sake, let’s just leave it at that. And so when I say, do I have permission to open your records? I want to honor all people’s space so that I’m not invading and taking peeks behind, I call it, shower curtains. You know, you have your privacy when you’re with me. And even in the readings, we go in the direction that you want. And we don’t have to see any more than either your guides or you want, so you really do have a lot of control over your reading, thinking of it as your Google search for your soul. And I’m simply the voice of Siri. So an Akashic record reading is basically me tapping in or plugging into your Akashic energy field, which is a connection with your soul and who you really are.
So it always knows your highest and best. So after I get permission to go into your records, then I would either help to release blocks or channel messages from either your guides or the information that you were requesting. And then I would close the records and I’d ask people to hold on for a minute, because sometimes as we’re closing the records, the guides will give me one last piece of information. And sometimes they don’t, but I always want to honor that moment. And sometimes they give us like, wow, major thumbs up. You guys really worked hard, or you really move towards your own alignment, meaning my client. And sometimes meaning me because sometimes I get dual messages when I’m reading for somebody else. So as I would close the records, something started to happen with business owners. With my eyes closed, even now, I can remember the times I saw their face kind of like in a make-over and I know this might seem silly, but everything seemed to sparkle and shine and their skin was more brilliant and their hair looked like it was coming out of a Breck commercial.
And so my guides give me these little signs and symbols, and then I have to make some sense of them. And so in my meditation, I’ll invite some more knowledge to come into the moment, especially if I’m paying attention to patterns. And I was starting to see this repeat pattern of this, each individual person being like in a make-over state, sparkly, shiny clean. And so as I asked more questions and I always believe that the quality of your life is in the questions that you ask yourself and the decisions that you make from there and taking action. So as I looked at this, I said, what are you guys telling me? And I realized what it was is, and there were more clues than this, but for me, that was the most significant clue that led me to see that what the guides are doing is actually channeling your highest and best self.
And I realized that because your business was made for your heart, it had its own energy field. So if you could imagine in your mind’s eye right now that you are a circle and you’re blue, and then on the opposite side, you’re a circle and you’re green. So you take these like big hula hoop circles and you connect them in the middle. And that actually is like a little piece of pie in between. I believe that as we co-join our heart and put it out into the world as a business, that it starts to create its own momentum and its own personality and identity.
The easiest way for me to speak about this is to take my own business, for example. I went from thinking I was going to help people with relationships, to eventually helping people align their business. And I just paid attention along the way and start moving in the direction my business was leading me. So my business naturally took its own area of alignment because I started to have this huge compassion in my heart for these brilliant men and women that were birthing this business into the world. But my business didn’t start there. Each and every month I was evaluating my business. Did this work or did that? This worked, that didn’t. So I let go of that and hung on a little bit to what did work. And then it was kind of like building blocks, I’d create marketing pieces and strategies. And then pretty soon I had a beautiful portfolio of resources to repurpose.
And then my business started to gain a little bit of momentum. And then I kept putting myself out there. You know, I did a live event that was called, Awaken Your Intuition. And as of today, I feel like even if I take a breath for my business for a day, my business’s momentum is still projecting forward. In the beginning, if I took a day off, it seemed like it took me two full weeks of continuous work just to kind of catch up.
So going back to this energy field, the green circle and the blue circle, and both of those being co-joined in the middle to make a piece of pie, or it will just look like a little oval if you combine the two hula hoops visually. So as I was moving forward and seeing this higher and best self, the next question I asked is, how can I get these business owners to, I don’t want to say their end goal, but the next identity of their business. So let’s think of a business as a big, like check mark and you’re going along from A to B in life and the beginning of the check mark and things seem like they’re going along pretty good. And then all of a sudden something starts to change. Like for me more business people started to come to my business and practice and relationships started to fall away from my business. And so I start paying attention because something was about to change.
But fortunately, because I was paying attention, I never got into the D level so to speak, which is the pinnacle of the pain point. That part where you think that you want to hold onto those relationships. I know I can work with people with relationships, so I’m going to hold on to that. But as I hold onto that, my hands aren’t open to the abundance of the business people coming my way. Fortunately, I didn’t go into the pain, but a lot of people that I see are into that pain point, in the identity where something has to change it’s at the bottom of the level of the business, or they’re just stuck. They don’t know where else to go. I see a lot of fear and uncertainty and confusion.
So my next question was, “Okay, here’s where we’re at. But how can we transition that business owner with that heart centered mission that they want to get into the world? How can I help them to get into an exponential type of growth where they evolve even more quickly and get their message to the world and that their business can financially support them because so many people have this beautiful mission, but yet we still have to monetize it to be respectful, to support us because when we are empowered, then we give other people the opportunity to be empowered. So as I leaned into my guides, I said, “So what do we do?” And guess what they said, I didn’t like the answer. They said, “Help your clients lean into the fear.”
Okay. So let’s think about this. My clients come to me and the biggest fear that they have, I tell them to lean into that? And my guide said, yes. And I can’t remember right now, the exact example. I think I was doing something in my life where something wasn’t right. Something was just a little off and I needed to tell my whole truth about something, but I was afraid of the person’s reaction. So I kept holding onto that fear and holding onto that fear. And one day I decided to just step up and say exactly what was on my mind. And when I told that person that guess what they said, “Wow, I really respect that you shared that with me.” And for me, that was the beginning of the affirmation that I needed to put this into my business and help people to learn to lean into their fear a little bit more in their business. Because the more you step away from fear, the more it just kind of sits over your head, like a rain cloud when you’re looking for the sunshine.
So the quicker we can start those winds to move that through the more in alignment your business is going to be. And in that moment, I could see clearly all the dots connected, just like when you were a little kid and you sat down to the place mat at the friendly diner with your crayons, and you went from A to B and B to C and C to D and D to F and F to G and all of a sudden you had a kite and I could see this kite for align your business. And so what I realized that people were really searching for is not to really rebuild the mountain with all that they’ve done in their business, but rather to pierce the membrane of their fear so that you can pivot. And in that moment of pivot, so just let’s take this even slower. So picture an hourglass and the top of it’s red and there’s particles in it and it says fear, confusion, and doubt. And on the other side of that hour glass is green and there’s words that say clarity and certainty and flow.
And so in that moment, when you pierce membrane, it’s just like reversing that our glass and that flow, that abundance starts moving and coming out through that tiny little bottleneck of stuckness. And because I believe businesses have their own identity, that’s what starts creating the flow. So it’s like a rocket fuel that just kind of pushes things further along. So that was the theory, but how do we get that? How do we transition that? So I developed this process called Align Your Business, and it’s a process to do exactly what I just explained. It’s basically about a three-part process. I’ve extended the process just a little bit, because I wanted to make some tweaks to help people to even get a higher result from their experience.
So the first thing that we do is we spend a 30-minute complimentary alignment call. And if you want your complimentary alignment call, just go to CandaceHozza.com/book, B-O-O-K, and there’s a 30-minute align your business session. And so we go through that 30 minute alignment session, and I ask you questions about where you’re at in your business and where you want to go. Within about those 30 minutes, a usually start seeing some patterns of misalignment or where the challenges really are. The next thing that we do, if you want to continue working is, that’s when we actually start rolling up our sleeves and digging a little deeper. What we do is we go into the Akashic records, which I’ve already explained, and we look for the dandelion in the grass. Now I think dandelions are beautiful, but this is an analogy. So there’s a grass and there’s dandelions. And when I was a little girl, that was always my responsibility, was to go pick up the dandelions out of the yard, but my dad didn’t let me just pull them out.
He had this metal stick that went down into the ground about 12 inches. And so I’d take this wooden handle and I’d stick it deep into the dandelions root. And I cut off the root at the bottom and then pull it up. So it was a rather large plant. And then I would sprinkle some stuff, it was probably something horrible, like DDT or something, but I would sprinkle whatever he gave me. And then those dandelions wouldn’t come back up again. And so basically we’re healing things at a soul level that aren’t in alignment with your truest and highest self, because remember, the identity of your business wants you to be in alignment with your highest and true self. But here’s what’s cool about the voice of your business. It doesn’t have fear. It doesn’t have confusion. It doesn’t have stuckness. It’s waiting for you to step into who you really are so that you can be in alignment with your true mission.
The second thing that we do is we go back into your records another day for another hour and a half, and we channel some integral things that you’re going to need to move your business forward. The third thing that we do is we structure, we have an hour session, we’re not in the records, and we set up a 90-day game plan so that you are getting some momentum. In order to expedite the process, I created yet another support program, but it’s a group and it’s called guess what? Pivot to Profit. So it’s in that moment of pivot, that clear insight, that piercing of the membrane and leaning into the fear that’s causing the stuckness, because remember, your business was created in your heart, but trying to get it into the world, we use our heads a lot. And somewhere between the head and the heart comes some misfiring of information where we aren’t seeing our highest and truest self.
So the next thing like I had said was I created Pivot to Profit. And during each month of the next three months, so your program takes about 30 to 40 days. I say, I’d like to see the energy transition from about seven to 10 days between appointments. And that transitioning is as important as the appointments, because watching what energy’s doing the minute that you say yes to this program, becomes a journey. And that’s true, not just with my program, but with anything that you say yes to. I still remember saying yes to Tony Robbins many years ago to be a Master University. And I was so scared and I’ll never forget what the gentlemen said in the room when he had all the people that said yes and signed contracts, he said, “You are about to begin this miraculous journey. And the people that are in this room will probably remain friends your whole life.”
And, you know, I have a whole new friend set because of my time at Tony Robbins. So saying yes to you and business, and any decisions that you make does move you forward. So Pivot to Profit, what you get with is the first Thursday and the third Thursday of every month on Thursday from 12 to one during your lunch hours is, you can bring anonymous questions to me. And I answer them from the point of channeling from your highest and best self. And you might say Candy, how does that happen? What I find is it’s just like in life, there’s no coincidences. When you’re all together, a lot of times it’s for our purpose and a reason, in the same in the same seminar, in the same elevator and the same restaurant. There’s no coincidences, I believe, but we’re where we’re supposed to be when we’re supposed to be there.
So what happens at Pivot to Profit is I might be a client and go and ask this question of Candy anonymously. And she provides the answer to the whole group. But what ends up happening is the other three people that ask questions for their business is really the question that you truly needed to hear in order to move your business forward. So I always find it ironical of how this works. The second thing that happens during this hour is we also release some blocks from the highest and best selves. And I look for the common thread of the group and the guides helped me with this and then we release those blocks. Many people after these sessions either have to take a nap, drink more water, and sometimes have any personal feeling, but they notice that things start to transition in their life much, much more exponentially.
So that’s the Align Your Business process. And I also have on my website, if you’re interested of hearing more about how Pivot to Profit works, you could go to www.candicehozza.com/pivottoprofits, and you can see what that’s all about. And also we’ll put those in the podcast notes so that you know how to get there and see what that program looks like. A lot of people are really excited about it. I usually have a special offer going for Pivot to Profit for the 12 months. So I’m excited to connect with you and you have a lot of options and ways to get in alignment so that you can get your heart centered mission out into the world more quickly.
Have a great evening. And thanks for having a cup of tea with me this evening. And I’m snuggling up to this warm cozy evening. Have a great night. Bye.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to Candicehozza.com, were you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
In this episode, Candice covers her 10-step process that she’s used for the last 30 years and her lessons learned along the way.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to The Intuitive Business Podcast.
Hi everybody. I am back here in Pennsylvania. Came back from San Diego where Simon and I recorded the first podcast that you’ve already heard. So welcome back. I don’t know who to talk to. So I have a picture of my mom and dad sitting here. I absolutely enjoy talking to audiences. So I don’t have you in front of me. So I’m going to close my eyes for a minute and just get connected with each and every one of the people whose voices might be hearing me today, or might be hearing me sometime in the future.
So I invite you all to take a deep breath in, keeping your eyes open if you’re in a car. And be safe, please. And if you’re at home, maybe just spend a moment connecting with your inner self. Because today’s topic is about building your muscle of intuition.
One of the questions that I get asked quite a lot is, “You just were born with this, right?” The answer is yes, but we’re all born with the gift of intuition. So today what we’re going to learn about is how to build this muscle. And a 10 step process that I followed for quite a few years, about how I connect with my own inner guidance system. And my own personal timeline about how I connected with my intuition and how we are here today.
So I have a little bit of a cold today. So I’m going to take some drinks here periodically. And I’m also in a new space. I have just, as of yesterday, changed my office. And I’m going to talk also in the future about how creating the right environment is important for your business. So with that being said, so we begin.
The first thing is I’d like to define the dictionary’s definition of intuition, and then take it broader. So the definition, the formal definition of intuition is the ability to understand something immediately without the need for conscious reasonings.
I listened to this, and I read it. And I thought, what does that really mean? But then as I went into it a little deeper and I thought, “This makes sense that when I use my intuition, I immediately see all the dots connecting.” So if somebody is talking to me for instance about business, I can almost automatically see after about a 30 minute conversation, where the misaligned energy is occurring.
So while this definition isn’t bad, I’d like to broaden it and hopefully give you some enlightenment about what it is and how you can start using it in your everyday life. And the timeline of my life and how I incorporated it, so I have a pretty strong intuitive muscle. But I worked on this for 27 years, almost 30. So this has been a process as well. And it’s a process that you can start today.
So the first thing I’m going to do is give my definition of intuition, and hopefully, this will resonate with you without having to think about it. So just again, taking a deep breath in. And as you do, I want you to think about a time, a specific time when you were a little kid maybe where you used to use your intuition. And I invite you to kind of just drop in and feel what that felt like, and see what you were seeing, and hear what you were hearing, and feel those feelings of intuition now. So I just invite you to breathe that in. That’s great.
So what I believe intuition is, is something that we already have inside of us and always had inside of us. It’s our first language. Any of you that are a parent out there, or an aunt or an uncle, do you remember when you were introduced to your child or your niece and nephew? Maybe when you were in the hospital and they laid that baby on you, and you looked into their eyes for the first time.
Right now I’m thinking of my daughter because my son was a C-section. So I’m thinking about the first time I got to see in her eyes. And it was immediately when she was born and they gave her to me. And during that process of being a mother, she didn’t have language. It wasn’t like, “Hey mom, I’m hungry.” Or, “I have an earache,” or any of those things. As a parent or an uncle or an aunt, or father, we know when we look into that child’s eyes, we can see the soul of that human being. And it’s funny when you hear their voice when they either turn 12 months, or 16 months, or for some people three years old. When they start putting actual words around what they’re feeling, it’s no surprise about the personality that lives inside of them. So for me, the definition of intuition is just that knowingness. Knowing that child’s personality. And then for us, just knowing who we are on the inside of us.
Intuition is also like when I work with the Akashic Records, which the Akashic Records is it towards the end of my intuitive timeline, but I want to also give a definition about the Akashic Records, which some people now call soul books. So simply speaking, the Akashic Records are simply a database of your soul connected to divine source. It’s an infinite space of wisdom, truth, and most especially love.
And this happened from our inception. Whenever our soul was born. I remember a movie I watched, I’ll think of the title in a moment. And the actress was a little girl, and she’s talking to her dad. And she really enjoys stars. And she wants to communicate with aliens, that’s her goal. And she’s so cute. And she’s looking up at the stars and she said, “Dad, do you think that we’re the only ones here?” And he says, “You know honey, as infinite as the universe is, I think it would be a waste if we were.” So going back to the Akashic Records and that connection with our soul, since its initial inception since our birth.
I don’t want to get into religion. But with the promise, think about our soul as a whole universe. And if we only lived this lifetime to 100 years, and then we went back to as some people call it heaven, or some people, there’s multitudes of beliefs and systems. Buddhists have a belief, and everybody else has different beliefs.
But my point is more about the soul book of all the lifetimes that we’ve had. All the lifetimes that we’ve had. So the Akashic Records is a book about all of the lifetimes that we’ve had.
Right now, I’m thinking about a baseball movie that I watched. It was with Michael Douglas and his father. So the two Douglas’, and it was about the Akashic Records. And the father was elderly. And he had a stroke, which in this movie he already had had a live stroke. And it was like father time coming back in time and showing him his soul book and how he could rectify some things in his life, even from his hospital bed that was in his home.
So these soul books are from our original inception, whenever it was we were born. And when I asked my guides what the birth of a soul looks like, my definition has changed from what they showed me. So what they showed me was a star exploding. And what I thought was a star was born. But a supernova actually is the death of a star. So I kind of scratched my head when I looked at what they showed me, which was the birth of a star. I had seen this magical adventure of a star in a supernova with my son at a planetarium. And that’s what they showed me.
But then the star was dead. So I got confused. And reading the Akashic Records is sometimes like putting puzzle pieces together. So the puzzle piece that I put together wasn’t that the star had died. But I believe that there was some sort of consciousness that when the whole universe was born, that conscious beings like souls were born in that moment. And that we can come to life and repeat that life cycle. And I’m not sure it’s always here on this earth, but I don’t want to go too deep because that could really get into a spiritual geek out moment. But today is more about you and connecting you with your intuition.
So going back to the stages of intuition and how to connect with them, the first thing I want to introduce you to is the 10 step process that I’ve tweaked and adjusted my personal timeline of intuition. And then I’m going to go back in time and show you the progression, excuse me. So that maybe you too can see yourself growing your own personal intuition.
The first step. And as we go on through the podcast, I’m going to use more and more stories and examples of each of these 10 stages. But today, I just want to kind of get you started. And then come back and we’ll continue the journey of how to connect.
The first is trust, believe, and ask for guidance. I remember, I guess I was about 36 years old. And I was introduced to angels and guides. So the very first thing that they said is, “Your guides are waiting for you to ask. Their sole purpose,” no pun intended, “Is to help you to receive guidance.”
When I’ve been in the records, sometimes I see this room. And when I’m doing a reading, which means connecting or plugging, and doing a Google search for your soul. And simply I’m the voice of Siri. So when you get an Akashic record reading, you’ll say, “Hey, this is a question about my business. And it really is helpful for a lot of decision making. And should I go left or go right with this part of my business?”
So when I go into that space of the Akashic Records, I’ve seen a room that has no ceiling or no floor, no walls. It has a really warm white, bright light. And this is of course in my mind’s eye. And what I see when I’m there are packages, white packages with red ribbon. And when I’ve gone over out of curiosity in my mind’s eye to look at these packages. At first, I was in my own records. And all the name tags had my name on it. And I’ve also seen this for other people.
And what that means is there’s gifts for the asking. So they’re right there for us to open. And in this room was layers and layers of boxes, and boxes, and boxes as high and as broad as your mind go of these gifts. So what my guides were showing us, showing me that I’m sharing with you today is that you too have this room of endless gifts. And the only key that you really need is to ask. So the number one process is to ask. And I’m about to teach you how to ask, to start connecting with your own inner guidance system.
I highly recommend that you spend at least 10 minutes of every day if you’re not already. Just start kind of going inward, connecting with the inside of you. So start your day off with that, just taking a little breath and spending 10 minutes just closing your eyes and breathing in, and enjoying 10 minutes of time to do nothing.
Don’t create your grocery list in this moment. I invite you rather to go into your inner self. And one time a yoga teacher said, “Just go up and imagine what the inside of your eyebrow would look like.” And once she said that, it was a way that I could get grounded and centered.
So what I did is I pretended like, I still do this. I pretend like I sit in the bigger part of my eyebrow closest to my nose. And that just relaxes me, because it turns off my thoughts.
I’ve created a little sling inside my eyebrows. So it’s like my cozy corner that I can plop myself in this little hammock behind my eyebrow, and just listen to ocean waves. And that’s how I start connecting with myself.
So the next thing, and if you’re thinking she’s a fruitcake, I’m really not. And I really inviting you to get a deeper connection with yourself. Because playing with this internal guidance is, getting playful is really bringing your inner child back into awareness of who you are and your life purpose.
So the first thing is that 10 minutes of grounding exercise. And then start, there’s a couple ways to do grounding. There’s a root technique where you could just pretend like roots are falling from where you’re sitting and from your fingers, and just connecting deeply into the earth. You can do that.
I also have invited people to step into a bubble. You know when you were a little kid and used to blow bubbles in the backyard. I invite you to just step into one of those bubbles. And it’s a lot more sturdy and protected. And pretend like white light is all around you and you’re completely protected. So those are some things that I invite you to do regarding a grounding exercise.
The next thing that you do is you write a little intention, or some people will call it a prayer. Each time, the same intention that you want to utilize, because that has a vibrational sound that connects you to your guides. And for me, this connects me to the Akashic Records so that I have access to those guides. And then save this little prayer. Make sure it’s small, because you’re going to say it three times. and close your eyes and breathe in. The next thing is you’re going to create a closing prayer or a closing intention. “Thank you so much for your wisdom and guidance.” And you’re going to say that three times.
The next part of the process is, this is super important, is to pick a time that you’re committed to and allow at least 20 minutes of interrupted time. And for those of you that are mothers with little children, it’s really great to draw a bath. And if you like your oils, put some really special oils. I recommend frankincense or patchouli. I’m not an oils expert, but those two really helped me to connect. And I also like a doTERRA product called Serenity. That really helps me.
So if you don’t have any other place to do it, go in your bathtub. And make a nice warm bath and take your notebook. And just ask some questions that are laying on your heart and go for it. Water is an incredible conductor of energy, as well as cars and airplanes.
Some days when I have clients, I’ll take my computer out to the pool, and I’ll do their readings from the pool. And I think they’re some of the most fascinating readings that I give because it’s like I almost have an extra energy conduit.
The other reason it’s important to let your guides know about when you’re going to speak to them is because what I’ve found. And when I first started doing this on my timeline, I was 36 years old when I first started talking to my angels and guides. So that’s quite a few years ago, almost over 25 years ago. Is I start reading this little book. And it was said we can connect with our angels and guides easily. I didn’t get to the part of the book that said you have to let your angels and guides know what time you’re going to come visit them. Because remember all those gifts in that white room with the white packages, with the red bow, with your name tags? They seriously want to give those gifts to you. They’re like Santa Claus in an uber suit, right? So they really want to come and give these gifts to you.
And I don’t mean gifts like the fur and the mink and the [inaudible 00:21:01]. All the things. The Ferrari, the cars, all the beautiful things out in the world. If that’s what you want, you can ask for that.
But they’re talking about your spiritual guidance system, your purpose. Or what needs to happen next in your life, or where you need to grow. So it’s super important to give them a time because they’re not human.
So for about two weeks, I hadn’t picked up the book to read because I had a really hectic life. But I wasn’t sleeping well because I wasn’t allowing time to connect with my guides. So 3:30 in the morning was their special time. And still sometimes is if I’m not paying attention or I need extra guidance and wisdom. Or if I haven’t connected with my own records for awhile. And I do that sometimes. Excuse me.
So let them know when you’re going to connect with them so that they know that they can communicate with you, and that you’ll have a nice evening sleep. Because I wasn’t doing that for two weeks. So that was an important lesson.
Establish a small ritual. For me in the beginning, it was to light a candle, to put some oils in my diffuser, and to get out my special book and a special pen that I only use for writing in my journal. Because I keep it special. And it’s part of my ritual.
The next thing is I want you to say the prayer that you created or the intention three times, and then ask a question. Here’s some questions that you could write. And I always like to write my question in the journal. Intuitively how I started is I wrote everything, and this was a question that I would use. What am I here to learn today? And then I’d go back into that quiet little space, that little space behind my eyebrow. And I’d crawl into my little hammock, and I would wait for the information. And then I’d start using my pen to paper and just not judge it, but whatever they were saying, that’s what came across my pen. I didn’t think, “Oh my goodness, is this real? Isn’t this real? Wow, this is crazy.” You just go with it. And just whatever you’re hearing, write down.
I invite you not to read it for a week. So do it for seven consecutive days for about 20 minutes. And date each and every day, but don’t read it. Because here’s what you’re looking for. You’re looking for a voice that’s different than yours in your messages.
For instance. When I looked at my writing, I’m not particularly the greatest speller in the world. However, the word color would often be spelled C-O-L-O-U-R. Sometimes I would spell things in more old British format. Or there was a very strict voice, or there was a very formal voice. And that’s not my voice particularly.
So if you’re with a friend and your friend says, “I was just with Kate, and Kate said this, and it was super hilarious. I’m like, ‘Oh my God, that sounds just like Kate.'” That’s the voice that you’re looking for is a voice that’s unlike yours in the messages that you’ve written. That’s why I don’t want you to look at them for about a week, because you won’t be as attached to the words and it’s going to be like, “That’s interesting. I really wouldn’t have thought about that, that way.”
It’s also the voice that you hear when you’re pulling out of your driveway that says, “Go turn your coffee maker off.” It’s like I wasn’t thinking about my coffee maker and maybe I should go check and see if it’s off. So I invite you to start looking for the voice that you hear in the messages.
For business, I invite you to ask questions like what is the true intention of my soul’s purpose today? For business, be specific. And you can get answers of yeses and answers of nos. I invite you to ask them for your yes to be in threes. Yes, yes, yes. So when you’re using your pen, if you’re feeling okay there’s a. Yes, yes, yes. Or say no once. So there’s different ways that I teach people when I’m teaching them a program called quantum connection, how to go even deeper. But we’re staying with some basics today so that you can get a cadence and a rhythm starting to happen in your own life.
The next thing is please, please practice this daily. Especially in the beginning, it’s almost vital for the first 30 days to uninterrupted. This isn’t a perfect routine. And if you can’t always light your candle and do your little ritual and maybe your bath or your incense, or your oils, excuse me. But I really, really want you to start exercising your muscle of intuition.
A few things that I discourage you to do. You’re going to love this one everybody. No coffee. Caffeine doesn’t do the highest and best. Not necessarily for your body. I don’t want to get into that. But the vibration of coffee and what it does to your system can kind of throw off your readings. So maybe do the detox before you start connecting with your records.
The other thing is sugar. Sugar is a bit of a challenge. I remember we have this little chocolate factory around here in Lititz called Wilbur Chocolate. And they’re these little buds, and I absolutely adore them. And one day I was jumping on a couple and then I was doing readings and I thought, “What is going on?” I was doing fine with the readings, but I felt like it was more of a chore to get that access. Because remember, connecting to the Akashic Records is like a Google search for your soul. And I’m simply the voice of Siri. And how many times have you ever said, “Siri,” and asked a question. And it said, “Yeah, I don’t know that.” Zero. I mean if you don’t ask the question properly, sometimes you get an odd response. But anytime you ask, you are going to get a response and the records. But I was feeling off with the sugar thing. So I realized that sugar doesn’t help me connect to the energy as quickly, or it doesn’t feel good in my body.
The next thing is don’t drink any alcohol 24 hours before you go into your records. So now I’ve had you give up coffee, so you can’t drink coffee and you can’t drink wine. And no chocolate. So maybe connecting with your Akashic Records isn’t going to be your thing.
But I promise you, if you do this on a regular basis, I believe that you’re going to be able to connect. Because going back full circle to what I talked about with intuition is it’s your first voice. That child that starts speaking is the same soul of the child that you held that had no voice. You get a rhythm and a cadence. How many times have you seen a mother kind of pop out of her seat and say, “I think Sally needs more”? And you think, “I kind of looking at Sally and I didn’t notice any signs.” But a mother uses her intuition as well as a father to connect with the needs of their child. So again, if you’ve been a parent or just being a person, you have a voice.
I remember somebody once said, and I can’t remember the full story, but it was about you were a good, I think it was at a Tony Robbins event. And there was, I think I was going through life mastery. And there was somebody talking about your voice. There was something about a voice teacher. And they were doing physical adjustments on people and they’d sing something like [inaudible 00:30:32]. I can’t do that very well. But they were doing that. But he would hit different, I don’t know if it was chakras, and he’d just do some little manipulation. And then they’d redo the voice and the sound and it would be perfect pitch. And it was perplexing to me.
But that’s the same thing with intuition. It is your voice and you’ve always had it, but somehow somebody along the way told you either not to do it, or something happened that kind of shut your intuition off.
So what we are doing together in this moment is learning how to turn your voice back on. That little adjustment so that you’re back in perfect pitch with who you are and with the inner voice, so that you can align even more with your business.
I think what I’m going to do is close this episode off, and then I’m going to start the next episode of going into my timeline, my personal timeline of how intuition developed for me. So that you can see some patterns in your own life about where intuition might be going for you. But before I do that, I want to share the one story of when I believe my intuition turned off.
I remember, I was an only child. I was adopted as you know from my first episode. If you haven’t heard it and you want to go backwards, it’s I think a really powerful story about how my intuition got started and why I now want to teach everybody that’s willing to listen about how to use their voice or their inner voice to grow their business, to grow their life, and to step into their purpose.
So being an only child, my parents were super protective. They waited 10 years to get me. So I think that if they could have put bumper pads all over every wall and carried me around in a glass bubble, they would have. That’s how committed they were to loving and protecting me.
So I would go to my grandparents’ house, or my cousin Janie’s, or my cousin Jill’s, or my girlfriend Kelly. But as I was little, I was super protected and just mostly hung around my family. My mother was such a beautiful cleaner. But she was always cleaning. So I had a lot of time to myself as a child.
So when I look back, I believe that that’s a time I truly played with my angels and my guides. And angels and guides, how they’re different. I just, what I feel is you’re born and you have at least one guide that stays with you all the time. I also believe that they come and they help to get you. And sometimes family members come along for the ride. And then there’s angels. There’s all the angels that are around us that have wisdom and knowledge to share that can come into our lives.
And then the Akashic Records is kind of like your soul’s book. The record of the intuition that you’re going to keep right now of picking your own book. Maybe a really special book. That’s inspiring. That’s a new, fresh notebook. When you’re going to keep your own journal moving forward for the next 30 days.
So back to my childhood, and being an only child, and being very protective. Also, my parents were incredible parents, so please don’t hear anything except they really were the best. But I was raised in the ’60’s. And parents still had the belief that there was manners and politeness, and you didn’t interrupt when an adult was speaking. The caveat I added into my daughter’s generation, unless you’re bleeding or something’s wrong, but we didn’t even get that. It was just you don’t interrupt period. So when I’d go to a function, I was very well behaved. I was a pleaser. I wanted to please my parents.
So my mom took me to a baby shower, and I was probably about four years old. I always had a dress on and patent leather shoes with little lace stockings and little lace hose. And she kept me meticulous because remember, she liked to clean. And they were super proud of me because they waited 10 years for this little baby. So I was not given to anybody to be babysat, except my grandmother who I called Bambi. Our family called her Bambi and [inaudible 00:35:51] John, which in Slavic language means endearingly old man. So he was basically a step grandfather because my grandfather had died when we were all young, but we only knew [inaudible 00:36:06] John and Bambi. So that’s the only place I was left. Otherwise I was coming along with my parents never to be left alone, which is so sweet and so precious.
So I go to this baby shower and it was in the basement. I lived in a small hometown of Midland and Industry, Pennsylvania, where a lot of steelworkers worked. So everything was very humble, but very warm and everything felt like a family atmosphere. Everybody knew everybody’s brother, mother, sister, uncle, cousin, for aeons and generations. So you could never be bad anywhere because somebody was going to tell on you for sure, by the time you got home. It was better than cell phones.
And I go to the shower, the baby shower. And I don’t know, I go down the steps to the basement. And there was a church called presentation, and they had old wooden folding chairs. So they had them sitting all around this basement, neat and nice and everything decorated.
And I crawled up the chair. I can still remember my feet didn’t touch the floor. So I was sitting on this wooden chair and I remember my legs started hurting because my feet of course were dangling with my little black patent leather shoes, with little white ruffled socks. And I think I wanted to distract my mind. And of course you can’t be, can’t talk. Can’t interrupt. There was all these adult conversations.
So I said to my mom, finally, “Where’s the baby.” And my mom pointed to the lady who was unwrapping all these packages that I still to this day don’t know who it was. My mom actually knew the mother. And she said, “Inside that lady’s belly.” It was game on for me. I was like, that’s so cool. I could remember even as a child thinking that.
So I decided to play with the baby because that sounded pretty cool to me. And I had no restrictions with my energy field back then. Now I want to share with you, this took me almost probably 18 years of meditation and memory to get back to this four year old little girl in this moment. Because I was like, when did I use to use my intuition? Which was a question I kind of asked you in your internal unconscious mind is when did you use intuition? And I invite you in this moment to remember that time. That specific time when you knew that you, you connected in using your intuition all the time. Take a deep breath in. And as you remember that time, drop into your body and feel what you were feeling. Who was around you. Who was talking to you? What did it feel like? And totally connect with those feelings of intuition in the moment. And if you have a pen and paper, maybe write that moment down.
So my moment was playing with this baby. Now you might say, “How are you playing with that baby?” I don’t know. I just connected with the baby’s energy field. And I remember her telling me she was a little girl. I was so excited because remember, I felt kind of alone and I knew I was super protected. So thinking I could play with that baby was super fun for me.
And I still remember this little girl in my mind’s eye. She was very kind and very gentle. And in that moment, she and I were playing. And that’s what kept me, I think happy that day. The little wooden marks in my legs, weren’t hurting as bad focusing on this little baby.
So the whole shower was over and people were packing up. Excuse me, I slid off the chair and rubbed the back of my legs. And I went over to the lady and I said, “Can I touch your belly?” And she said yes. I said, “I’m so excited for your little baby girl to come, because I want to play with her.”
And I remember she gave me a bit of what I call the hairy eyeball moment. So if you can imagine what that will look like, it’s like [inaudible 00:40:51] or the Scooby-Doo moment. And that didn’t bother me because I was touching the energy of her belly and the baby. And I was super excited to have that moment and that connection. So moving forward then I also told her, “Your little baby girl is coming tonight, so I can play with her tomorrow.”
And that was the end of that. Another hairy eyeball and I boop, boop, boop, went right back up the steps, very proud that I was going to have a new person in my life, a new friend. That’s how I thought.
So I went home and the next day started, and I was allowed to play with my Barbies. I had Barbie. I don’t know if I had Ken right then. But I know Barbie had all these wigs, and I was sitting in the living room, and I was meticulous about the outfits that I would put on her. Some were handmade. And I loved, and I still, don’t tell anybody. I still have that original Barbie set because it was some of the most joyous moments in my life.
So the phone rings while I’m playing with my Barbies. And our living room was very 1952, was built in 1952. So there was a pane glass window right in front of the house. And then it was a pretty nice size living room, and then a small kitchen off from the living room. So if you looked in the archway, there was the kitchen and right directly in the archway was a pink telephone, the rotary type. And it had a very long, long, long pink cord.
So the phone rang and my mom answered the phone and she said, “Hello?” And she said, “Oh my gosh, congratulations. Already, wow. You just got that baby shower. And right underneath the belt. Oh yeah, it was awesome. She did get a lot of great gifts.” “What? Candy said what?” And I remember my mom turned around and looked at me with that hairy eyeball, but it was my mom’s hairy eyeball. And I remember thinking, “I know what she’s talking about.” Because she had also said, “A baby girl, congratulations.” And she looked at me and I thought, “I’m not doing that again.” I knew I had said something wrong because my mom didn’t look right in the face. Because remember, I was just learning my language too. And I knew I wanted to please my mom, and that didn’t please her. So that’s the day that I stopped sharing my intuitive self.
I do remember another day when I was about six years old. And I remember everything about this day because I dreamt it the night before. I don’t claim to be claire visionary. I don’t see in the future typically, but I must have when I was younger. And I can remember my mom and dad were going out to see The Godfather, the first original Godfather. So I’ll have to look up the year and see if I was about six.
And I still remember the night gown she packed. It was my favorite. It was like a baby doll pajamas with big pink florals and a background of beige. And it was super soft and I loved that. I remember she packed that. And I remember my Aunt Carol picked me up to take me to bingo because I think I was going to see my cousin, Susie, who was a baby. Because I was about six. So she had to be one. Which oh my gosh, to this day I still love my cousin Susie. She’s one of my sisters. I have a sister and then I have my cousin Susie.
And that time, I saw the whole day in advance. And I remember, I didn’t know what I was going to do that day, but I saw it in advance. And I do remember that moment. And I haven’t redeveloped that where I could see into the future. But it will be interesting now that it’s in my awareness, what will happen next, right?
So I just kind of want to conclude is I’d be interested to hear from you if you remember that time, that specific time where you too connected in this moment maybe back to a time when you were actively using your intuition every day as part of your life. And I’d like to help you moving forward, to bring it into where your soul’s purpose is. And bring you into alignment, back connected with your intuitive self.
So I think I’m going to put a period at the end of this podcast episode. And the next episode, I’m going to talk about the timeline of intuition. So now you have your starting point. And I’m going to invite you to make a timeline from zero to 100 and start looking backwards in time of where your intuitive self was active.
And I know I’m going to hear this, and I’m hearing it and feeling it now. “I’m not intuitive. There was never a time.” Everybody I’ve met so far in my life has pulled me aside because I’ve put myself out there as being intuitive. And said, “Here’s a story that I have about my life, and about something that still doesn’t make sense to me.” Which kind of wraps up where we started with intuition. The ability to understand something immediately without knowing or without the conscious reasoning behind it.
And I’m going to move forward also and talk in future podcasts about how to use this more specifically in business. Because what we’re really talking about is the energy field of view. And if you get deeper connected with your internal guidance system, your highest and best self is going to come out into this world. And you’re going to deliver at a higher and easier level, with more ease and joy.
What I do every day is so joyful and fun. Sometimes I’m holding space for really serious, serious situations. And it still brings my joy to fullness and completion in my heart, because I know I’m serving people at my highest and best.
So I can’t wait to begin developing a relationship with you. I’d love to connect, and I invite you to join me as we enter this journey of your intuitive self, and the intuitive business and how that brings so much ease and joy into your life. Thank you for listening. And I will talk to you soon.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to the Intuitive Business podcast.
Hey, welcome back. This is Candy. And I want to tell you a little bit about my intention for this episode. If you’re a business owner, and something’s happening in your business that you feel like you’re forcing things, I want to talk a little bit about my own journey of forcing things way beyond a healthy measure.
I had worked at a university for 33 years. And I absolutely loved working with students. The administration side was a lot more interesting, and I was having a bit of a struggle. After my 33 year career, something didn’t feel right. I had a new boss that didn’t feel right. I had a new mission at the university, and it just wasn’t working for me. And I started to get confused. And then I felt stuck. And then I start getting sick.
I had a series of just silly little things and a lot of tests, and I did end up with a surgery, though it was a fairly minor surgery. I stayed away from the university for the allotted time, but I felt like there was a decision to make. I felt it in my soul. My intuitive self and my spirits and guides were saying, Candy, you need to step in to use your intuition. But I didn’t know how. I didn’t know if it was going to be with business. I thought it was going to be with relationships. But I didn’t know quite what to do. So guess what I did? I stayed, and I stayed.
So I came back to work on August 25th, and on August 26th, I was diagnosed with cancer. It was thyroid cancer, and they tell you it’s the best. So I was grateful that I had the best type of cancer, but I needed surgery. The university was very frustrated with me because I had had a series of illnesses and a surgery, but I thought, I’ve been here 33 years, and I never took off just randomly or needlessly. But because of the pressure, guess what I did? I stayed working with cancer inside my body. And I did that until January. And then I knew I needed to get serious.
I, of course, made the decision to find the best surgeon I could, and I had my thyroid out. I told them I’d be back in two weeks. What I didn’t foresee, and what no doctor told me, is that when you have your thyroid out, it’s pretty much like taking away in your car, it’s like taking your wheel and your brake and your engine and saying, let’s go for a ride. I was really struggling with my memory. I couldn’t walk because my thyroid levels were at a level 32, which means my legs couldn’t really sustain my body. I was severely depressed because that’s what happens when you’re at those levels. And in those moments, when depression would come, it would come in, I could actually feel it like starting to come into me, almost like it was entering me. And I told depression, I said, guess what? You’re not going to own me. I know you’re there.
So I had to make a decision about what to do next. I felt like with the way things were going at the university that it would be risky to go back with this new brain that wasn’t working so well. I had tons of responsibilities, and things moved really quickly at work. I wasn’t sure I could do that anymore.
Towards the end of that year, I’d been off almost a year, I got a phone call from our benefits manager, and she said, things are going to be changing with medical insurances next year. And I just wanted to let you know, because I know you’re out until March. I had 24 hours to make a decision to retire from a 33 year career. I always imagined I would retire at 54 years old, and it would be a joyous day. And I’d sit down with a big smile on my face and type up that letter and walk it into the office.
But instead I was 54 years old that year, and I was sitting at my computer crying. I didn’t know what I was going to do for money if I retired. I was kind of young to tap into my retirement. I was single, and I was sick, and I was scared.
I decided to write the letter. And instead of joyfully walking in, I barely could get out of my car, and I delivered the letter. I was now unemployed, but I was thankful to have my medical benefits for the rest of my life. I figured I would figure the rest out. I’d gained an additional 35 pounds on a body that really couldn’t sustain anymore. I remember literally sitting on the couch with my son’s Xbox attached to the TV. I couldn’t even watch TV. I looked at my phone, and I saw Facebook. And there was a person that I went to college with many, many years ago. And she said, I’m back in a size seven, and it’s not a huge diet. And if you want to know how to get more healthy, message me. And I did.
What she told me is she was a lawyer. I didn’t even know that. And she said, look, I’m super busy today. And I want to connect with you, but go to Netflix and watch an episode as Sick, Fat and Nearly Dead. I sat there holding a phone for over two hours, and I realized something had to change. I could not sit on a couch for the rest of my life.
I decided to do a really, I think it was a 90 day juice, and I lost 40 pounds during that time. All that I ate was juice. But with every drop of that juice, I said to myself, I’m getting healthy. And you know what? I felt healthy. The medicine started absorbing into my body, the new thyroid medicine. And I was starting to feel alive again. My mind was clearing up, and I start talking to my guides on a daily basis.
I read the Akashic records. And so I’d open the records, and I’d say, what lessons to have to teach me today? They said, start sharing your gifts. So one by one, people started to come to me. And pretty soon, I realized I had a business. And I had a voice that needed to come into this world.
Where do you feel in your life that something is misaligned. You keep pushing and pushing, thinking you need to hold on to something that, really and truly, is no longer serving you. When I force things in my life, they usually don’t turn out well. In business, when you force things, things do not turn out very well.
There’s this element inside of us, especially as a high performing business entrepreneur, where you need to check in on where you are in life, because that is your business. Letting go of what’s no longer serving you and your business, just like the plane that’s going by right now, it’s just dropping off, dropping out of the plane if that’s what you got to do to let go, then do it. Please don’t push or shove your business because it causes misalignment.
The fullness and the richness of your business will come to you once you search what is right for you and what mission that you need to deliver to this world. Just listen, listen in your heart. If you, right now, are in a safe place, I want you to close your eyes for a moment. I want you to feel the voice of your business because your business has a voice and a message to give you. So much of our day as business entrepreneurs is spent in our heads. When the truest of your mission was born in your heart. Close your eyes and breathe in deeply. Feel what your heart is saying. Should you be where you are right now? Or is there something else? In this moment, if you’re feeling a bit of fear, that’s excellent. Push into that fear. What else is your business saying?
Once you step up to the fear that you’re feeling, it might be money, what am I going to do for money? I’m unhealthy. How can I afford to live? If I let go of this business, where will I be? Don’t go there. Stay with your heart, not your head. That’s right.
So today, I’m going to leave you with this moment. I want you to start journaling about what you’re hearing in your heart. Make sure you put the date and the time on each journal entry, because you’re soon going to see that your inner wisdom, your inner GPS, is talking to you all the time. That’s where the real juice of your businesses it at. Go to a place like Target or Marshall’s and look around for a journal that speaks to you. It might be the color or the feeling or the words that’ll lead you to the next level of you.
Thank you for joining me on this episode. And I’m excited to take you on more journeys with more episodes. Sending you light and love.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within, and that you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to Candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.
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Are you ready to tap in to your power within so that your business can reach its truest potential? Hi, I’m Candice Hozza, and I help business entrepreneurs access their inner GPS so that their business can grow and thrive. You are here to serve and to create an impact in this world. Welcome to The Intuitive Business Podcast.
Hi, I’m here in San Diego and it is so beautiful. I just got done taking a walk on the beach and I realized how magnificent this area is and how big and beautiful the ocean is. And as I was watching the waves coming up onto the shore, I realized how peaceful it is. But a couple of weeks ago I was in Maui and I tested out the waves and I got quite knocked around. And so I learned to gain a lot of respect for the ocean. I want to take you on a little journey today into my life and into my personal life.
Today’s a really big day for me because I’m speaking my truth. For many years, I realized that I had this gift of intuition, but I wasn’t quite sure how to tap into it. I admired it and I studied it and I loved it, but I didn’t want to admit that I had the ability like maybe you have. So today I’m stepping up and I’m stepping into a new journey with this podcast so that I can share my truth and be truthful and who I am at a soul level.
Today I want to take you down a journey or up a journey to a story that I hold near and dear to my heart. It’s a story that happened 25 years ago. And I’ve held this moment, this very moment, just to share it with you. For many years, I had this story inside me. I didn’t feel connected with myself. I knew I was loved in life. I had a successful life, but something felt really broken inside. I didn’t feel accepted. And honestly, I didn’t feel loved.
So I decided to get some help because I knew in my heart that there was more for me out there, but I was stuck. I was stuck in this lack of truth inside of me, and I didn’t know how to heal it. So I made a decision to connect an intuitive. My story starts on July 17th, 1992. My first intuitive reading was that day. I was 33 years old and I desperately wanted to have a baby. And I couldn’t figure out how to make that happen. And I had been trying for three years and it didn’t come.
So I decided that I would ask this woman who I knew was really great. My husband wasn’t particularly happy about the journey and adventure because he’s like, Ugh, intuition, right? But I still did it. And it changed my life. And that is why I chose to share this journey with you. Because if you’re thinking about connecting with your intuitive self, then it is right for you. Please remember there are no coincidences in life. And the story I’m about to share is not coincidental that you’re listening to it. There might be something inside of you that also needs to heal. And so the story begins.
I was born in an orphanage in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. I didn’t know it was an orphanage until this intuitive came into my world. I lived there in the orphanage for three months. I was placed for adoption and it was a closed adoption, which means the likelihood of a parent and child reconnecting is very unlikely. After almost an hour of this reading that I had, I had a few more moments and I threw my final question in that I really wasn’t committed to at the time. It wasn’t a priority. And my fifth question was, why was I adopted? I actually had never even spoken those words in my entire 33 years.
I could hear the intuitive’s voice change a bit. She immediately said, “Candice, this is one of the most challenging readings I’ve ever had.” She quite caught my attention. She said, “I feel that you’ve come to accept your adoption, but your birth mother has been wanting to meet you her entire life.” My mother had given up her only child, she told me. She had lived a life without a child and had given up her only child. And she said that that was the hardest thing that she had to live with. I immediately started to cry because I was thinking about my little girl at home. She had blonde hair and curls and blue eyes, and she was the most beautiful little thing. And the six years that we had in our life at that moment was just really special to me. This so touched my heart.
She said my father was not negated in this process. And I thought, I never even thought about the fact I had a biological father. She said if I chose to search that, I would find both my mother and my father. I knew that this couldn’t be true because it was a closed adoption. I put the phone down and I immediately called my husband. I was crying. And he said, which was a little bit unlike him. He said, “I’ll be right there. I’ll be right home.” Because I knew he wasn’t particularly happy with me about having this intuitive reading.
The minute he walked in the door, he sat me down and he said, “I’ve had a secret for five years. And today’s the day I’m going to share with you the secret.” He said, “When your father passed away five years ago, I went to the bank vault to get the birth certificate with your mother. And she handed me an envelope that said adoption information.” I said to your mom, “Betty, this isn’t the day to open this can of worms. I think we should put this back in the safe, give it two months and think about it.”
The challenge for him was I was his wife and he was holding a secret. So how he chose to deal with the secret was on my birthday, February 5th, every single year, he’d say, “Did you ever want to find your birth mother?” And I would respond the same way each and every time. I said, “You know what, Tim, she gave me life. And now I give her hers.” And with that, I felt a sense of completion. Until this day when I realized that this woman truly wanted to meet me. And I felt because she gave me life that I wanted to help her to heal. The challenge in that moment was I knew that this was the mother that raised me’s biggest fear. So I picked up the phone and I told her the same story that you’re hearing right now today.
She paused and she said, “You know, Candy, I think I’d like to wait to give you that paperwork. Maybe you can have it after I pass.” And I said, “Okay, mom.” Because when I picked up that phone, I knew that I never, ever wanted to hurt this beautiful woman. And so I made a decision in that moment not to hurt her and not to explore it with her, but I did indeed go back and do some research. That’s when I found out that Roselia was a hospital, it was not a hospital, but was a home for unwed mothers. That’s the first time of my life I knew this.
So I called a place that actually stored the records. I talked to a woman named Sister Esther Marie. And she said if I send a certified letter notarized that she could send me some nondescript type of information. She says, “I want to warn you though, there’s not a lot of people that have too much information. This was a very hard time for the people that came here.” I said, “Thank you.” And I set an intention to meet my birth mother by my birthday, which was a few months away. In the meantime, my father-in-law got really sick in June.
In August, I found out I was pregnant. Right after the intuitive reading I was pregnant. I was so excited. This has been a baby that I wanted for so long. I ended up losing that baby and then my father-in law-passed around Thanksgiving. So my goal to meet my birth mother was kind of put aside. There was a lot of things going on in my life, but there was something inside of me that said, you need to do this now. So I didn’t say anything to my mom, but in a couple days later, she called me and she said, “Candy, I’ve been watching Oprah,” that’s what she called Oprah “and Maury Povich,” Maury Povich. And she said, “There’s all these adoption reunions. And I want that for you.” It’s funny she didn’t even say about my birth mother, but she wanted it for me. She immediately went to the bank and she retrieved the information.
In the meantime, I start scratching my head wondering where is that piece of paper that I had sent to Sister Esther Marie? I realized I never received it. I called her. And she said, “Honey, I sent that months ago.” When I said something to my husband, he thinks he may have thrown it out. And it’s okay because it was not meant to be. What ended up happening became miraculous. Sister sent me the paperwork and my mother’s name was Jerry. I will never, as long as I live, forget reading that beautiful letter. I had a mother.
I’m in the San Diego right now and I looked at the trees and there’s oranges growing on them. And I realized I never really knew where I came from. As a kid, oranges are in a grocery store. They’re not on a tree. And that’s kind of how I felt. I didn’t feel like I had that initial connection with where I came from. My uncles, I had uncles. One was Richard and he was 21 at the time of my birth. And I had an uncle named Robert and he was 15. I had uncles. My grandparents were Anthony and Mary. So when my mom gave me that envelope, I had several names. And in that envelope was my name, Dorothy Marie Ronchka. Thank the dear Lord I wasn’t a Miller.
My husband and my mother said, “What are you going to do?” And I said, “I don’t know.” But after my mom hung up, I picked up the phone and I called information. They gave me two phone numbers. I called one and the gentleman’s name was Scott, but a woman answered the phone and she was so pleasant. And I said, “Hi, I’m a friend of Jerry’s. And I’m just wondering if she’s around.” And she said, “Oh.” And I said, ‘Well, her mother and father are Anthony and Mary.” And she said, “You know what? I’m going to have a family member call you back.” She never said that there was a Jerry or a Mary or an Anthony.
I put the phone down and I looked across at my husband. And he said, “You better think about what the heck you’re going to say when somebody calls you back.” My hand was still on the counter. And my hand was also on the phone. And as he said this, the phone started to rang. I hear the sweetest voice saying, “Hi, I’m Jerry [Sevilhusky 00:14:38], is the Candy there?” I thought my heart stopped permanently. But words came out and I said, “You’re my mother.” She started to cry. And she said, “I just want to tell you, I love you. I always have. And I always will. And I’ve waited my entire life to tell you that.”
We talked for endless hours. She asked softly and politely, if she could meet me, and I said, “Well, of course.” That was a Tuesday. On Friday, I picked her up at an airport. I bought her yellow roses and she said she’d be carrying a Barney for Carly, my daughter. In one day she said, “I’ve become a mother and a grandmother.” Back when I picked her up at the airport, I was able to go right to the door of the plane. And I stood there so anxiously waiting. My girlfriend was with me and she was recording the whole thing. When I looked back at that moment, my mother cradled my head and I touched her womb. I knew where my oranges came from now. In that moment, I started to feel like I was healing inside.
That whole weekend we played together. We listened to music from the time when she grew up The Big Chill. We had gin and tonics. We went to Victoria’s Secret. And I don’t know why, but we bought really cute, sexy lingerie. I painted her nails red and the final day she got snowed in. She said she in her entire life had never been snowed in. On that day she was. So we had an extra day.
When I was at the airport, she and I sat there and we were watching the planes land and take off. And I looked at her, she was 51 years old. Her mother was in her 90s. Her father had just passed. And she said, “Candy, today I was still supposed to be in Pittsburgh with my family. And I want to tell you that on my father’s death bed, he looked at me and he said, ‘Jerry, I’m so sorry. I didn’t fight for you to keep that baby. I know how much you love children and that that’s something you always wanted.'” He felt he denied her that was some of the decisions he had made. And I don’t know if my grandfather came and gave her the gift of the two of us meeting, but somehow I’d like to believe that.
So as we sat at this airport, watching the planes come in and out, I looked at her and I said, “What’s next?” We were holding hands. And I said, “Tell me about your health.” Because she had had a kidney and pancreas transplant. I said, “I don’t know anybody that had that. And I hate to ask you, but like, what’s the prognosis, because I just found you.” I remember now that there was never an answer to that question, but I was okay with that. We were holding hands and we were together. I put her on the plane and I sat there for endless hours because as I watched that plane take off, I sat there and watched until nothing was left of that plane. I had just met my birth mother. I went home and I was ecstatic that whole week. We continued to talk. And my mother said she was so grateful.
The following Monday, a week from the day that I took her to the airport, I got a phone call from a woman named Sybil. I knew of Sybil because my mother lived on a farm. She had soy bean crops. Sybil was an adjacent farmer who had a dairy farm. And there was a cow named Jerry and Jerry could not have a cow, a baby calf. And so in farm business, that means Jerry has to go. Jerry begged Sybil to spare the life of Jerry, the cow. The day I called my mother, Jerry had a baby calf and they named it Candy. So I was kind of excited that Sybil called me because I knew the Jerry and Candy story.
Sybil said, “Candy, are you sitting down?” And I was immediately confused and I sat down. She says, “I’m with your mother, she’s on the couch. I see that her nails are painted red. And she told me that you painted them that way.” And I said, “Yes.” And she said, “Candy, your mother’s gone. She passed away.” My mother and I knew each other 13 days. I believe in life that everything has a purpose and a meaning. I was really confused in that moment because why would God bring us together just to tear us apart? Is what I asked. But that was not the meaning of that journey. Today I realize that moment was the beginning of the new journey in my life. There were so many lessons I learned by saying yes to that intuitive moment and then taking action.
What I learned as I stepped into this new business of helping people by using my intuition to help them make decisions on getting to the next level of where their business is going is that intuition has helped me to grow as a person. I want to share more of my heart with you during this journey of adventures and stories that will help you gain a greater connection with the belief in your intuition. When we’re truly aligned on a mission in the mission of your business, it’s when we seek our truth and heal what feels broken inside.
I wanted to share this intimate story about my life so that you too can learn about your own personal connection with intuition and how it can help you to level up in your heart and your soul, and to deliver your true mission to this world. Stay tuned for more episodes of stories and connections and the same things that you can learn by connecting with your inner GPS, your intuition for your business.
Thank you for tuning into this episode. I hope that you feel more connected to your power within and you take action from the guidance here today. For more information, please head to candicehozza.com, where you will find more resources to help you and your business grow to the next level.